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hi all my gf has gone on a 2 week holiday (without me). She said it would be a good break from each other as we have endured a few problems along the way. Been together about 4 months now. She's been away now 3 days and only sent me a text message to say she'd arrived. My mind is...

thanks guys thank you all for the many responses Reading them has given me some inner strength and resolve not to write any emails/SMSs!!! Now I hope I can resist day after day. I know that when I find another relationship or some other activity to get obsessed with, then I'll...

thanks for the responses so far guys I'll try to resist emailing/calling her. See if she makes any attempts? If she doesn't then I'll know where I stand! I guess I wanted to be proactive (perhaps childish) and send an email (polite one) stating that we're through. Maybe this is just...

wow! I see this more of a dream than a problem!! wish all small towns were like that! ;-)

guys, should I write a non-nasty email stating that we're finished, or just ignore her permanently? If I send the email, should I at least state what has pi**ed me off (without going into all the history!) cheers!

Hi all a girl I was seeing for 2 years has moved across the world. There's no real chance of us being together again. We parted well but now I'm missing her. however it does seem that I'm the one making the phone calls and sending the emails. So...question to those who have been in a...

hi guys great responses so far. I'm actually pleasantly surprised by the number supporting the continuation (within reason) of the relationship. Deep down I want that too, but I guess from past experiences with other females, I'm scared of being 'dumped'!!! Guess that really is my own...

hi guys guess this question comes up quite often... In a 2.5 LTR. She's about to leave (in 3 weeks) to go overseas for ever. On top of that it's a long-distance relationship at present (though soon to be far-more-long-distance!) For many reasons I cannot go with her, and nor can she...

the honest approach HI wyldfire and tomb, will definetely take your advice on the phone calls! But man...I have to resist the temptation! Maybe everytime I get the urge to call , I'll just come on here and write instead :-) Joekerr - I think there is much to be gained from the honest...

is it codependency? hI guys thanks for the replies so far. I sometimes suspect that my relationship is a little 'codependent' in that I love to be wanted by her. That's perhaps why I reacy negatively to anytime she reduces her 'attention' to me.... It's up to me to recognise whether...

hi guys i feel like i'm being taken a bit for 'granted' by a woman that I've been in a relationship with for 18 months. I really like her and want to continue, BUT I want to build her desire and appreciation for me, without having to tell her so. How can I realistically play being a...

balance your perspectives Being a relative newbie to the DJ website and its info, what I suggest is to not blindly follow all the advice. Read it, chew it over, and think of what you might have done wrong in the past. But don't completely lose who YOU are by nature. Some advice can lead...

HI guys hope you're all doing well! I'd like some advice... THere's a girl I'm keen on. We've been out 3 times. First 2 times were lunches, then finally a dinner. However no mention of previous or current relationships came up until after the dinner... I put my arm around her...

hi guys thanks for the advice so far... I guess I had contemplated breaking it off with her, but at the same time am wary of losing something special. A while back I read that article on here somewhere about the 'rubber-band' technique of push/pull. Does anyone know where it is? I...

Hi all in total love with a woman (long distance relationship). However I do realise that my moods are so dependent on how she has talked to me on a particular day. If I just hear her for a minute saying that she Loves Me, or misses me, I can feel my entire spirit lift. That lasts for...

forgot to add Wyldfire's post reminded me that I forgot to say that the ex was only temporarily staying with me till accommodation was sorted. She's newly ex. But...point taken anyway Z

Dear all, This is my very first message on here, though I've been reading the articles for a few months. They're great! Anyway... met a lady (32yo) I'm 37yo and we started 'dating' about 6 weeks ago. Things were looking good...I had told her that I was divorced with no kids. But...