marmel75 said:
Your problem shows that fornication is a soul-rot. You have a good woman but because you've had other women before, and had a lustful lifestyle. My dad had 30 women before he meet my mother. Guess what? He cheated on her after.
But, why is it did you get jacked? Did you do this for your wife? You put yourself in a position to get hit on more. If you see other women are hitting on you then of course you've put yourself in this position.
The problem with lust is it can't be satisfied. If you are content and happy with your wife then that's allot better than chasing after stuff that makes you wanting more.
marmel75 said:
I really don't know. I mean I should be happy, but increasingly I find myself looking for other options. Part of the problem is that I have girl/women hitting on me quite a bit, especially since I have gotten in shape(I am jacked). When I go out to bars/clubs I get quite a bit of attention, and get hit on at work. I find it increasingly difficult to fight my urges to get it, and actually ended up going a little too far once already. I am starting to miss the thrill of the conquest, and the excitement that comes with it.
You should be happy but are not because you have a spiritual problem and have opened doorways before to the spirit of lust. Marriage may be a solution for a while but that other nature comes up again. You have to fundamentally change your nature so that you desire to do the right thing.
You must be born-again.
marml75 said:
I guess I might be bored with what I have right now. I am saying this as a warning to those looking to get married. What you may want today is not always what you want 5 or 10 years from now. Really think things through before getting married. I don't know how this is going to resolve itself.
So, if you weren't married, then how do you think your life would be today? All about chasing women and conquests? Don't care about "true love" or someone who sticks with you through thick or thin and who is really there for you?
marml75 said:
She really has done nothing wrong. She lves me and would never leave me, and would be devastated if I told her what is on my mind. I feel like I am checking out of the relationship at times and she has asked me what is the matter because I seem distant a few times recently. I also know she has tried to look througg my phone a few times because the 30 second lockout screen was up when I got home from the gym. I never busted her out about it, so she doesn't know that I know. I believe she suspects I am cheating on her, and the more she suspecs it and bugs me about going out
every few weeks, the more I want to do it.
I am done rambling here. I need to figure out what I want to do. She doesn't deserve any of this. She is a good person and I feep like an a@@hole for even having these thoughts. Any comments would be welcome. I think I have lost my mind lately...
Ask Jesus to help you. The Bible says that if you call upon Jesus you'll be saved, Romans 10:9-13. It's good that you've acknowledged that sin has a gripping control over your life and that you need to be saved from that sin.
Look at your wife, she's a good person. Do it for her. Call upon the Lord before this sin nukes her.
