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At very least you have a majorly unstable attention-seeker/drama-queen and undoubtedly damaged goods, whilst at worst you have a full-on BPD - quite a few of the alarms are there. Leave this one well behind you now! And recognise that the feelings you have for her are in no small part a direct...

Yup, not a great deal of interest and as an older guy, she might well feel that you won't fit into her social circle - Move-on and if she starts showing more interest, fine but don't expect much from this one.

I think you answered that when you mentioned she has a personality disorder - you can expect periods of utter irrationality with most of them.

I'd also hazzard a guess that a BPD's behaviour and inherent natural capacity for game could bump-up/project their apparent attractiveness a good point or two for many guys.

The "Honeymoon Period," is also a very aptly named part of the BPD relationship process. I know it varies and some BPDs will show their hand early-on, yes but many BPDs can go for quite some time in what seems like the perfect, in fact the most perfect relationship you could possibly imagine...

In my case although things were going very well on the surface, there were a few signs, most of which could have gone either way - one in particular was that her phone was busy but she left it through in the kitchen and dealt with it there when previously she'd have it in the living room with...

Or they could already be posted on here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18379

Being a half-decent dancer will get you a lot more interest from women IME. So to that end it does help you to be seen dancing with a variety of women, even if you have no/little interest in most of them.

Mirroring and marked identity issues are key attributes for many BPDs - where they hook their victim into a relationship by presenting themselves as being exactly what the poor guys concerned thought they always wanted. Which in some cases is the essence of perfect femminity and in others it...

You won't get anything across to him until he's ready and willing to listen - Usually not until she has split him so badly or so often that he can no longer deny/rationalise/avoid recognising that there is something very seriously wrong here. In the meantime, you could gather some of the...

I use Chanel Blue quite a bit - Its clean, smart, light floral/powdery scent, wearable day to day and has always got very good reactions. It is also quite reasonably proced and does not cause me any skin irritation/headache problems, which a number of scents can do after a while Another one...

BPD is one of a range of PDs, I think I made that clear enough, so don't try to put words in my mouth! :rolleyes: Self-mutilation is a symptom common to several PDs, not BPD alone - and TBH, it is often completely absent in favour of other forms of self harm where BPD is concerned. You need a...

She was indeed - far less whale like in 2001! And Brosnan's previous wife, the late Cassandra Harris was an actual Bond Girl - Years before he was in the frame for the part. In fact when they got together, Brosnan was the funny-looking fat one.

If she is a genuine BPD, she will be back. Its a certainty - just wait. Mine is still making the odd attempt to get back in my life a good couple of years after I closed the door forever. Last was only a few weeks ago but at least the frequency is eventually decreasing.

Rather! :D Nope, for a substantial part of that time I weathered all the same extremes of idealisation and devaluation as guys here have reported with all the same bewilderment, stress and anguish, had times where we were split-up completely and was inevitably hoovered back - Then I finally...

Mine lasted five and a half but with all the usual ups and downs so I can speak! :up: However its all about the extremes within that time and I have to say that the period before I bailed-out, where I'd recognised and finally accepted her BPD (with good help from here :) ) and that I could...

Are we maybe jumping to conclusions about JAT's other half here? After all, he could be one of those guys who have demonstrated themselves able to sustain a LTR with a BPD - Controlling/Disorganised Narcissists, Avoidants, massive and undentable egos etc, or simply keeping his options open...

Sorry mate - Nothing I've yet seen or read about Lanza even remotely suggests he suffered from BPD to me. Certain other PDs, maybe but not Borderline.

Sounds like she's bored and looking for attention, a bit of power, gratification or validation. Giving-in to which might seem nice but can undermine things if you do it too much. Don't reply to everything and put any reply on hold for a while and keep some mystery about the delay -...

A trip to the clap clinic for a mutual check-up may not be the most brilliant choice for a first/early date!