backbreaker said:
i don't need an article to reinforce what i have seen with my own two eyes in the field; a woman who is into you will show you that she is into you.
The premise of nexting is not to next before she hurts your feelings. it's to not spend one second of time more than you have to once you realize that it's not going anywhere.
How do you know it isn't going anywhere when you next a girl at the first sign of possible rejection? Most women play hard to get, and no it's not always a sh!t test. There is always the possibility that you are never going to get anywhere with a certain woman, and while it is important to be able to recognize the signs of real rejection, it is also important to learn how to persist when there is possibility of more. Quite simply, it is manly. I'm no feminist, and other women out there in that camp also will agree, that a man should pursue. A man who has the art of perusal down pat is very, very sexy.
Obviously, if you have a ton of options already overcrowding your fishing pool, and you are just after some good sexual relations, don't bother. If you are at an insecure stage in your DJ training... don't bother! You could hurt yourself.
If you have illusions of grandeur and can't see when you really aren't attractive to a woman, maybe don't do this.
However, if you are a normal, attractive guy, you are going to encounter women who don't "put out" whatever signs you need for validation immediately.
And this could be for a myriad of reasons. Here are some possibilities:
1. She was raised by her father to beware of men who only want to fvck. She was raised with healthy self esteem, that she has more to offer than being a cvm receptacle and should not waste her time on men who don't know how to go about getting to know her first.
She was taught to weed those ones out.
2. She thinks you are a player. Which you probably are if you are on this site with the motivation to learn to spin plates, and not necessarily a bad thing either. But not all women are going to have sex with a guy who is having sex with other women at the same time.
3. She thinks you are not serious. Similar to above. So she does not take you seriously.
4. She doesn't find you extremely attractive at first. You might have to grow on her. To grow on someone is a very fine art in itself however. You do not grow on someone by spending money on them and sending them poetry for example.
5. She has the wrong first impression about you.
6. Wrong place, wrong time, wrong man. But times change.
7. She is seeing someone else. These things can change rapidly.
8. She is crazy. There is good sex to be had.
9. Women are fickle. Isn't that one of the first things you learn here?
10. She likes the game of push pull. You get some push, do you know how to pull? Do you know the right way to
push back once she pulls?
I'm in no way saying you should exert a ton of energy on a flaky, unsure chick. But every circumstance is different, and if you have a really hot prospective that isn't giving you the time of day
that you want, it might be in your best interest to learn how to pursue properly. It's silly to throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Side note: That article was written by Allen Thompson, you know, the founder of this site. The other post was written by Pook.
Don't make me break out the tons of anecdotal examples I have accumulated from my own experiences and those of my cute buddies.
Also to BB... you don't have to write any long letters to me about if you like me or not before you respond to a point I made. I'm not that sensitive if you disagree with me, I won't go cry. It's not like you are calling me a troll or any of the other names I am accustomed to by some of the more immature and angry posters here. Just get at the meat of the matter next time, your posts are long enough as it is.
