A man's horniness vs a woman's horniness

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Would you say the typical man is hornier than the typical woman?

Any given man is far more likely than any given woman to be down for casual sex (which gives men the reputation of being hornier).

Within the confines of a committed/steady relationship, however, it's common for the woman to want sex more often than the man (I say this based on comments I've heard broads make, as well as comments other men have made to me about their girlfriend).

In a nutshell: A man isn't necessarily hornier than a woman (in terms of our appetite for sex); we're just less picky about who we have sex with. Additionally, getting to know a partner before having sex isn't as important to us.
 

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I've met some really horny women, and like you mentioned it comes out more within a relationship.

There is still a social stigma attached with women showing horniness in public. A woman that approaches sex like men do is labeled a wh0re. She has an image to manage which is why most don't act on those urges outside of relationships.
 

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Women are probably more hornier than guys are. That's why you have more women working as escorts.
 

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I read an article somewhere that says women are 2x as horny as men.

Not sure about that.

What I am sure of is that they aren't always as explicit about it as we men are.
 

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I've met some really horny women, and like you mentioned it comes out more within a relationship.

There is still a social stigma attached with women showing horniness in public. A woman that approaches sex like men do is labeled a wh0re. She has an image to manage which is why most don't act on those urges outside of relationships.
Well-said.

Plus, if they get horny enough, they'll sometimes cheat.

2 of my partners in college were gals who got uncontrollably horny when their boyfriend was at work (so they banged me)
 

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A woman once asked me, "if it's true that men think more about sex than women, why are they always in such a rush to finish?"

I don't know how you can determine whether men or women are hornier, but I can tell you that most women tend to hide their lust because sex is how they can control men. If men would understand how badly women crave sex, women would lose this leverage.

This is why their horniness is more apparent when they feel safe from being judged, i.e. within a relationship.
 

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Many of my same night lays came with girls that had not had sex in several months. They had a lot of pent up sexual frustration they needed to release! I was the lucky one that made it happen. Always make it their idea, just set the stage to lead them to it. I call it communicating indirectly, exactly like they do. The more you approach dating like they do, think like they do, but still lead, the more successful you will be.
 

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Men have much higher desire for sex than women due to the presence of testosterone in our bodies. Our testosterone levels are 12-17 times higher than that of a woman. Even lower testosterone men are hornier than women.

Men might also appear less selective for sexual opportunity (as @GoodMan32 points out) because of the presence of testosterone.

Rollo Tomassi wrote a good article about this back in 2011.

 

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Men have much higher desire for sex than women due to the presence of testosterone in our bodies. Our testosterone levels are 12-17 times higher than that of a woman. Even lower testosterone men are hornier than women.

So what do you think drives female horniness inside of a mid to long term relationship? I've had some really horny girls.
 

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I think it’s the emotional connection/dependency that men provide.
Makes sense, The greater that connection becomes and the more they become dependent on you for their next hit of dopamine, the more they want sex. I've had them begging for it.
 

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Both can be relatively accurately predicted by their levels of testosterone compared to normal for a male/female.

Horny women typically have higher levels of testosterone relative to other women. Same with horny men relative to other men.

On balance that is Hispanic women which isn't surprising because like Hispanic men, they have the highest level of testosterone for their gender on average
 

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Many of my same night lays came with girls that had not had sex in several months. They had a lot of pent up sexual frustration they needed to release! I was the lucky one that made it happen. Always make it their idea, just set the stage to lead them to it. I call it communicating indirectly, exactly like they do. The more you approach dating like they do, think like they do, but still lead, the more successful you will be.
That's how I got sex with the married woman I had the affair with (but it had been more than several months: even worse, it had been 2 and a half years)
 

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Both can be relatively accurately predicted by their levels of testosterone compared to normal for a male/female.

Horny women typically have higher levels of testosterone relative to other women. Same with horny men relative to other men.

On balance that is Hispanic women which isn't surprising because like Hispanic men, they have the highest level of testosterone for their gender on average
Fascinating.

The last woman I had free sex with-Hispanic

The story I've shared on this forum where a woman ended up naked in my bed after a 1st date, soaked cooch, begging me for sex (and I inserted myself for a split second, then changed my mind)-also Hispanic

The woman I had the 8 month sexless relationship with-Hispanic (and she wasn't pleased at all about the sexlessness)
 

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Fascinating.

The last woman I had free sex with-Hispanic

The story I've shared on this forum where a woman ended up naked in my bed after a 1st date, soaked cooch, begging me for sex (and I inserted myself for a split second, then changed my mind)-also Hispanic

The woman I had the 8 month sexless relationship with-Hispanic (and she wasn't pleased at all about the sexlessness)
What woman would be pleased about an 8 month sexless relationship?

That's not a relationship, that is simply being a friend. Relationships without sex are not relationships.
 

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So what do you think drives female horniness inside of a mid to long term relationship? I've had some really horny girls.
Money, muscles, game, and frame.

The same formula that works with initial attraction continues to work over an extended period of time.

Many men lose frame in mid to longer term relationships, which is why holding frame is Iron Rule of Tomassi #1.

Many men aren't as laser focused on fitness in a mid to long term relationship. This is a part of beta-ization and also gives women incentive to pursue her other, abundant options.

Women after their mid-30s are more concerned about a man's income/net worth, so money takes on more relevance.

Game is aligned with frame so exhibiting leading, masculine behaviors helps to avoid become more of a beta which dries up her pussie.
 

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Would you say the typical man is hornier than the typical woman?

Any given man is far more likely than any given woman to be down for casual sex (which gives men the reputation of being hornier).

Within the confines of a committed/steady relationship, however, it's common for the woman to want sex more often than the man (I say this based on comments I've heard broads make, as well as comments other men have made to me about their girlfriend).

In a nutshell: A man isn't necessarily hornier than a woman (in terms of our appetite for sex); we're just less picky about who we have sex with. Additionally, getting to know a partner before having sex isn't as important to us.
I got a good answer to this. It's never simple.

Naturally, us men have the higher drive for sex due to testosterone. So on that hand, we are hornier. We want to procreate and knock up every woman around us.

Women want sex for validation. But because that is like a drug to a woman, women are infinitely more horny than us.

Both driven by chemicals. However, men can control their sex drive better than women. Women do not have to as there is really nothing expected from them. They choose to withhold their sex drive but it's voluntary. Men on the other hand, we have to be in control of ourselves. Otherwise, nothing gets done.

In summary, both genders are horny for different reasons, but women beats us by a mile.
 

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What woman would be pleased about an 8 month sexless relationship?

That's not a relationship, that is simply being a friend. Relationships without sex are not relationships.
Ok, you're right, other than a woman who's holding off until marriage, no woman will be pleased about an 8 month sexless relationship.

We did plenty of other stuff that went beyond friendship though (oral, cuddling, fondling, kissing)
 
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