A guy I know is getting laid off, and his wife is non-stop on his case about getting a replacement job

[zekko]

We were together for sixteen years, but the trouble started with motherhood, which was mentally much harder than she expected it to be.

From what little I've seen of it, parenting appears to be brutally difficult. But it really breaks my heart to see so many women today rejecting the idea of motherhood, to reject their greatest calling. I'm old enough to remember when most women aspired to be housewives and mothers, and the feminist idea of pushing them into careers has messed up so many things in our society.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Not to change the topic but this year I went on a few dates this summer where women flat out said they are looking for a man to pay bills and provide. Mind you in my 20s&30s that was rare but in the last two years. I've had women as young as 26 mention this all the way up to 46. Things are getting expensive and let's be real a lot of women don't like working and/or their jobs(not all but most)

Now think about being in a marriage and the wife has to pay all the bills, there will be some resentment there, even though "it's for better or for worse"

I would have played along, fvcked their brains out once including "wrong holing" her without warning and then ghosted them.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

From what little I've seen of it, parenting appears to be brutally difficult. But it really breaks my heart to see so many women today rejecting the idea of motherhood, to reject their greatest calling. I'm old enough to remember when most women aspired to be housewives and mothers, and the feminist idea of pushing them into careers has messed up so many things in our society.

My ex-wife really wanted to be a mother, but she looked at motherhood through rose-coloured glasses. When your expectations are (too) high, the propensity for disappointment is huge.

 

[MatureDJ]

It's quite common for men to lose their girlfriends/wives when they lose their jobs.

This is an older couple so one might think the wife would be a little bit more forgiving and realize his career accomplishments of the past 30+ years.

Why isn't early retirement an option for him? Many 55-60 year old white collar workers end up in early retirement simply because they can't get hired due to age.

Since she is working, she won't let him retire (he's just under 10 years older).

 

[MatureDJ]

It pays something. Even if it pays $20 an hour, that's $3200 a month.

This isn't California.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Things womens openly declare they need and things they really need are too often totally different things.

We humans are lousy at distinguishing our urges and fantasies from essentials

 

[BaronOfHair]

Not to change the topic but this year I went on a few dates this summer where women flat out said they are looking for a man to pay bills and provide. Mind you in my 20s&30s that was rare but in the last two years. I've had women as young as 26 mention this all the way up to 46

Heterosexual women crave a man who can bring more resources into their lives, just as straight men want our women to look beautiful and be up for just about anything sexually??!!

This is a shocking revelation, exceeded only by the news that Western nations militarily toppling authoritarian regimes overseas RARELY, if ever, results in the natives adopting liberal democracy

 

[BaronOfHair]

Side note, the term bring home the bacon originates from a tradition in medieval times where the church would give men a chunk of cured meat at Christmas if they promised that they had not beaten their wife all year.

Presumably then, a man who dropkicked his heavily pregnant missus in the stomach-once or more-received only 3/4th a chunk

 

[MatureDJ]

Heterosexual women crave a man who can bring more resources into their lives, just as straight men want our women to look beautiful and be up for just about anything sexually??!!

This is a shocking revelation, exceeded only by the news that Western nations militarily toppling authoritarian regimes overseas RARELY, if ever, results in the natives adopting liberal democracy

It worked after WW2.

 

[MatureDJ]

We humans are lousy at distinguishing our urges and fantasies from essentials

That's because in our evolutionary past, satisfying our urges was evolutionarily positive - e.g., killing rival tribes, sexually taking women, etc.

 

[BaronOfHair]

It worked after WW2.

And not so well in Chile, Iran, Iraq, South Vietnam, etc etc

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It worked after WW2.

You don't even try to hide being an imbecile, do you?

 

[BaronOfHair]

That's because in our evolutionary past, satisfying our urges was evolutionarily positive - e.g., killing rival tribes, sexually taking women, etc.

They were positive, UNLESS you yourself were among the rival tribesmen who were being slaughtered like steers, and it was your woman/women being taken

 

[CaptHowdy]

They are in their 50s, and her career is going well - but his business is getting bought out, and he will be getting a pink slip. He has a side hustle hobby that he has been doing, a lot of times for free for various non-profits that he has agency with, and now he is trying to tap all that goodwill from those free jobs to boost up into getting paid gigs. However, his wife wants to see him "pound the pavement" and "get a real job", but I have a hunch that the only "real job" he could get is something like working as an auto-parts clerk, which pays sheet.

I think this a problem that a lot of older married men face - that if the wife is working, she'll be damned if she is going to be the one bringing home the bacon!

I totally agree. I'm 65 and working in a job that is trying to be the death of me. I want to retire at 66 & 10 months but I don't think I can last much longer there. When I discuss this with my wife who is a top level director at a major hospital, her response is "what are going to do then?" There's no sympathy for my predicament even though she can see my physical and mental health suffering. Sometimes I feel like the last 20 years was a waste of good years.

 

[MatureDJ]

I totally agree. I'm 65 and working in a job that is trying to be the death of me. I want to retire at 66 & 10 months but I don't think I can last much longer there. When I discuss this with my wife who is a top level director at a major hospital, her response is "what are going to do then?" There's no sympathy for my predicament even though she can see my physical and mental health suffering. Sometimes I feel like the last 20 years was a waste of good years.

Has she bought a lot of life insurance on you?

 

[MatureDJ]

They were positive, UNLESS you yourself were among the rival tribesmen who were being slaughtered like steers, and it was your woman/women being taken

Uh, subtracting a negative is like adding a positive - either way it's evolutionary.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Uh, subtracting a negative is like adding a positive ...

Yeah, Susan Smith rid herself of two annoyances when she drove Mike and Alex into that lake back in '93, yet added a positive to her life by doing so: She would've never achieved celebrity, had she allowed her sons to survive

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Yeah, Susan Smith rid herself of two annoyances when she drove Mike and Alex into that lake back in '93, yet added a positive to her life by doing so: She would've never achieved celebrity, had she allowed her sons to survive

I'll take Obscure Tangents for $100, Alex.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'll take Obscure Tangents for $100, Alex.

I wasn't sure what the hell to make of MDJ's reply. Thus I was put into a dilemma similar to that of The Army CID agent in Basra circa '05, visiting a crime scene where Al Quaeda had beheaded an informant within their own ranks, then jammed that newly severed cranium into the vic's rectum

One can either be perplexed and frustrated by such things, or find macabre humor in them, by making wry observations such as: "I'm sending a photo of this poor b-stard to my missus back in The States, then instructing her to look at it, each time she accuses ME of having my head up my ass!!!"

 

[Manure Spherian]

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he feminist idea

Good post, but you do know within feminism, “slaying,” “pumping and dumping,” “game,” and “PUA” wouldn’t exist, right?

I’ve often read on here that feminist ideas are a red flag. Men on here should be thanking feminism and its practice of matriarchal mating.