jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Have you ever wondered why couples who met in high school or during their adolescence, even in the face of numerous incompatibilities and difficulties, ultimately stay together?
Let’s say these couples have the same childhood friends in common, who also tend to share similar situations; that is, they too met their partners in adolescence or at school. Now, imagine that one of these couples has a child around the age of 23. Then, another couple has a child at 25. Inevitably, the other six or seven women in the group will start asking their partners for a child as well. Next, suppose one of these couples buys a house with a mortgage and gets married at 28. The others will likely follow suit shortly thereafter. Let’s say the children attend school in the same building and that the group continues to see each other regularly, perhaps every week. This group is also comprised of individuals who were attracted to each other during their adolescence, but then Ken ended up with Jasmine, leaving Clara to pair up with Thomas.
Now the group of people grown from "boys" to "men", from "guys" to "fathers" all togheter, and it's a good thing to see. Social pressure, social image, children, homeownership and work can create invisible boundaries that align those couples. At this point, you find yourself in a family with someone who has been a friend or partner since adolescence, you're both working on "projects", so its not love or an emotion you feel, but more likely a "bigger" goal you both have. Also, You can’t easily disregard the bond that person has formed with you.
Personally, I decided to end my college relationship. I faced my inner demons while separating from the "couples-only group of friends" that had formed due to the birth of children. I attempted to create a life on my own. I experienced suffering and understood loneliness; I worked on improving various aspects of myself. Like many of you here, I find myself questioning whether it was the right choice.
One significant regret that haunts me is my lack of experience in "raising" children and managing a family—skills that I see my old friends mastering instead.
Let’s say these couples have the same childhood friends in common, who also tend to share similar situations; that is, they too met their partners in adolescence or at school. Now, imagine that one of these couples has a child around the age of 23. Then, another couple has a child at 25. Inevitably, the other six or seven women in the group will start asking their partners for a child as well. Next, suppose one of these couples buys a house with a mortgage and gets married at 28. The others will likely follow suit shortly thereafter. Let’s say the children attend school in the same building and that the group continues to see each other regularly, perhaps every week. This group is also comprised of individuals who were attracted to each other during their adolescence, but then Ken ended up with Jasmine, leaving Clara to pair up with Thomas.
Now the group of people grown from "boys" to "men", from "guys" to "fathers" all togheter, and it's a good thing to see. Social pressure, social image, children, homeownership and work can create invisible boundaries that align those couples. At this point, you find yourself in a family with someone who has been a friend or partner since adolescence, you're both working on "projects", so its not love or an emotion you feel, but more likely a "bigger" goal you both have. Also, You can’t easily disregard the bond that person has formed with you.
Personally, I decided to end my college relationship. I faced my inner demons while separating from the "couples-only group of friends" that had formed due to the birth of children. I attempted to create a life on my own. I experienced suffering and understood loneliness; I worked on improving various aspects of myself. Like many of you here, I find myself questioning whether it was the right choice.
One significant regret that haunts me is my lack of experience in "raising" children and managing a family—skills that I see my old friends mastering instead.
