rsofa said:
Well, I kind of know her better, and I found out she has kind of a low self esteem.
How old are you? You took a really long time to figure that out, I assumed that the first post you made about her.
It seems to me you're the typical AFC.
Read the DJ bible:
http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/
To everyone saying you're friend zoned, you're not. BUT you are very close to being friend zoned unless you
PHYSICALLY ESCALATE. It could be too late for a relationship(Don't know why you would want one with an Emotionally Unstable, it's no fun) but it's better to know now and move on so you can either use her for her friends rather than being used as an emotional tampon yourself.
rsofa said:
News flash: today she was at school and me at home, and we were texting. I said to her that if she has time that she should call me. 2 hours later, she ended up in front of my house. We were alone, a little bit on the computer watching pictures and stuff, then because it was hot she layed down on my bed.
You're not getting deeper toward the friend zone but you're not going anywhere toward a relationship either. That oneitis you have for her isn't helping either. Her being Emotionally unstable is actually helping you.
rsofa said:
About the in bed stuff: She's not the type of girl to just have sex... she wont have it no way. Not even my priority. And she was pushing me away when I tried to make out, so yeah.
Don't worry I aint gonna text even more and be even more with her. I know I have to ignore her and stuff. It's just hard. That's all.
I asked her friend what does she think. She said she always talks about me and smiles when texting with me and stuff and that she maybe likes me. She's gonna ask her more.
That's bullsh*t. EVERY girl is a sl*t and just want's to fvck. And no she isn't different. They
WILL not say or admit that they do because society doesn't accept that as "Lady Like" (Thank the feminists for this :trouble
You clearly have oneitis for this girl and have shown signs of you taking the Blue pill. So i'll tell you how to get her just so you'll hopefully learn from this mistake.
You don't have to No contact her, that's jumping the gun in my opinion, going Ghost(Only talk when she talks to you) is completely acceptable. Only when she rejects you or begins playing mind games should you No Contact her.
Since she's emotionally unstable, there are a few different rules that apply for getting her. You're already half way there, so here's a push.
I don't recommend anyone else following these rules, being a DJ is far more greater as a personal and overall benefit.
Rules on how to get an Emotionally Unstable:
1. Emotionally Unstable people are Ego driven. That self validation is vital on their part. It's simple, you have to show you're comfortable with yourself (even if you have to lie) and not afraid of anything. She'll want what she can't have for herself in short.
This means NO AFC "Emotionally Broken" crap from your part what so ever.
2. You need to relate AND comfort her when
she brings up her "problems" when the time comes. This is also
vital. This requires a bit of experience, as it's difficult to maintain your frame and still be able to relate to her "problems" without being thrown into the friend zone. Anything negative you say about YOURSELF, you need to end it on a POSITIVE note. Saying mushy stuff
INDIRECTLY toward her is also a big help.
You need to be able to change her negative attitude into a positive one.
4.
The Art of conversation is also vital. None of that "How're you? "I'm well," "What're you doing?" crap.
Scroll down and refer to Step# 7
http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/
bradd80's Secret Guide to become a Don Juan, Scroll down it's:
LESSON XXVII: HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthr...=197705&page=5
(I would read his whole post if you haven't, it's worth the read!)
5. Purposely failing sh*t test's
SOMETIMES. Meaning if she says she's "ugly" you to tell her she isn't.
6. Physically and sexually escalate will prevent you from being thrown into the friend zone, FB at the very least(which is good
).
Be dominant(meaning escalate/ask her out), this step is universal.
If you follow these steps, and judging from your position with her, then you should have her within a week.
HOWEVER if you continue to follow these steps WHILE you're with her, and give into her attention seeking/self validation behavior you'll loose her within a month.
Also to be noted, the sh*t tests that she will throw at you will be endless. According to most DJ's on this forum including myself, you've failed almost all of them at this point BUT because shes emotionally unstable you're not out of the park. You're still her ego boost and she won't let that get away, plus you've shown you're better than her(from the rules i posted above) by displaying confidence and still displaying your emotional/empathetic side.
Emotionally unstable people aren't worth the trouble. You give part of your manliness and dignity in the process and will almost always end up getting burned by her emotionally immature behavior. :kick:
You're still in high school just like me,
I want you to profit from this experience. The only type of girls AFC's get are the emotionally unstable ones. DJ's don't even give them the time of day.
Keep us posted.
