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A man's horniness vs a woman's horniness

HaleyBaron

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They got social media, likes, etc.... they have a zillion more options to get validation then they did a few decades ago / pre-internet. If that were true then women would be pursuing sex way more before the modern internet.
Women are avoiding sex for the same reason they always avoided it: because of something stupid as social status. Compared to what you lose if men just went out and raped: the continuation of the human sex and a progressing society.

In that way, it doesn't matter, women still have the higher horniess simply by those metrics.
 

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I personally think it is about the same. The only differences are that:
  • Men can sleep with women they aren't attracted to.
  • Women generally cannot sleep with men they aren't attracted to.
  • Women can marry men they don’t love.
  • Men typically can't marry women they don't love.
This explains the difference in frequency and partners in each gender.
 

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I personally think it is about the same. The only differences are that:
  • Men can sleep with women they aren't attracted to.
  • Women generally cannot sleep with men they aren't attracted to.
  • Women can marry men they don’t love.
  • Men typically can't marry women they don't love.
This explains the difference in frequency and partners in each gender.
Truth
 

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Generally

Men are very horny from 18 - 29.
Men are less horny from 30-39
Men are not that horny 40-49

Women are not horny 18 - 29
Women are more horny 30-39
Women are very horny 40-49

Everything depends on a women's youth.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Would you say the typical man is hornier than the typical woman?

Any given man is far more likely than any given woman to be down for casual sex (which gives men the reputation of being hornier).

Within the confines of a committed/steady relationship, however, it's common for the woman to want sex more often than the man (I say this based on comments I've heard broads make, as well as comments other men have made to me about their girlfriend).

In a nutshell: A man isn't necessarily hornier than a woman (in terms of our appetite for sex); we're just less picky about who we have sex with. Additionally, getting to know a partner before having sex isn't as important to us.
You'd be surprised how many women are not only down for casual sex, but go out intent on getting it. Yes, even your sweet little "good" girls.

Most men with experience and game will be more interested in getting to know a girl before banging her. Physical beauties are a dime a dozen. I need a mental connection or she bores me. Unless of course she's a professional and it's quid pro quo.
 

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You'd be surprised how many women are not only down for casual sex, but go out intent on getting it. Yes, even your sweet little "good" girls.

Most men with experience and game will be more interested in getting to know a girl before banging her. Physical beauties are a dime a dozen. I need a mental connection or she bores me. Unless of course she's a professional and it's quid pro quo.
I haven't been lucky enough to find this plethora of broads looking for casual sex.
 

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Money, muscles, game, and frame.

The same formula that works with initial attraction continues to work over an extended period of time.
I agree, but theres something that changes. If I remain the same guy I was in the beginning that I am 2 plus years later, then why is she now hornier than ever? Your statement doesn't address that. Theres someting more driving it.

I've noticed it in several of my medium-term, live in, long term relationships. Perhaps the social stigma of behing a horny wh0re goes a way and she feels she can express herself fully within the comfort and deep connection a solid relationship offers.
 

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Perhaps the social stigma of behing a horny wh0re goes a way and she feels she can express herself fully within the comfort and deep connection a solid relationship offers.
This can happen. I think it would be more likely to happen in medium term relationships where the couple lives apart.

I've noticed it in several of my medium-term, live in, long term relationships.
Rollo Tomassi mentioned in this 2011 blog post (which was the basis of a chapter in 2013's "The Rational Male" book) that non-marital co-habitation typically leads to a decrease in sexual availability and desire. It is interesting that your live-in relationships have not followed the pattern described here.

 

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Don't worry about that, they're not looking for cuddles.
The sexless relationship I mentioned was from more than a decade ago. What an outdated insult.

We both lived at home. That was the main reason for the lack of sex.
 

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This can happen. I think it would be more likely to happen in medium term relationships where the couple lives apart.



Rollo Tomassi mentioned in this 2011 blog post (which was the basis of a chapter in 2013's "The Rational Male" book) that non-marital co-habitation typically leads to a decrease in sexual availability and desire. It is interesting that your live-in relationships have not followed the pattern described here.

I have a coworker whose relationship is also an exception.

He has a live-in girlfriend. He said her appetite for sex is way higher than his (sometimes he doesn't even want sex, yet he bangs her anyway to shut her up).

He's in his early 40s.
 

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Depends on the level of testosterone in the woman. Usually peaks near ovulation. Body knows an egg is ready and hormones make her want to fertilize it. Men on the other hand, supposedly have 16x times higher levels. This makes us horny at any given moment. I’d say women in relationships are more free to succumb to those urges since there is no social stigma associated with it. That stigma is less these days as we see young women racking up body counts. They probably seem more horny these days because this old social judgement has been removed.

As an experiment, observe the women in your social circle. You’ll start to notice the hormone changes. During ovulation you might notice more skin being shown or sexually suggestive speech. More provocative outfits and stronger flirting.

That’s a good reason ”timing” gets brought up in many conversations. Timing, as in she was ovulating and the elevated testosterone was making her crave some d!ck.
 

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That stigma is less these days as we see young women racking up body counts.
That is debatable as they are more seen as damaged goods to high status guys and there has been allot of shaming on this going on on social media, Tik Toc, youtube videos, etc... that it looks like the pendulum has shifted to the opposite direction and gaining momentum.
 

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Depends on the level of testosterone in the woman. Usually peaks near ovulation. Body knows an egg is ready and hormones make her want to fertilize it. Men on the other hand, supposedly have 16x times higher levels. This makes us horny at any given moment. I’d say women in relationships are more free to succumb to those urges since there is no social stigma associated with it. That stigma is less these days as we see young women racking up body counts. They probably seem more horny these days because this old social judgement has been removed.

As an experiment, observe the women in your social circle. You’ll start to notice the hormone changes. During ovulation you might notice more skin being shown or sexually suggestive speech. More provocative outfits and stronger flirting.

That’s a good reason ”timing” gets brought up in many conversations. Timing, as in she was ovulating and the elevated testosterone was making her crave some d!ck.
There are some exceptions to these rules.

I'm a man who isn't even 35, yet I often am too exhausted for sex (even too exhausted for sex with myself)

I had a constantly flirtatious (and constantly skin-showing) 60 year old female coworker at one point. Ovulation certainly wasn't why she acted like that (hehehe)
 

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When I read the thread title I remembered this conversation from years ago:

- You used to be a very shy girl. Who would´ve thought you would turn into a sex addict?

- Im not addicted to sex. Im addicted to you.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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The 70 girls I casually dated, and had short term relationships with were never as horny as the 8 I've had medium to long term relationships with.

The best sex is never casual and it's never when she is horniest.

Turn her mind on and she will present you with her entire body to ravage however you want. For me, that's always been easiest to do with women I had been with for a while and had a deeper connection with. Getting drunk/high off sex takes two people that are really horny.
 

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When I read the thread title I remembered this conversation from years ago.

- Im not addicted to sex. Im addicted to you.
This is exactly what I am referring to.
 

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Generally

Men are very horny from 18 - 29.
Men are less horny from 30-39
Men are not that horny 40-49

Women are not horny 18 - 29
Women are more horny 30-39
Women are very horny 40-49

Everything depends on a women's youth.
Women 18-29 are horny. She is 21 IMG_4254.jpeg
 

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The 70 girls I casually dated, and had short term relationships with were never as horny as the 8 I've had medium to long term relationships with.

The best sex is never casual and it's never when she is horniest.

Turn her mind on and she will present you with her entire body to ravage however you want. For me, that's always been easiest to do with women I had been with for a while and had a deeper connection with. Getting drunk/high off sex takes two people that are really horny.
The best sex I ever had was a month long affair with a married woman.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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