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Great thread!!!
I recently started getting out more because well...I really need to. I've been so caught up with things and just trying to figure stuff out but now it's finally starting to look good so I've been making an effort to ENJOY some of my life. To start with I can literally get in ANY club in my area for free..no joke. I don't have to pay sh**, no nothing. Only drinks. Since I have never drank in my life nor do I plan to that's something I have no worries about neither do I smoke. The problem is that I don't have too many friends ok I'm going to be honest I don't have any friends nor female friends. Majority of my so called "friends" have their own groups already established and they tend to shun me out. You know people I went to school with, used to work with etc etc.
So I tried interacting and making friends with people in my college/university and it didn't seem like many of them were interested in hanging out or ME hanging out with them. They always say "Yeaa give me a call.." or "..yea were gonna hit up blah blah club this weekend..." or etc etc but they tend to never pick up their phones. Plus I feel like that majority of these people seem to be constantly competing or their is SOME underlying sense that I feel as if I'm some type of a threat to them. The only time I actually DO get a call from majority of these people is when they need something...:crackup:. In the end it's alright because it really doesn't matter.
So keeping all this in mind as I mentioned I recently started going out to clubs. Most of the time I get in for free thanks to my connect but the problem is that I'm usually by myself meaning I end up going to the club alone which is probably the toughest things to do. I try saying wssup and being friendly with a couple of guys just so it can at least SEEM like I'm with someone but they tend to just stare me down (because their with their boys, you know everyone is a tough guy in groups). Most of the times I get no response or just dirty stares and frankly I'm not looking to get in a fight with a group of idiots. Just for the record I'm a great dancer, I've been told I'm a great dancer by the very few times I have actually danced with girls.
Since I get shut out by the guys I try infiltrating groups of girls, either just playfully smiling and bumping them, complimenting them or just doing something and I tend to get dirty stares from their as well. I tried dancing with a girl today because she kept on getting closer and closer to my crotch and as soon I came close she turns around, gives me a dirty look and huddles with her group of GF's and they start talking. I mean this is the type of stuff I get. I was chilling in the corner and I decided to get with the music and it was so weird that as soon as I stepped on the floor it was as if I was in my own circle...I can't even explain it. It's like everyone around me moved a foot away.
Oh but here's the highlight for tonight. 2 girls were dancing and one of them started dancing with me. The other one pulls her away from me and I pulled her back and started dancing with her again which she didn't seem to mind at all because she was grinding on me pretty hard. Suddenly the other girl aggressively pulls her away from me and throws her drink on me (my shirt) and walks away with the girl. Now I'm standing their and everyone else starts glancing over to see what happened and I ended up leaving the club because that was it.
Now what the hell is a guy supposed to do...? I'm a good looking dude, nice build, height but I have no "social status" or no "value". As soon as I enter a club as you mentioned I seem like a "creep" but I usually have fun dancing and try to have fun just feeling the music. I'm pretty confident and my usual goal is not even to pull a chick but just dance and have fun but it just feels like the odds are against me on this one. I need some serious tips on how I can go about this and conquer the club by MYSELF.
Thanks in advance.
P.S:- If you want to see how I look like I'll send you a link to my myspace page in your PM because I don't want to post it in the public forum.