Gamisch
Master Don Juan
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Great contribution.Advice from the old lady:
Open ended questions where she can reveal who she is and you can learn alot by listening. But low key open ended questions...here are some good examples:
If you have a free weekend what do you enjoy?" Follow up with "That's cool. How did you get into that?" and that leads into an interesting conversation.
Let her chat and ask follow up questions. Listen NOT for your turn to speak (nobody likes the conversationalist who always tries to 'one up' the other person), instead really listen, smile, chuckle, and engage with this female human in front of you.
Open ended questions like "How did you get into that?" and follow ups will take you far.
Added bonus: As she reveals more of herself you, in a listening stance, reveal less about yourself. This maintains some mystery and intrigue. Mystery and intrigue are hella attractive. When you combine that with taking an interest in her (listening) you are also getting her to invest in you.
Dale Carnegie had it correct decades ago when he said everyone's favorite topic is themselves. People will eat out of your hand if they feel seen and heard.
Learn this art and learn it well. It can serve you in many environments, not just dating.
Thank U ma'am.