MysticViews
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I'll start by apologizing for posting here, since I know this site is geared for men and I know I may not be welcomed here. I am a frequent visitor (it started when I was trying to understand the thought process of a guy whom I was trying to get over) and he'd be considered an "alphamale".
I grew up with lots of guys since I was active and tomboyish. I have a brother whom I get along with great, and I generally find that guys have it easier (more sports to play, less drama with friends, and even have better magazines (i.e. Men's Journal) that have interesting articles than I could READ rather than flipping through fashion magazines with articles on petty things (how to lose weight, apply makeup, etc).
I like most of things things that's posted here (I enjoy the Anything Else section rather than the don juan, but there is a trend that I find a bit disturbing.
1. It seemed like a majority of folks here give women little respect. I suspect that the media has a lot to do with creating certain perceptions and bias (social conditioning), and I am not here to cry foul. But, I find it a little disappointing that some post (including the one about confidence is having control) mentioned how the poster used to put women on a pedestal (above them) and now, he can put women "beneath" him.
The message on confidence is great, but the mentality on putting something above you or below you is off-key, IMHO. Why must one need to put someone else down just to make themselves better. The issue here is not women. True confidence is independent of outside factors. It's what I call self-assuredness. If you are confident of who you are, then your confidence will naturally show. Why would you need to put someone above or below you? I don't want a guy that's better than me or worse than me...I want someone who is EQUAL to me (someone who could evenly match my jabs, jokes, and whatever mischief I cook up). :trouble:
2. The other thing that I was curious about...I know there are a lot of 'don juans' here, but don't most of you want to settle down in a long term relationship and stop playing games? If you keep playing games, how would you know when you finally find someone who might be good for you? How do you know when to stop looking? Are most of you still in your 20 and 30s? Maybe it's an age thing?
Thanks for letting me share my thoughts.
I grew up with lots of guys since I was active and tomboyish. I have a brother whom I get along with great, and I generally find that guys have it easier (more sports to play, less drama with friends, and even have better magazines (i.e. Men's Journal) that have interesting articles than I could READ rather than flipping through fashion magazines with articles on petty things (how to lose weight, apply makeup, etc).
I like most of things things that's posted here (I enjoy the Anything Else section rather than the don juan, but there is a trend that I find a bit disturbing.
1. It seemed like a majority of folks here give women little respect. I suspect that the media has a lot to do with creating certain perceptions and bias (social conditioning), and I am not here to cry foul. But, I find it a little disappointing that some post (including the one about confidence is having control) mentioned how the poster used to put women on a pedestal (above them) and now, he can put women "beneath" him.
The message on confidence is great, but the mentality on putting something above you or below you is off-key, IMHO. Why must one need to put someone else down just to make themselves better. The issue here is not women. True confidence is independent of outside factors. It's what I call self-assuredness. If you are confident of who you are, then your confidence will naturally show. Why would you need to put someone above or below you? I don't want a guy that's better than me or worse than me...I want someone who is EQUAL to me (someone who could evenly match my jabs, jokes, and whatever mischief I cook up). :trouble:
2. The other thing that I was curious about...I know there are a lot of 'don juans' here, but don't most of you want to settle down in a long term relationship and stop playing games? If you keep playing games, how would you know when you finally find someone who might be good for you? How do you know when to stop looking? Are most of you still in your 20 and 30s? Maybe it's an age thing?
Thanks for letting me share my thoughts.