"New friends are like silver, old friends are like gold" never a truer word said.
Sometimes when we are on the road to self improvement, popping those red pills, MGTOW etc etc, we actually can lose sight of the truer meanings in life.
I've been where you are and I've also done some decent self should searching - in my moderate slightly clinical way. This is what I have learnt so far:
1. The most important thing to you in life is your health. Family, friends and money mean nothing, when you have a belly full of cancer or similar. Health first - mental, emotional, physical. Period.
2. Family and friends are crucial to the development, happiness and health of an individual. Sure I can be alone, and often I am. But to garner friendship people need to want to be around you, whether they be family or friends. And they will want to be around you for a simple reason - they like you. You make them feel good. You are a decent person. Not a sap, not a yes man, not a fake person, but someone who has a good soul.
3. Self development is a good thing. Financial health, good physicality, social skills and circles of people you can at least touch base with. However this is often difficult to achieve in a society when screens, FB 'friends' and social media replace one thing. Actual human contact. When was the last time you got to know someone? I mean REALLY put in some effort. Not touch base with them, but know them. You'll have to listen, not speak. Try it. It's really, really good.
4. It's easy to complain about being alone when you don't offer a branch for someone else to grab. Being the bigger person and putting yourself out there, is a skill that has been very rewarding to me. Without being over friendly, or trying to befriend any and everyone, just slowly makes progress in this area. There is a big difference between an acquaintance and a friend.
5. Realise that your self worth - as a person, not just this cool guy, or a wealthy man for example, but as YOU, is the greatest asset in your persona that you have. From that comes confidence, like-ability, manliness, friendliness and a host of other traits. That results in (wait for it), people wanting to know you. Your mental and emotional health grow, you grow and it self perpetuates.
No doubt there will be some people reading this, thinking I'm advocating some type of soppy, self help manual. I'm not. Really. People that are close to me would say I am business sharp, can be opinionated and don't suffer fools easily. But it's the whole package that counts.
In summary, you can be all M.A.N and still be liked, welcomed and befriended by many different people. If you feel inclined, PM me and we can chat.
Out.
