Chicks aren't Calling or Texting Back ? ? ?

[Todd Preston]

WTF is this BS.

I pick up women...and get their phone numbers...and i don't twist their arms for them...i ask causally with the suggestion of future Meetup...nothing serious or Strong Come on.

But nothing...no response or call back.

This chit pizzes me off...!

I think i will text this idiots and let them know how immature they are....with a final note that i will be deleting their numbers...

Anyone EVER tell a woman off after first meeting under similar circumstances?

 

[john siegal]

Yep...welcome to the Club.

Women today are so fvkin confused and STUPID that they don't know if they are coming are going.

You can text them something to the effect that they are idiots and rude for not texting back...or for not having the CLASS of common courtesy of responding.

They don't have to be immature...but many of them are.

 

[Tony T]

You're probably getting a good batch of immature Girls.

Women who lack confidence, are insecure and just generally uneducated often lack the social skills to let a guy off by telling him the truth (basically not interested romatically in you)...but will instead appease the man's agression by giving out their number.

I know you said you weren't agressive so...you're probably running into more immature women.

What age group are these women?

 

[Sue Madre]

Don't tell them off. They will laugh at you. Post exactly what you are saying to these women. I'm sure you are doing something wrong.

 

[MonkeyButt]

What are you texting them?
Perhaps your text tone is a little different than your "gimmy your number" tone.

I've not had any issue with texts being returned.
The first text after a number is something flirty.

Hey beautiful ...

If your first text flatters them a little, they're likely to respond because they want more!

The start I'm smoking, it's getting beyond date 5ish

 

[Slickster]

10 Steps for getting repeat dates and having girls go bat sh!t crazy over you.

You've met a cool chick who has caught your interest. You're having a good conversation and laughs so you wait for a natural high point before you ask for her number.

1. Get her number by asking, "Hey you seem pretty (cool, fun, whatever). Why don't you give me your number and we can talk some time?"
2. Gauge her interest level at this moment. Get the number and be gone. Don't linger.
3. Call before her interest level drops. If she was super interested wait a bit. If she's the type who might forget you in two days call the next day. Don't text at all.
4. Have your own previously made plan to do ________ ready and lined up before you call. This HAS to be something you REALLY are going to do. Not something made up just for her and your date. The more exciting and fun the better. If you don't have anything fun going on then you are either boring or need to wait a bit.
5. Don't ask her out. Tell her you are planning to do _______ and "why don't you come along?" This is an open ended question which requires a response other than just "no". Always try to ask open enders.
6. If she says "yes" take her out an show her a great time. Have great conversation, laughs and fun. Don't make ANY moves or show her you are too interested in her. Just fun, laughs, and flirting with a slight hint that you find her interesting. End the date early. Tell her it was a really great time but you gotta go. "Talk to you soon" with no mention of any future dates. Leave in a flash like you have somewhere WAY more important to be.
7. If she says "no" or makes excuses with no effort to reschedule then tell her she's missing out on a fun time and move on. You have merely asked her to join you on something fun that you'd be doing anyway. No rejection here. If she does offer another time then tell her "Maybe you'll give her a call later." Call her later and repeat #5 and #6.
8. Repeat #5 and #6 for 2 or 3 FUN dates while maintaining your "not too sure if you are interested in her" routine. Each date add more and more playful flirting and kino but no kissing or escalating beyond that.
9. When the sexual tension has peaked after a couple dates choose a natural high point to go for a kiss. Now is the time to show some passion and interest but keep your words to a minimum. Don't say anything stupid or reveal too much.
10. Presto you have a girl who is head over heels into you and won't stop calling. You actually have to avoid her so you can go on other dates. Repeat all 10 steps with as many girls as you can handle.



If you are a cool and fun guy to be around you and you have fun things going on will have no problems getting an interested girl all messed up over you. In fact using this technique more often than not you end up with a girl who wants to be your girlfriend. Use carefully!

Good luck

Slick

 

[bugsquish]

@ Slickster - hey buddy, long time no see!

I agree with everything you are saying up until point 6. Don't make any moves?? Um, wtf. You can have her in your bed that same day if you play it well. I wouldn't wait 2-3 dates for a kiss unless I was dating a virgin church girl

 

[Todd Preston]

Thanks for the input.

Perhaps i should be a little more Flirty with the Texting...(Mine might be a little dry).

But hey...i don't know these chicks from Adam.

When i meet them, i Move Fast. I chat for about 5 mins...(or less) and go for the close....usually something like "hey...why don't we get together sometime?" She gives me her number...or some excuse (in which case i say "later")

So...how do you go from a 5 min quick convo...to texting "hi sexy...you're so Hot?"

 

[MonkeyButt]

hi sexy...you're so Hot?

That one sounds a little leg humpy, nope.

I like the "Hey beautiful, have some time on ?day, lets continue where we left off".

I give them one chance. So far has worked, but my sample is still small.

Maybe calling directly is better (Slickster's advice), when you're in the car or something (gives the illusion of activity).

Too bad such strategies need be applied. Would rather txt "Hey babe, have c**k, lets rock!".
Have to try that on a ditch piggy some day

MB

 

[squirrels]

3. Call before her interest level drops. If she was super interested wait a bit. If she's the type who might forget you in two days call the next day. Don't text at all.

This is key.

If you're picking up these girls in bars or nightclubs, unless she is REALLY into you (like, she approaches you first), chances are she'll forget you as soon as she and her girlfriends move to the next bar.

You also have to account for the switch between "weekday mode" and "weekend mode". People are different Monday-Friday than they are Friday evening thru Sunday morning. If you snag her number at a bar Friday night, call her no later than Sunday. If you wait until Monday, after she gets back into "work-mode", she's going to look at that weekend (and you!!) as something "in the past" and is not going to be able to align with the fun, free vibe that she got from you before. If you meet her on a Tuesday, call her on a Thursday...by Friday she's already thinking about where she and her girlfriends are gonna be that night.

The whole idea is to think about the "vibe" that you had when you first met this girl, then choose a time to call that matches that "vibe".

I've broken the "3-day rule" and called girls the same night. Sometimes that's the best thing to do...if they're horny and ready-to-go, you want to call them THAT NIGHT. Suggest a rendezvous at an all-night place after she gets done hanging with her friends (they will c*ck-block you at the club, but afterward there's no plan).

This is better on a Friday night, for example, than waiting until Sunday or Monday. If she's "ready-to-go", she'll find some guy to f**k her by Saturday.

 

[Todd Preston]

...some good info.

NOW...what do you do if they lead you on....give their phone number but NEVER RESPOND to your text's? ? ?

What do you do ???

 

[thirdtimescharm]

...some good info.

NOW...what do you do if they lead you on....give their phone number but NEVER RESPOND to your text's? ? ?

What do you do ???

Next.

 

[MonkeyButt]

Edited: Bah, I was being cynical, original comment deleted.

 

[yuppaz]

Your conversations are too short. She may have given you her number just to get rid of you. Point is to get her all horny over you when you are with her in person, try spending more time in the interaction first, like at least 15 minutes.

 

[Slickster]

...some good info.

NOW...what do you do if they lead you on....give their phone number but NEVER RESPOND to your text's? ? ?

What do you do ???

You're not paying attention.

3. Don't text at all.

Maybe when you get to know her better. In the early stages you are either talking to her directly or not at all. Don't leave messages either.

Perhaps i should be a little more Flirty with the Texting...(Mine might be a little dry).

But hey...i don't know these chicks from Adam.

When i meet them, i Move Fast. I chat for about 5 mins...(or less) and go for the close....usually something like "hey...why don't we get together sometime?" She gives me her number...or some excuse (in which case i say "later")

So...how do you go from a 5 min quick convo...to texting "hi sexy...you're so Hot?"

Think about it. You are texting someone you don't know or have any rapport with yet. What do you expect. Building rapport and connections via text is VERY difficult. Almost impossible with someone you've just met.

It sounds like you are speeding along trying to get the number and not taking enough time to build a connection face to face.

 

[Slickster]

@ Slickster - hey buddy, long time no see!

I agree with everything you are saying up until point 6. Don't make any moves?? Um, wtf. You can have her in your bed that same day if you play it well. I wouldn't wait 2-3 dates for a kiss unless I was dating a virgin church girl

Hey Bug!

That's right no moves for 3 dates.

If she's good looking, every guy she meets tries to make moves right away. They play their cards on the table right away. She's used to it. She expects it. Of course she does, she's "special". Guys want her and chase her all the time. She's expecting you to make a move too just like every other guy.

You are different. Your first dates aren't about you getting some action. It's about you trying to figure out whether this girl even "qualifies". Your standards are higher than those other guys. You won't kiss just anyone. You won't fvck just anyone.

All this time you spend "qualifying" while you are showing her a great time and flirting creates a huge amount of sexual tension. This tension is what she wants. The fact that she's not quite sure whether you really like her or not draws her closer and makes her interest in you go thru the roof.

If you get really good at this you will have them lining up and fighting over you.

 

[bugsquish]

You are different. Your first dates aren't about you getting some action. It's about you trying to figure out whether this girl even "qualifies". Your standards are higher than those other guys. You won't kiss just anyone. You won't fvck just anyone.

I guess that's where we are different. I actually will kiss/fvck anyone, if I find them physically attractive If it's possible to take a girl home and bang her on a first date then why would you want to drag things out? Your method might be better if you are pursuing a LTR but even then I'd say no kissing on a first date is a recipe for LJBF.

Sorry, off topic! @Todd Preston don't forget this is a numbers game too. I get 1 or 2 flakes every week! Do I care? No, because the number of women out there is unlimited.

 

[Todd Preston]

Your conversations are too short. She may have given you her number just to get rid of you. Point is to get her all horny over you when you are with her in person, try spending more time in the interaction first, like at least 15 minutes.

15 mins? ? ? First of all...no chick is going to spend 15 mins with you during work hours...My Conversations are short because i play "day game."

I graduated College years ago...now i run a company and have little time to BS during the day. I don't hang at Bars...and spend much of my free time at the Beach...or Gym.

...So...when i run into a HB on the street, ...i move fast to get the number.

YESSsss...you are right. There is little repore built...but that's what the phone number is for....SETTING A future meeting.

 

[Todd Preston]

It sounds like you are speeding along trying to get the number and not taking enough time to build a connection face to face.

Wrong...(sigh)

I'm texting to TRY and get a future meeting.....HIGH SCHOOL kiDS spend time texting back and forth...i don't do that.

 

[Todd Preston]

This is key.

If you're picking up these girls in bars or nightclubs, unless she is REALLY into you (like, she approaches you first), chances are she'll forget you as soon as she and her girlfriends move to the next bar.

This is better on a Friday night, for example, than waiting until Sunday or Monday. If she's "ready-to-go", she'll find some guy to f**k her by Saturday.

Good one Squirrels...!

There must be a course on texting for best results.