backbreaker
Master Don Juan
the point isn't that the drug addict mother is trying to be manipulative.. that's what drug addicts do.betheman said:Id pay for the dentist but Id also make damn sure that there is no more drinking from the fountain.
you are in danger of setting a precedent here, I also suspect there is a bit of background that 5string isnt aware of. druggy parents need money for drugs, they ahve prioritised their use of substances over their childs health, how fc uckign low can you get?
by paying for the dentistry, you are indirectely suporting the situation. Mrs 5 string should be raising hell against her daughter. would you be in this situation if you werent getting banged regulalrly? believe me, that tap can be turned off pretty damned quickly if the money runs out
the point is are you gonna let the child's mouth hurt like hell over freaking Christmas beucase he has ****ty parents?
i personally couldn't do that.
i am a big brother int he big brother/big sisters program, i've walked into Andre's (the boy) house at times and could smell the crack smoke coming out of the mom's room and she'd come out twitching and gloss eyed i know what's going on, but am i to let the kid starve beucase his mom is too drugged out to buy groceries and has traded all the **** he does have to eat for more drugs? i cant' do that.
so i bought him a little mini fridge and put a lock on it that only he has the key to. do I know for a fact that the mom is using me beucase she knows i will make sure he has food? of course she's a drug addict just like i am i know how she thinks. but that doesn't give me the pass to let the kid not eat.
the kid, not the mom is the priority. I can't effect or make the mom want to act right. There is nothing i can do to make the mom want to stop smoking. I'm not going to call DHS and be the guy that is responsible for taking his momma away from him i've seen that happen first hand. But what i can do is make sure the kid doesn't turn to a life of crime or doesn't become a drug dealer because he has to put food on the table. That i can have some control over.;
My grandmother and i, the one who recently passed away the reason we dont' get along or didn't get along is beucase she would let her drug addict boyfriend spend a;ll her money the she would call me and ask me to do **** for her and i would do it, and then i would find out he took that money too. i parked a car over her house when i moved to Florida and i came back a month later for thanksgiving only to find out that he had sold it for crack money. my ****ing car. but that doesn't' give me a right to not to help out my grandmother.
that's the way I see it. do right when you can, let god sort out the rest.
I would just make sure that either i paid the dentist myself in person or that i got a receipt for the dental bill but other than that, the kid's teeth are the issue not stepping boundaries. at least that's my view point. Being an addict in recovery this is an issue i see quite often and you never make the kid's suffer for the parents mistakes or else you are continuing the cycle of drug abuse. now, if the mom called me, andre's mom called man said she needed money to pay the light bill i woudl tell her to go die ina fire lol and i would go pick up andre and let him stay here utnil she got the lights cut back on. I've done that before. **** he has his own bed. i'm not giving her a ****ing dime. but i would never take it out on the son or in this case the boy's whose teeth need to be fixed.