Being A Black Conservative (Don't Try This At Home)

[DaddyLongShanks]

No, you guys are totally right.

- I have a need for external validation and praise.

- I have somewhat low self esteem

- I have a lack of internal peace

- I tend to deliberately hang out around people that I shouldn't

You guys are totally right, and I'm working to become a better man. The low self esteem just comes from an identity crisis. I mean everything I stand for in life (career, investing, being something in life) is usually against what most of my black family, friends, etc. are doing on a daily basis.

It's like I don't fit in with any "group" per say.

And I do have a need for external validation, it's like everyday I'm out trying to prove myself. My Career doesn't make this any better because we have quotas every quarter so, doesn't really matter what I did last quarter, I'm going to svck if I don't hit it again this quarter.

Plus a lot of the decisions I make on the way my car looks, the apartment I chose, etc., are really based on what I think works/gets attention from women, so yes, I look for that validation in that aspect.

I think some of it is required, while not healthy, it's required. But some of it (such as hanging around hood people) is NOT required and that needs to go.

Make a plan and start somewhere. You can still hang around "hood" people, it just cannot be too often and it shouldn't form your identity. If you had a buddy that did dominoes and cards and barbequeued a couple time s amonth, it wouldn't kill you to enjoy with them.

But down there trying to carve out an identity, hang everyday is not going to work out for you or your career.

And like I said before it's best if your ladies are of like mind, and if not they were raised to respect a man.

Start your stronger identity from somewhere, plan it and execute the plan. Worry about what you can change, it will take time.

Good pu$$y will not hurt things at all. Find a lady you don't mind in your head, where you don't have a bunch of hurdles and booby traps to hit the a$$.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

No, you guys are totally right.

- I have a need for external validation and praise.

That's fine but understand that conservatively, you'll come across twice as many people who will find fault with either how you look, act, think, do, believe, your friends, family, the car you drive, the food you eat, the air you breath... You name it. But you already know this, at least deep down.

- I have somewhat low self esteem

Guess what, the people who are ragging on you do too, but they won't admit it. Instead of doing what's necessary to boost themselves up, they choose to tear other people down to their level or lower. The funny thing is that they are so bad at doing it, they have to find others to help them gang up on you.

- I have a lack of internal peace

Stop consistently plugging in to the din of the haters. It won't completely erase the madness, but it helps to stop feeding it.

- I tend to deliberately hang out around people that I shouldn't

For whatever reason, people tend to choose the devil that they know over the devils that they don't.

You guys are totally right, and I'm working to become a better man. The low self esteem just comes from an identity crisis. I mean everything I stand for in life (career, investing, being something in life) is usually against what most of my black family, friends, etc. are doing on a daily basis.

And you are the type of person that can prove that most everything that they say is holding them back is a lie. Think about what would happen if more people like you stood up against their beliefs?

It's like I don't fit in with any "group" per say.

Seriously? Think about it. Is it really any group or is it any group that the masses say that you should belong to?

And I do have a need for external validation, it's like everyday I'm out trying to prove myself. My Career doesn't make this any better because we have quotas every quarter so, doesn't really matter what I did last quarter, I'm going to svck if I don't hit it again this quarter.

And what makes you think that you can control every variable that are in play that constitutes making quota? Is that even realistic?

Plus a lot of the decisions I make on the way my car looks, the apartment I chose, etc., are really based on what I think works/gets attention from women, so yes, I look for that validation in that aspect.

Ok, knowing that this is an issue is the first step if you choose to do something about it.

I think some of it is required, while not healthy, it's required. But some of it (such as hanging around hood people) is NOT required and that needs to go.

Required? Only if you choose to play the game by those rules. Your choice.

Read the quotes in my sig. Think about them.

 

[Steady Eddie]

Poon and DLS,

I get what you guys are saying, but I think you guys have to see what I'm talking about to understand it.

It's like if I go somewhere and it's a bunch of black people, some fool will crack a joke, I will ignore the idiot. He will crack another one, most of the shyt isn't funny at all, just high schoolish level jokes. But for some reason, every black person where I'm at will find it funny for some reason and join in with the idiot. It's literally, like you are at the lunch room in 10th grade.

I don't know how I ignore shyt like that. One side of me wants to honestly just shoot up every fvcking piece of shyt in there. Then another side of me honestly, just wants to go put my head down somewhere.

It's like their whole point is that they want to make you feel like shyt by embarrassing you, for what I have no clue.

I am black and this use to happen to me. At school no less.
What this is, is black culture (as it is today) telling you to get with the program. Black culture has evolved. If you think about it the 40 and 50's black people tried to fit into white culture. They were polite and well mannered. But it didn't improve their lot and there was segregation. The 60's came along and black consciousness agitated for change which led to the million man march and some semblance of equality. Black culture since then has evolved but what it hasn't done is gone back to the 40's and 50's as that was an unmitigated disaster. If you come across as meek and polite, black people will blow you across the world (and not in a good way )

My advice is if you have smarts keep it to yourself and use it to improve your lot and move to somewhere where the black people are aspirational.
If you want this high school level behaviour to stop you're going to have to change your attire and shave your head (if you haven't already). Don't be sporting an afro round this group.

If you pick up a west indian girl make sure you can provide. If you can't provide or she thinks you can't, your ass is toast. I would advise you to shop around. Blasians or mixed raced women in general is where I'd start.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

I am black and this use to happen to me. At school no less.
What this is, is black culture (as it is today) telling you to get with the program. Black culture has evolved. If you think about it the 40 and 50's black people tried to fit into white culture. They were polite and well mannered. But it didn't improve their lot and there was segregation. The 60's came along and black consciousness agitated for change which led to the million man march and some semblance of equality. Black culture since then has evolved but what it hasn't done is gone back to the 40's and 50's as that was an unmitigated disaster. If you come across as meek and polite, black people will blow you across the world (and not in a good way )

My advice is if you have smarts keep it to yourself and use it to improve your lot and move to somewhere where the black people are aspirational.
If you want this high school level behaviour to stop you're going to have to change your attire and shave your head (if you haven't already). Don't be sporting an afro round this group.

If you pick up a west indian girl make sure you can provide. If you can't provide or she thinks you can't, your ass is toast. I would advise you to shop around. Blasians or mixed raced women in general is where I'd start.

So he should in general not be targeting women who are part of that environment?

Also there are different "classes" of "blacks" just like their are of other "races". I've always said that "black doesn't mean 'hood'", but it seems to be the most common segment. If you are upper middle class to rich you aren't "black enough".

 

[Steady Eddie]

So he should in general not be targeting women who are part of that environment?

Also there are different "classes" of "blacks" just like their are of other "races". I've always said that "black doesn't mean 'hood'", but it seems to be the most common segment. If you are upper middle class to rich you aren't "black enough".

The whole not black enough thing is a reminder to anyone of who they are and the fact they'll never fit into the prevailing culture (white). Although most of the time it's directed at a black person by others who are envious of what he\she has achieved.

 

[( . )( . )]

I have a knack of being able to spot liars, and you lie a lot

I can't recall how many times "n*gger lover" has been said.

This is straight bullsh!t like pretty much all of your posts here have been. Nobody has called you "n!gger lover". This is a fantasy of e-preening race cucks brought up on a steady diet of digital synagogue indoctrination to be the selfless savior of the wise and noble black man. Where does a fem-centric whyte sh!tlib even get into situations where he's called a Hollyweird 50's slur "so many times he can't recall"?

How dare a straight white American man support women, immigrants, black people, gay people, etc. I imagine it's the same on your side.

Nice try. It's not that you "support" gays, immigrants and black people, which btw you don't, you're not posting from some African toilet pretending to make a difference. It's more about your subtle and sometimes not so subtle hatred for white hetero Americans (extra bonus points for Christian I also suspect) to the point where you proudly claim America is still too white for your liking.

 

[Solomon]

This thread is truly CRINGEWORTHY..On SO many levels some of the response here are just WOW......:nervous:

This goes back to the need some people have for outside validation. LOSE IT.

The more your "happiness" is shaped by the opinions/behavior of others the more elusive it will be. YOUR opinion of yourself must trump all others.

Sure it might be arrogant to dismiss anyone who doesn't see things your way as a moron but it's been working for me.

^^^SO much this for the win.....

 

[FairShake]

Tits, keep your own insecurity off other people's threads

Tenacity it sounds like you can admit where YOU need work. We can all diagnose what's wrong with other people it's takes a truly evolved man to realize what is wrong with him and a truly strong man to make those changes.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Tits, keep your own insecurity off other people's threads

Tenacity it sounds like you can admit where YOU need work. We can all diagnose what's wrong with other people it's takes a truly evolved man to realize what is wrong with him and a truly strong man to make those changes.

One of his problems was he was getting most of his external support and validation from the wrong place. But he has that figured out.

 

[Alvafe]

The whole not black enough thing is a reminder to anyone of who they are and the fact they'll never fit into the prevailing culture (white). Although most of the time it's directed at a black person by others who are envious of what he\she has achieved.

is not that racism?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Tenacity, what you need to understand is that many people struggle to fit in their environment, for different reasons. This is not an experience that is unique to blacks, conservatives, or black conservatives. In fact, I bet you that most people on this board have, at some point, struggled to fit in. Those who sail through life smoothly have little need for a website like this one. The key to defeating your insecurities is to stop caring about fitting in and embracing your accomplishments.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Anyone notice how much camaraderie is here in this thread? We're not all of the same race, but we're getting along. We're of different generations, but we're meeting on common ground. We all have some level of empathy without denigrating ourselves.

Yet notice who's not here. Who's not here casting blame on people who have nothing to do with the issue. Who's not here trying to segregate everyone by race. Who's not here telling Tenacity that those people are evil and are the ones who are trying to hold him back.

The real difference between us and them is that at least here, in this thread, we share the common bond of being our own men. THIS is the thing that scares those types of people the most. The fact that one of us has more going for themselves that a group of them combined; and they know it.