My Brother is dating a BPD...how to get across to him?
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Bible_Belt
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Do you have any more evidence of her being bpd?
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Love is blind. What can you really do? When someone is blindly in love, exposing the woman for who she is will only elicit resentment from your brother. The only thing you can do is to casually ask leading questions to see if he reveals some doubts, and if he does leverage the conversation to open up his eyes. Questions are a lot more disarming than statements.
backseatjuan
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Man the last thing is family like you not liking something about your mate. It's simply is gay. My advice is get over it.
5string
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How do you know she's BPD?
SgtSplacker
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Being in a relationship with a BPD is bad enough, add in your family being all up in your biz and it's just too much. Just try to support your brother in a positive way.
You don't give any detail which doesn't help.
BUT... i've found trying to get involved in other peoples relationships just causes them to think you are the bad guy. And usually the guy (especially if he's whipped) will stand up for her no matter how bad or wrong she is.
BUT... i've found trying to get involved in other peoples relationships just causes them to think you are the bad guy. And usually the guy (especially if he's whipped) will stand up for her no matter how bad or wrong she is.
You won't get anything across to him until he's ready and willing to listen - Usually not until she has split him so badly or so often that he can no longer deny/rationalise/avoid recognising that there is something very seriously wrong here.
In the meantime, you could gather some of the info/links on BPD here together so you can give them to him when that time comes. The usual caveats on not being that guy who sticks his oar-in without welcome apply, so take care of your own position and just leave him to draw his own concllusions (if any at all) once you have.
And yes, some more info on how her potential BPD is manifesting itself to him would help.
In the meantime, you could gather some of the info/links on BPD here together so you can give them to him when that time comes. The usual caveats on not being that guy who sticks his oar-in without welcome apply, so take care of your own position and just leave him to draw his own concllusions (if any at all) once you have.
And yes, some more info on how her potential BPD is manifesting itself to him would help.
VladPatton
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Leave it alone, and let him find out. You will be labeled 'the bad guy' guaranteed. All this stuff we talk about on here is like classified Area 54 shıt. Keep it to yourself and don't talk about it. Most men won't understand and will think you're just crazy no matter how correct and how much of a visionary you are. It's one of the prices to pay for taking the red pill.