I am hoping to stop in and see her next week and just call her over to me. And then mention we could possibly go to dinner or something on the weekend.
If I do not get the chance to visit in person could I email her? And tell her that I am sorry I never gave her my name. And then give her my phone number. And let her take it from there?
Frank,
I don't know the previous story with this chick but just asking for dates out of the blue rarely works. Unless her interest is very high chances are she will reject. She probably doesn't know you very well and dates with strangers can be intimidating. Your chances go up significantly if you chat for awhile first and you can get her laughing. Right at that time when she is laughing (once it dies down of course) is a great time to ask for a date or phone number.
The more you see her and have friendly fun conversation the better your chances are since she will be familiar with you and you haven't come on too strong. In your case it sounds like rejection might sting a bit so it might be best for you to work on her a few more times before asking for a date or phone number.
That way you'll be more sure of her interest level.
Getting her number:
"It's been great talking to you. Why don't you write your number down for me so we can chat some more sometime."
Notice is not a question. Its a demand.
Asking for a date:
"Hey Friday night I'm heading to _______ for a bite to eat and then going to ________ for some more fun. Why don't you join me."
Once again its all in the wording. You're making a request but in a different way than "Would you like to go for dinner sometime?" In this way she believes you already have plans for a great time and she's being invited. No pressure and if she refuses you don't feel the sting of rejection as badly. In any case get her number too so you can ask her out again some other time if she already had plans etc.
Other advice. Don't give women your number. Don't put the ball in her court. You are in control of the situation.
Also trying to build interest thru email is a terrible way to go. Get her in person. Same with phone calls. Keep them short and sweet and use them to plan a date.
More stuff you probably already know. Don't be overeager asking for dates or numbers. Any rejection gets handled with a smile and don't be afraid to try again after some time goes by. Like your friend told you - persistance sometimes works.
Sh!t Frank! I just looked at your picture and you should have no real problems at all! You're a good looking guy.
Clothing - Not so sure about the gray and white striped shirt. Those colors aren't your best choice. I also don't like the button down collar, the pen and other stuff weighing down your pocket. Also like echo said hide the cell phone. A blue shirt would work great with those pants. Even though you are an older guy don't be afraid to dress with a youthful flair. You don't look that old and dressing younger looking wouldn't be a stretch for you at all.
Anyways Frank its good to finally put a face to your name. I'm in complete agreement with Echo in regards to working out and improving your looks (hair/clothes). You'll be amazed how much better you'll feel about yourself once you start taking pride in your appearance.
You're on your way Frank. Keep us updated.
Good luck,
Slick
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