Alright suckas...I'm rockin my new hairpiece and LOVIN' it!

[frivolousz21]

I saw a infomercial on tv.

about guys sitting at table.

8 of them..with new hair..
bosley maybe? im not sure.


for 1...they were mostly ugly in the face... but some of them were pretty ripped and good loooking. and they sounded like little school girls talking about how they can get more chicks and make more money.


im 5 foot 6 inches tall and balding..I shave my head low....

I cant grow taller and if my hair doenst majically grow back..or I can take a pill for it to grow.

I will stand proud of who I am.and maximize my self naturally with the most confidence in the world.

u couldnt pay me a milllion to do it.

well i might do it for a million then shave it off


anyways im sure most people reading this picture the insecure pyssy who has to get a hairpiece to get laid.

its hard to argue that getting a hairpiece doenst have anythign to do with ur self worth

 

[STR8UP]

its hard to argue that getting a hairpiece doenst have anythign to do with ur self worth

That's only because YOU stigmatize it.

You personally have a problem with it, so you can't possibly imagine how someone else might not have the same hangups you have could be happy with themselves.

 

[MindOverMatter]

I noticed that in your initial post you said "thankfully" you weren't destined to lose your hair, which tells me that you DO see it as a flaw. I just caught that.

You misunderstood me. I never said "thankfully" because I thought baldness was a flaw. I am well aware of the psychological effects of losing something that you're used to having, and that it can take a hit on your self-esteem. I also understand enough from years of studies that it is a problem that is fixed through psychological introspection and hard work, not cosmetical surgery. When I said thankfully, I meant it as in "I personally dont have to be in that scenario and have to deal with that inner problem and am glad for it", but I don't see the hairloss itself as a flaw.

 

[danielzxc]

Sorry to bump a year old thread.

STR8UP, you have the weight of logic, reason, evidence and experience on your side. The other guys simply have age old inaccurate prejudices.

This thread has really opened my eyes to some new possibilities. I have a full head of hair, but last year I got a bit panicked as I noticed some shedding in the shower. I didn't know at the time that it's a normal part of the hair growth/regrowth cycle to shed old hairs. I thought that's it, the process of balding had started. It really pyssed me off initially, but in only a week or so I came to accept that in time I would be one of those bald guys. Since then, I did some research and found out that shedding hairs was normal, and not necessarily a sign of balding. Phew, I was very relieved.

I admit it, I think being bald is a "flaw". Not a fatal flaw. By no means do I think a bald person can't enjoy life every bit as much (or even more) than fully haired guy. Not at all. But, out of the two, hair or no hair, I definitely think having hair is infinitely more desirable.


Now, if what str8up says is true about hair pieces (I havne't researched, I'm only taking his word), that means that even if I am slated to one day go bald, I won't have to worry, because this hair piece fix sounds awesome.

To me, the main thing with hair pieces is:

(a) does it look good?
(b) does it look real?
(c) is it undetectable (or close to)?
(d) what are the chances of being ridiculed?

So far, it seems to look good and real and is very hard, or almost impossible to detect. Cool. What are the chances that I will be ridiculed for it? Well, the main way this would happen is if it somehow came off where I didn't want it to -- sex, at the beach, in the wind, etc. Apparently, the chances of this are pretty much zero. In this case, I don't have a problem with it.

As for the "it's fake" arguments. Those are not based on any deep analysis or logic at all.

Clothes are fake. We cover our bodies with materials that come from other animals or plants or are synthesized in laboratories. Can it get more "fake"? Does anyone care? No, it's normal and is a huge enhancement on the "natural" look.

Make-up. Fake as. Anyone care? No, because it looks way better than the real thing. I don't have a problem with a girl wearing "too much make-up", as long as it looks GOOD. Problem is, "too much make-up" usually looks really BAD. But if it looked good, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Hair-coloring, hair extensions. Fake and fake. Look good? You betcha. This girl I had once, first night I picked her up she was wearing these hair extensions (somehow the topic came up; I never would have known -- I'm a guy, it's not my job to know that shyyt). I remarked they looked really good on her. Every time I saw her afterwards, she always wore them. Did it bother me? Not even slightly. I wanted her to look better. Fake? Who cares!

Plastic surgery? Fake as. Problem? Not for me, not even remotely. Some guys, for reasons I cannot comprehend, have a problem with fake tyts. Not me: I think they look way better than the real thing on 90% of chicks.

Another girl I had had this umm, not so good looking nose. The rest of her was very attractive to me-- obviously, 'cos I was with her. But that nose, while not fatal, just did not look good. Would surgery have improved her? Absolutely!

This whole world is built on image, on appearance. Appearance may not be everything, but it is a HELL OF A LOT. Therefore, improving your appearance, no matter how you do it, helps you to feel better.

That is why I reject all these "you must have issues" "you must be insecure" arguments. Even the happiest, most confident, most secure of us still make efforts to dress nicely. Why? Because, as good as we feel, we feel even better when we look better. Pretty much all of us would agree that we look better in a stylish new suit than in shorts and a t-shirt. Does that mean only "insecure" people bother to dress nicely? No. (Or, if it does, then we are all insecure.)

Same thing with the hair. It's just no different at all. If you can get away with fake hair that looks and feels real, that 99% of people will never know is any different, then geez, do it. I know I would.

In fact, I'm thinking of doing it even though I'm not going bald. I have really thick hair and if I try to grow it long it just doesn't look good at all. So I have always had short hair. But I would really like to try a longer "shaggy" haired look. This hair piece thing might just be my ticket.

Would I give a shyt about being "found out"? Not unless it happened in an embarrassing way, like it being pulled off my head at a club. (Since that, apaprently, can't happen, I'm safe.) Otherwise if people just naturally find out, even through my friends betraying my secret or something like that, they can laugh all they want. In this sense I am definitely secure enough not to let that bother me.

Is all of this "shallow"? According to the popular defintion, yes. The popular definition being that if you allow appearance to count for anything, you are shallow. Or, rather, since everybody ACTS like appearance is important, despite what they may SAY, someone is shallow if he ADMITS that appearance counts for anything. So according to that, yeah, I'm shallow. (Of course, that's only on the net. In real life, I'm like everyone else. I PRETEND that appearance doesn't matter, that looks are only "skin deep", but, just like everyone else, I live my life in a way that reveals appearance is actually very important.)

PS - wyldfire, lol. If a guy wearing a hair piece can convince everyone that it is real, then HELL YES his experience of the world is improved. No question. If a hair piece helped an otherwise bald guy lay a victoria's secret model, wouldn't that be an example of improved life? I think so. Also dear, the world doesn't care about your problems with your 34Ds. To most guys you would look better with your bigger tyts than with smaller ones. Your shopping problems are your own; the rest of us are infinitely more concerned with hwo you look.

 

[STR8UP]

Sorry to bump a year old thread.

STR8UP, you have the weight of logic, reason, evidence and experience on your side. The other guys simply have age old inaccurate prejudices.

You can always tell a lot about someone's character by their level of acceptance of new ideas and unconventional thinking.

When I was younger I had a problem with new ideas. I fell into the same old trap that most people do, accepting what I heard without questioning validity. Somewhere along the way I learned to snap out of it. Had I not, I doubt I would have ever considered doing something like this cause lets face it, there are a lot of people who can't get past myths, misconceptions, and popular opinion even if it's WRONG.

I admit it, I think being bald is a "flaw". Not a fatal flaw. By no means do I think a bald person can't enjoy life every bit as much (or even more) than fully haired guy. Not at all. But, out of the two, hair or no hair, I definitely think having hair is infinitely more desirable.

I agree. There are always exceptions to the rule, but having hair is an attractive quality. You can tell yourself otherwise, but at the end of the day all things being equal, the guy with hair gets more dates, more job offers, probably even has more friends than the bald guy.

Like you said, it's a flaw. A flaw that can be overcome to some degree by compensating with confidence. Hell, some chicks even LOVE bald heads. I found my share of them when I shaved. But on the other side of things, the professional side, where the amount of money you make is to some degree relative to your appearance, I don't think there are very many bosses or business associates or whatnot that "like" bald heads. On that end of things it can only hurt you.

Now, if what str8up says is true about hair pieces (I havne't researched, I'm only taking his word), that means that even if I am slated to one day go bald, I won't have to worry, because this hair piece fix sounds awesome.

It works better for some people than it does others. I have very thin temples and side hair, so it is much more of a challenge to get it to look the way I want it to. I am actually getting ready to order a full cap (shave all of my hair off) to overcome this problem. Right now I have limited styling options because I have to wear concealers to thicken my sides, but when I get the full cap I can literally do whatever I want. I can even design it exactly how I want my hair to look. Color, density, shape of hairline, everything. How many people can do that?

So far, it seems to look good and real and is very hard, or almost impossible to detect. Cool. What are the chances that I will be ridiculed for it? Well, the main way this would happen is if it somehow came off where I didn't want it to -- sex, at the beach, in the wind, etc. Apparently, the chances of this are pretty much zero. In this case, I don't have a problem with it.

If you keep up with the regular maintenance it isn't coming off without very strong alcohol, and even then it takes about 10 minutes of soaking in the stuff to remove it.

As for being ridiculed, as far as I'm concerned someone who would ridicule something that looks good is only doing so to be an ass. And I try to avoid those types of people. If you are wearing something that looks bad, I can understand, but I don';t walk out of the house looking bad. If I have to take a few extra minutes to style it and make it look good, I do so. In other words, no one has any REASON to ridicule me, so I know that if they DO, they are jealous, insecure haters, and I don't generally take well to those people anyway.

For what it's worth, I hang out with mostly chicks. Some know, I'm sure some don't. But I can think of a couple who DO know that I have fukked or had some heavy makeout sessions with, that didn't care too much about my "fake" hair.

They obviously would not be sexually attracted to me if they were making fun of me to their friends earlier in the day.

As for the "it's fake" arguments. Those are not based on any deep analysis or logic at all.

Someone who argues against it either hasn't taken more than two seconds to think about it (in which case they would realize their argument is seriously flawed) or lacks the ability to see things for what they really are.

That is why I reject all these "you must have issues" "you must be insecure" arguments. Even the happiest, most confident, most secure of us still make efforts to dress nicely. Why? Because, as good as we feel, we feel even better when we look better. Pretty much all of us would agree that we look better in a stylish new suit than in shorts and a t-shirt. Does that mean only "insecure" people bother to dress nicely? No. (Or, if it does, then we are all insecure.)

Once again, the only reason other people think this way is because they are told to do so by society. It isn't based on logic, it's based upon misconceptions. You see a caricature of someone getting caught wearing a bad hairpiece on tv, and if you don't know any better you automatically assume thats how it is, so you assume that all hairpieces are ugly and they can blow off in the wind and it makes you assume that anyone who would wear such a thing would be insecure.

In fact, I'm thinking of doing it even though I'm not going bald. I have really thick hair and if I try to grow it long it just doesn't look good at all. So I have always had short hair. But I would really like to try a longer "shaggy" haired look. This hair piece thing might just be my ticket.

You could do it, but I wouldn't recommend it.

Like I said, with a full cap you can have 100% control of the length, density etc. to acheive pretty much exactly what you want, however....at the end of the day there are challenges involved and it does require maintenance.

But then again, even if you shave you head and try it, it's only hair and the real thing will grow back.

Would I give a shyt about being "found out"? Not unless it happened in an embarrassing way, like it being pulled off my head at a club. (Since that, apaprently, can't happen, I'm safe.)

It can happen, but as long as you keep up with maintaining it, the chances are very, very slim.

Otherwise if people just naturally find out, even through my friends betraying my secret or something like that, they can laugh all they want. In this sense I am definitely secure enough not to let that bother me.

Unfortunately this can happen. It did to me. A guy I know (who happens to be very jealous of me and very insecure about himself, go figure!) from what I understand told most of my friends. Funny thing is, one of them is a 26 yr old chick that still has the hots for me. All he did was make himself look bad.

 

[djbr]

Like you said, it's a flaw. A flaw that can be overcome to some degree by compensating with confidence. Hell, some chicks even LOVE bald heads. I found my share of them when I shaved. But on the other side of things, the professional side, where the amount of money you make is to some degree relative to your appearance, I don't think there are very many bosses or business associates or whatnot that "like" bald heads. On that end of things it can only hurt you.

Therein lies one of my biggest problems concerning this board:

Why some people here think it's BAD to do things such as a hairpiece? Or antidepressants, to give another example?

If your life gets BETTER, what IS the problem?

They get all theories on why it's this or that but still, the person is HAPPIER. Who can argue with this?

Someone who argues against it either hasn't taken more than two seconds to think about it (in which case they would realize their argument is seriously flawed) or lacks the ability to see things for what they really are.

Or have some problem with people solving their problems and being happier than before.

STR8UP, about society and stuff, this thing is really getting mainstream. Funny that someone bumped this thread just today, that the local newspaper had a huge news article about the new technology on hair pieces, and how they do not look like "doll hair" anymore. Here this new hairpiece technology is expensive as hell, so it's not for everyone (yet). But if it's affordable to you and you like yourself better with hair, I do not see why you shouldn't do it.

I remember of Vulpine saying that living past 30+ is not natural. It's the same thing: hairpieces are not natural, but still, if we're going to go back 100% natural most of us would be already dead anyway. I am with my right leg broken and immobilized right now. If we're going to get 100% natural, I would simply be dead.

The "duh man, get confident and overcome it" stuff gets taken to a dangerous extreme that just holds people BACK. If you can NOT change it, yes, by all means overcome it. But if you can change it, why NOT? Just to put time/effort trying to cope with something that you have control over?

It makes no sense to me.