Approaching is something that 99% of men, no matter how much of a "Don Juan" or a "PUA" they are, will always be somewhat "scary" ... And not because of the fear of rejection per se , but rather of the unknown. Here you are approaching a complete stranger, and you have no clue what the outcome will be... You immediately sub contentiously make up scenes in your head of the way you THINK things will go etc. Its only natural. Think of it this way.. Lets say you are going to an amusement park for the 1st time, you've seen pictures of it and it seems like a really nice place... But the 1st time you go you will always have that "excitement" about it that you wont have AS MUCH OF the next time you go to the amusement park. Now this can be related, in a sense, to approaching women.
You are in a club, and you see this beautiful woman, she looks beautiful and seems like a nice person, but there is still that factor of her being "unknown" to you.
Now what I am getting at is as follows... After approaching many women, one will slowly begin to realise the familiar patterns in the behavior of a woman when you approach her... her body language, her tone of voice, the way she looks at you, etc. Now in general, a woman that IS interested in you will naturally give out some of these signs that will give you the impression that she is into you. Or Visa versa in some cases.
Anyways, onto the more important stuff... The approach itself. Now lets think about this for a second... Lets pretend that you are the girl, and now there is this guy that approaches you... Now how would you want to be approached? Would you be impressed if you had a nervous guy standing in front of you trying to do whatever he can to try and impress you/not make a fool of himself? I don't think so.
There is this type of "wall" that stands between a stranger and people that know each other. This doesnt only apply with women... Think about it.. Think of one of your closest friends.. You can do anything around them, you feel completely comfortable around them. But before you knew that person, he/she was a stranger to you, and that comfort wasn't there. If you noticed, I put the word "comfort" in bold... because this is one of the most important, yet overlooked aspects with regards to meeting women. If you get a woman to feel comfortable around you, and eliminate that awkwardness/uncomfortable feeling, then you are already a few steps ahead of any other guys in that club/bar/wherever you are.
Now in order to achieve this you might think that you will need to do something drastic etc, but in order to accomplish this you really need to just do something simple, and easy... And thats to just BE comfortable around women, and make them FEEL comfortable around you.
There has always been those "ice breakers" etc floating around, but those don't really do the job right, because you "break the ice", and then you still need to work on making her feel comfortable around you.
MY way is that you practically TREAT a complete strange woman as if you have known her for a long time already.
I'll give you an example... last night me and a few friends went to a party and I had my eye on a girl there, she seemed like the type that was rather shy too, yet I went up to her and gave her my glass (I was drinking Vodka & lime at the time, though I like Jack & lime more these days), anyways, so I give her my glass and say "Can you just hold onto that for me for 2 secs plz, I just need to go outside and make a call quick, thanx *smile*" and I walk outside and make a phone call. I then come back about 2 minutes later and she was standing at the bar, about 2 meters away from where i gave her the glass.. So I go up to her and say "Hey, thanx for that, had to make a call and you looked innocent enough to not steal my drink... I'm Tommy by the way *put out arm to shake her hand* (I say this in a C&F kinda way while flirting with her at the same time.)
She then Told me her name, shook hands and by this time she was already feeling comfortable around me. (I was different, confident, and a little funny) But now I never said to myself "okay she is comfortable, now i can start being nervous" .. no... I spoke to her as if she was one of my good girl friends.... Some people might think "but arent you going to get sucked into the "friendship zone" if you treat her like a good female friend?" .. Well the answer is no... because you are not treating her like a "good female friend", you are just giving her the comfort that a good female friend has around you, yet you are also flirting and "clicking" with her (I said "clicking" because of something that I wrote further down) ... I asked her about herself, told her about my life (not too long, don't wanna bore her, just a brief summary of my life) and then after about 10 - 15 minutes of just talking & sipping on our drinks, I had her laughing, telling ME jokes and all this stuff that she did in her life etc... things a girl wouldn't normally tell a stranger that she just met 20 minutes ago
... But anyways, my point being... Its about your mindset and the "environment" that you make for a girl when she is around you. If you are confident, jumpy/full of life, make her feel like she can do anything in front of you and u wont judge her, make her feel good/special, then the results will reflect accordingly.
Anyways, to cut a long story short, by the end of the night I had her telling me that she had never "clicked" with a guy so quickly in her life, and then made me promise her that I would call her the following day. (which is today :woo
And to think that all I did was make her feel comfortable around me and perhaps create more of a funky and fun environment around me, as appose to the usual anxiuose/worried approach that she is probably use to.
So guys, if you still have that anxiety with approaching women, then why not try a different, less awkward, more effective way? Try it out and let me know how it goes... I have been having huge success with this type of approach... Remember, with this approach, you're doing a whole lot more than just "breaking the ice" ... You are metaphorically shoving that ice block into a burning oven... And trust me, it will make most women melt...
Looking forward for some progressive feedback
Laterz...
You are in a club, and you see this beautiful woman, she looks beautiful and seems like a nice person, but there is still that factor of her being "unknown" to you.
Now what I am getting at is as follows... After approaching many women, one will slowly begin to realise the familiar patterns in the behavior of a woman when you approach her... her body language, her tone of voice, the way she looks at you, etc. Now in general, a woman that IS interested in you will naturally give out some of these signs that will give you the impression that she is into you. Or Visa versa in some cases.
Anyways, onto the more important stuff... The approach itself. Now lets think about this for a second... Lets pretend that you are the girl, and now there is this guy that approaches you... Now how would you want to be approached? Would you be impressed if you had a nervous guy standing in front of you trying to do whatever he can to try and impress you/not make a fool of himself? I don't think so.
There is this type of "wall" that stands between a stranger and people that know each other. This doesnt only apply with women... Think about it.. Think of one of your closest friends.. You can do anything around them, you feel completely comfortable around them. But before you knew that person, he/she was a stranger to you, and that comfort wasn't there. If you noticed, I put the word "comfort" in bold... because this is one of the most important, yet overlooked aspects with regards to meeting women. If you get a woman to feel comfortable around you, and eliminate that awkwardness/uncomfortable feeling, then you are already a few steps ahead of any other guys in that club/bar/wherever you are.
Now in order to achieve this you might think that you will need to do something drastic etc, but in order to accomplish this you really need to just do something simple, and easy... And thats to just BE comfortable around women, and make them FEEL comfortable around you.
There has always been those "ice breakers" etc floating around, but those don't really do the job right, because you "break the ice", and then you still need to work on making her feel comfortable around you.
MY way is that you practically TREAT a complete strange woman as if you have known her for a long time already.
I'll give you an example... last night me and a few friends went to a party and I had my eye on a girl there, she seemed like the type that was rather shy too, yet I went up to her and gave her my glass (I was drinking Vodka & lime at the time, though I like Jack & lime more these days), anyways, so I give her my glass and say "Can you just hold onto that for me for 2 secs plz, I just need to go outside and make a call quick, thanx *smile*" and I walk outside and make a phone call. I then come back about 2 minutes later and she was standing at the bar, about 2 meters away from where i gave her the glass.. So I go up to her and say "Hey, thanx for that, had to make a call and you looked innocent enough to not steal my drink... I'm Tommy by the way *put out arm to shake her hand* (I say this in a C&F kinda way while flirting with her at the same time.)
She then Told me her name, shook hands and by this time she was already feeling comfortable around me. (I was different, confident, and a little funny) But now I never said to myself "okay she is comfortable, now i can start being nervous" .. no... I spoke to her as if she was one of my good girl friends.... Some people might think "but arent you going to get sucked into the "friendship zone" if you treat her like a good female friend?" .. Well the answer is no... because you are not treating her like a "good female friend", you are just giving her the comfort that a good female friend has around you, yet you are also flirting and "clicking" with her (I said "clicking" because of something that I wrote further down) ... I asked her about herself, told her about my life (not too long, don't wanna bore her, just a brief summary of my life) and then after about 10 - 15 minutes of just talking & sipping on our drinks, I had her laughing, telling ME jokes and all this stuff that she did in her life etc... things a girl wouldn't normally tell a stranger that she just met 20 minutes ago
... But anyways, my point being... Its about your mindset and the "environment" that you make for a girl when she is around you. If you are confident, jumpy/full of life, make her feel like she can do anything in front of you and u wont judge her, make her feel good/special, then the results will reflect accordingly. Anyways, to cut a long story short, by the end of the night I had her telling me that she had never "clicked" with a guy so quickly in her life, and then made me promise her that I would call her the following day. (which is today :woo
And to think that all I did was make her feel comfortable around me and perhaps create more of a funky and fun environment around me, as appose to the usual anxiuose/worried approach that she is probably use to.
So guys, if you still have that anxiety with approaching women, then why not try a different, less awkward, more effective way? Try it out and let me know how it goes... I have been having huge success with this type of approach... Remember, with this approach, you're doing a whole lot more than just "breaking the ice" ... You are metaphorically shoving that ice block into a burning oven... And trust me, it will make most women melt...
Looking forward for some progressive feedback
Laterz...
