zekko
Master Don Juan
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Lately I've been acutely aware that I am surrounded by guys who cheat on their wives (and a lot of women who willingly sleep with them, including some married women). I'm kind of curious as to what the mindsets of these guys are. I've done a few indiscreet things in the past, but I've generally been pretty faithful to the women I've been committed to. These guys seem to make a lifestyle out of screwing around.
I know I've read several posters on here who have talked about intending to have a few women "on the side" when/if they get married. Why even go into marriage knowing you have such appetites?
One fellow I know seems fairly easy to figure out. He's married to a very fat woman but he chases all the hotties. Maybe he settled for an ugly girl, and then later realized he could get better looking women. Or maybe she was pretty when he married her and she ballooned up afterwards.
But generally I wonder what is driving the behavior of these guys? Are they simply driven by sexual impulses and don't think about it any deeper than that? Can they just not control themselves? Do they constantly crave the excitement of new and different things/women? Do they feel no sense of loyalty to their women?
I know there's a certain segment of this forum that would condone/encourage this type of thing, and would say that this is "alpha" behavior, and that a real man will always be screwing multiple women.
As for myself, I've lived with my LTR for eight years, and while I have admittedly been tempted a few times, it's been nothing I can't control. I have certain convictions about this and have no wish to hurt my girlfriend. But I'm curious about the mindset pf these other guys that think differently.
I know I've read several posters on here who have talked about intending to have a few women "on the side" when/if they get married. Why even go into marriage knowing you have such appetites?
One fellow I know seems fairly easy to figure out. He's married to a very fat woman but he chases all the hotties. Maybe he settled for an ugly girl, and then later realized he could get better looking women. Or maybe she was pretty when he married her and she ballooned up afterwards.
But generally I wonder what is driving the behavior of these guys? Are they simply driven by sexual impulses and don't think about it any deeper than that? Can they just not control themselves? Do they constantly crave the excitement of new and different things/women? Do they feel no sense of loyalty to their women?
I know there's a certain segment of this forum that would condone/encourage this type of thing, and would say that this is "alpha" behavior, and that a real man will always be screwing multiple women.
As for myself, I've lived with my LTR for eight years, and while I have admittedly been tempted a few times, it's been nothing I can't control. I have certain convictions about this and have no wish to hurt my girlfriend. But I'm curious about the mindset pf these other guys that think differently.