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Change your goals as a DJ.... Don't just go for a large number of casual flings/plates/choices. Use your skills to actually get into a steady relationship. Yes, the 'thrill of the chase' might disappear after a while, the fornication might get boring/less, but.....you will have someone...

Was just reading an article on SS that basically says to assume she likes you, and not look for her reactions/lack of reactions to gauge her interest. Otherwise you'll go crazy! Having just gone through a situation similar to the OP, where I think I misread signals, I can say it's easier said...

Interesting just how quickly a woman's mind can change... I was going to post a separate post about my latest failure... I had been texting (through whatsapp) a girl I met recently. We had some great late night chats which were fun, witty, in which I often teased (and was teased in...

Ztime, Ain't no woman, no matter how good lookin (or which of your buttons she presses), worth the pain that you've gone through. Easier said in hindsight of course. Take care and remember the next 'right one' could just around the corner. Then you'll completely forget the bad...

Mangotot. I wouldn't tan if I was already dark-skinned! On white skin a bit of tan looks good because it shows an 'active' outdoorsy and healthy appearance. On a naturally dark-skinned person, adding a tan would just make you look darker. Not necessarily healthier or more attractive.

wow. Where do I find a chick like this? :)

to the OP. If you consider yourself goodlooking, and get validation from others telling you the same, it's quite hard to feel sympathy for you. NO matter how good your personality is, having good looks (and knowing that you're good looking) must surely make it a he** of a lot easier to...

Fantastic post. I'd totally agree with the order as well. For me the problems are always #1 and #2. In those initial times with a girl, when you're not sure whether she's into you, but you think she is. That's when I see my insecurity rising, and my impatience to see her again (and I...

I'd agree with AbyShake. I've often felt that being white, and preferably over 5ft 10 really helps. No matter how good my 'game' is, I know that all things being equal, if I was white I would do a lot better :) The other associated problem with the non-white or non-black races is that...

Helping someone, whether a lover or a friend, can't hurt (unless you strain your back of course). I wouldn't insist on helping, but just make an open offer. Just don't go all 'girlie' and have expectations that you'll get instant gratification or anything. As another poster mentioned, you...

Sounds like she's the obsessive type. And she wants you to be obsessed with her. I think it may be called 'codependence'. Agree with most of the responses so far....once you soften up (act like you're obsessed with her and nothing else), she will lose interest. I don't think you should...

Wise words Zekko (and all). Agree that it's harder for a man to make himself the prize. In my own case I find that the hardest stage is the very initial 'hook'. Once I know that the woman is interested, I go into the 'prize' mindset pretty comfortably. I can really feel the relaxed feel...

Guess I want to know what I did wrong so I don't repeat the mistakes with the next woman... Our first meeting was light and fun and short. She offered her number. I waited about a week to contact. She responded fairly quickly with the "...we'll catch up soon". Then no reply to my text...

thanks all I might wait until next week before sending her a short text. I'm a bit annoyed that she didn't even reply to my invite, even to say 'no'. cheers z

thanks Espi. I think I can see how the 'specificity' might work. I rememeber reading some article on SS years ago, about how females need to be told/instructed. Do you think it's too late to salvage this one? In your earlier post you suggested trying one more time. I might call rather...

Should I just move on so quickly, if it's someone I really wanted to get to know? At my age, and admittedly average looks!, opportunities are not too frequent :)

hi all was reasonably specific in my last SMS. Said "I was coming into town on Wed for business, did she want to have lunch?" I'll take the advice above and go 'ghost'. Does it seem silly to call her in a week or so, or just move on? cheers

hi all I recently had coffee with a lady that I've been wanting to take out for literally years. She worked near me. I finally had the courage to boldly go to her workplace (...with a slightly contrived work reason!). She went out and we had a great conversation. When I asked for an...

agree wholeheartedly with STR8UP! I've experienced very similar situations, in fact going through one right now... No woman is ever really vulnerable...THey're always far stronger mentally than most men! Z

hey, thanks guys! Esp that link to the article about 'breaks'! :-) Maybe she is finishing up with me. After all she confessed to being in 'love' with me just last week. But instead of making me really happy, it felt kind of strange...like she was making herself feel better by saying...