Trunks said:People are gonna do whatever they want. Setting boundaries at the beginning is your insurance so that she knows how it goes and you have no emotional qualms about dropping her if she fails. Eventually, any woman would get caught, unless you really are that naive, in which case hopefully you'd learn.
If she's cheating, she doesn't want you. If she wanted you, why would she cheat?captain55 said:This. Who cares if a girl cheats on you, as long as she still wants you.
IDK about that, I've cheated on women I was madly in love with and thought I couldn't live without simply because the opportunity was there, most of us have. Women always got their eye out on the bigger better deal brother. If a girl is attracted to a guy and she thinks she can cheat and get away with it, she will.Octogonal said:If she's cheating, she doesn't want you. If she wanted you, why would she cheat?
Men and women are different. Men can love more than one woman at a time, women can't.captain55 said:IDK about that, I've cheated on women I was madly in love with and thought I couldn't live without simply because the opportunity was there, most of us have. Women always got their eye out on the bigger better deal brother. If a girl is attracted to a guy and she thinks she can cheat and get away with it, she will.
LOL. What? Where did you get this from? Any evidence to back this up?VikingKing said:Men and women are different. Men can love more than one woman at a time, women can't.
Wtf? I don't know if it's because I had a few drinks last night or whether sosuave has just gone crazy all of a sudden. Maybe it's always been this way and I just didn't notice.captain55 said:Who cares if a girl cheats on you, as long as she still wants you.
Holy Mother of all things blue pill..captain55 said:Who cares if a girl cheats on you, as long as she still wants you.
This is a CRUCIAL point that is really at the crux of the boundary discussion in my opinion. Within my own experience and anyone I can recall, as well as on dating expert websites like chateau heartiste and in the DJ bible, this statement has been totally true, though im not sure Id use the word love.. Maybe just fvck lol.VikingKing said:Men and women are different. Men can love more than one woman at a time, women can't.
Are you really suggesting that women will not fvck more than one man at a time? Because that's what it sounds like. Anyway, I don't agree women can't love more than one guy at a time. Or, even if they do, they might love one guy for five minutes, then five minutes later be all about some other dude. Women are infamous for being fickle. I don't agree that being faithful is some intrinsic trait of the female gender, that's why the manosphere talks about hypergamy so much. Even once they find their Prince Charming, they can always be on the lookout for Prince Charminger.jurry said:This is a CRUCIAL point that is really at the crux of the boundary discussion in my opinion. Within my own experience and anyone I can recall, as well as on dating expert websites like chateau heartiste and in the DJ bible, this statement has been totally true, though im not sure Id use the word love.. Maybe just fvck lol.
A friend of mine was married to this woman for 15 years, and both of them regularly saw opposite sex friends. She was constantly bringing multiple guys home from work. Similarly, my friend liked to have coffee with his exes or other women he knew. But they both hung out with opposite sex friends, she probably more so than him (let's face it, it's easier for women to pick up orbiters).jurry said:I have yet to hear one real life example of a girl who pursued exclusivity with a high value man and then didnt understand what that meant, was out hanging with other men all the time, etc. It makes no sense biologically and is totally inconsistent with female dating psychology.
They CAN, but for the most part, they don't WANT to.zekko said:Are you really suggesting that women will not fvck more than one man at a time?
That's because it's all their realtionships are bull $hit. They don't give a fvck about the guys they are with, he's just someone who may or may not make their vag tingle, and who also keeps them warm at night. These guys are just someone until someone new comes along.zekko said:Because that's what it sounds like. Anyway, I don't agree women can't love more than one guy at a time. Or, even if they do, they might love one guy for five minutes, then five minutes later be all about some other dude. Women are infamous for being fickle. I don't agree that being faithful is some intrinsic trait of the female gender, that's why the manosphere talks about hypergamy so much. Even once they find their Prince Charming, they can always be on the lookout for Prince Charminger.
I don't think I'd ever go this far, but who knows, I've never been married 15 years. Anyways, if this above is true, then why are you preaching to the younger guys that they need to set boundaries? If your buddy has made it 15 years in a marriage all the while both parties having opposite sex friends, why are you saying that it doesn't work, and women will cheat, or whatever.A friend of mine was married to this woman for 15 years, and both of them regularly saw opposite sex friends. She was constantly bringing multiple guys home from work. Similarly, my friend liked to have coffee with his exes or other women he knew. But they both hung out with opposite sex friends, she probably more so than him (let's face it, it's easier for women to pick up orbiters).
Anyway, to them, this is what they both wanted, that's how they both wanted to live their lives, so they did. I would not find that acceptable, but that's why couples have to decide for themselves what they want.
Danger said:So you would expect her to drop the men who want to fvk her, but NOT drop the men who do not want to fvk her.
And how does she know the difference between these two types of men?
Danger said:Because it still fails to be answered, just like my other questions.
At the end of the day, this is not about boundaries, this is about whether or not you are ok with your gf hanging out with other men.
Jurry says it is ok if she doesn't want to fvk him and he doesn't want to fvk her.....ok fine...
- How does she know if he wants to fvk her or not?
- How does jury know if he wants to fvk her or not?
VikingKing said:Most women in western culture will not respect boundaries, because they are trash women who should be only used as *** dumpsters. Most western women are not worthy of any relationship or commitment from any man.
VikingKing said:Now a respectable, sane, healthy, normal woman will have no problem staying with in the boundaries because she is not screwed up in her head and recognizes that its the right thing to do. Women don't think logically as much as men do. They follow their feels.
Men do lead without having to set "verbal boundaries". Scared betas set boundaries out of fear following the woman's actions trying to police her activities.VikingKing said:This is why men have to lead, and women should always follow.
VikingKing said:So if you think that its useless to state your boundaries to a gf, then you shouldn't be committing to her or taking her seriously what so ever, you should be just using women like that for your entertainment.
VikingKing said:But in a way sooli, jurry, and peaks are right but not in the way they think they are.
European-DJ said:Women cannot be your first priority, nor your second, nor 3rd
captain55 said:Women always got their eye out on the bigger better deal brother. If a girl is attracted to a guy and she thinks she can cheat and get away with it, she will.
Starwolf said:My point is when you have a girl that is so in to you wanting you all for herself she doesn't even have to know what the definition of exclusivity is. It's clear as daylight that she wants you and you alone.
So why would you be fearful if she is going out or you see some chump trying to put the moves on her. At that the moment You are the only one who makes her "vage tingle"
And no, this is not a Unicorn woman. Women still fall in love like this. actually in the beginning stages of relationship a lot of women are totally fcking crazy about you and you alone... with some it just lasts longer... with others it's over in a month
and for that no amount of boundaries will change it... i'll say it again...when you feel you even start to think about boundaries with ur gf... Go dust off those game skills,... Someone about to be Soltero and Hittin the clubs/bars Again.
Sooli why don't you give us a few specific reasons you and your high value exes broke up and not some ambiguous "many reasons". Obviously these high value women you broke up with didn't just "know" unless you'd talked about it.Soolaimon said:People put up a boundary wall or fence for protection and to prevent other people from coming in.
That is what the boundary crew is doing with their women.
They are putting up an "imaginary verbal boundary" to protect themselves from being cheated on and to prevent their women from seeing other men.
We all know that "verbal words" can mean nothing and women have free will to do as they choose. That means the "imaginary verbal boundary" they put up will be useless and a waste of time when the women they date chooses not to follow it.
The boundary crew claims they don't "control" their women in any way. So their women can easily hang out with other men since they have the free will to do so when the crew members aren't the wiser even though they don't tolerate their women seeing other men.
Their entire logic and boundary premise is a fallacy.
So that would make setting a "verbal boundary" useless and a waste of time.
The only reason you would need to set a boundary is when you have a $hitty woman that you're trying to control her $hitty behavior.
That's a woman you should avoid for an exclusive relationship and not attempt to set a boundary with.
So when you have that respectable, sane, healthy, normal woman there is no reason to set a boundary. Cause she is not screwed up in her head and she already recognizes what the right thing to do is without having to "inform her" of exclusivity or to "control" her $hitty behavior.
But everyone in the boundary crew believes that no woman on the face of the Earth understands "exclusivity" and are unable to "police themselves" around other men. Therefore they set their "boundaries" to "control" her behavior for their own security and protection.
Men do lead without having to set "verbal boundaries". Scared betas set boundaries out of fear following the woman's actions trying to police her activities.
When you're constantly worried about her behavior holding her down to "boundaries" you're not leading. She is. You're reacting to her $hitty behavior instead of you doing your own thing. She should be worried about other women wanting you if you had high value. Not you worried about her wanting other men placing more value on to her with your low value.
It's useless to state verbal relationship boundaries period.
The boundary guys are putting boundaries on crappy women to control their behavior. They shouldn't commit to those women but they do.
Putting boundaries on respectful sane normal women is not needed cause they won't cheat on you. Why would you need to "inform them" when they already understand what exclusivity is?
Not "in a way". We are right cause their is no logic to their boundary fallacy.
But the boundary crew is making women their first priority putting boundaries on them.
That makes "verbal boundaries" useless and a waste of time when she thinks she can cheat and get away with it.
Great post my man. Accurate and to the point!
The boundary crew won't understand this common sense cause this goes against their flawed logic and the delusion they believe.
The boundary crew believes that all women will still keep other men around regardless cause they don't understand the term "exclusivity". They say women won't give up those men until they are "informed" that is not acceptable in an exclusive relationship. After the women are "informed" of "exclusivity" the women then supposedly drop all men for the boundary crew guys and follow all "their terms" and "expectations"after they were only stated once. Then the boundary crew guys "police" their women's activities to make sure the boundary they verbalized "just once" is being followed. What a way to live LOL.
These guys have no clue that their women can still see other men if they wanted to.
They are gullible as well just believing everything women tells them just going on her words alone.
The boundary crew all believes women are so stupid they don't understand what exclusivity means.
How do they expect women (who they all believe are too stupid to understand what exclusive means) to fully understand and follow all their "expectations" from a brief 1 minute conversation (after the women behaved that way their whole life) when they all believe women can't control themselves around other men?
Obviously they are "policing" their women's activities like zekko admitted in this thread.
Danger said:Again this is not about "having to tell her" because she is doing it, but moreso preventive maintenance.
Moreover I disagree that women will think it is *not* ok to hang out with those men simply because betas have trained them otherwise.
Danger said:So will answers to my questions be forthcoming now?
So why would you leave a so called high value woman who'd do anything for you in your no boundaries exclusive relationship for another? Unless she wasn't the true high quality girl who just "knew" you thought she was in the first place? Therefore what you thought you originally "knew" you found different.Soolaimon said:How can Danger claim it's not about "having to tell her" in the first quote when in the second quote he disagrees with that claim?
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It's preventive maintenance now? Look at that...you just disagreed with yourself. LMAO
Danger, you just contradicted the entire premise of your boundary theory very badly once again.
First you say in black "you don't have to tell her" because "she is doing it" which is removing men on her own. You and your boundary crew disagree with me on that claiming that is false.
Then you say in contradiction below in red (which is the entire premise to your crap boundary theory) that women "don't know any better" to remove men unless "you tell them to" cause they've been trained not to know. So which is it Danger?
She can't "be doing it" cause according to you the crew "she doesn't know any better" and "she doesn't know what is expected of her". You just said that again below in red. So how can she be doing it on her own when you disagree with that?
According to your boundary fallacy she will not cut out any other men until you "define your terms" and make your "expectations" known to her. That is the claim all you guys make with your absurd boundary fallacy. You are quoted in red saying that contradicting your quote in black.
You, zekko, guru and the rest said that it is "false" many times that women will not cut out other men on their own. Why are you contradicting your claim again?
You have to "tell her" so she is informed of what is "expected" of her according to you.
If you believe your first quote that you don't have to tell her because she is already doing it...you would be agreeing with the non boundary position that you keep arguing against in over 12 threads now.
How many more times are you going to contradict yourself with your crap boundary argument that changes with each sentence and post?
All the answers to your questions have been answered in detail in post #335.
I've asked you some questions that you still didn't answer.
So will the answers to my questions I asked you be forthcoming now?
Here's what you and the rest don't understand
Boundary with a respectful woman = Her not cheating
Boundary with a disrespectful woman = Her cheating
No boundary with a respectful woman = Her not cheating
No boundary with a disrespectful woman = Her cheating
In both cases with or without a boundary the respectful woman does not cheat.
In both cases with or without a boundary the disrespectful woman cheats.
With the respectful woman no boundary is needed cause she won't cheat.
With the disrespectful woman the boundary is useless and a waste of time cause the woman is going to cheat regardless.
That makes the entire concept of the boundary pointless.
This is what I and others have said from the get go that these idiots claim as "straw man"
It's simple common sense that they can't comprehend or refuse to admit.
Just like TarantulaHawk can't comprehend that a relationship doesn't have to end from breaking a "boundary". He has no clue that a relationship can end when you go away to college, meet another girl, she gets a job across the country.
He and the others compare that to "breaking a boundary" or trying to compare smoking in a car to them being terrified their woman is going to bang another man. LOL