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    Marriage relationship incident

    The relationship was great. When we got married and moved in it was bad. It was more me then her. However things got better
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    Marriage relationship incident

    - How old are you? Height? Weigh? Fat? Skinny? Fit? Early 30's. Fit. Hit the gym 6 days a week. - Was is like that since the beginning? Been much better now. Beginning was awful. - Was she ever disrespectful since the beginning? she has been disrespectful yes but thats when the arguments...
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    Marriage relationship incident

    To be fair this year it has been the least problems. The last real issue we had was in July. After that there were a few but I managed to descalate them. Today I did not intend to argue or fight. It was a genuine concern however she became very defensive and then just got mad. After that I...
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    Marriage relationship incident

    Its funy you mention that as the 'winning' was a thing until recently. I have genuinely changed that view to solving and looking for a solution. Its my wife that I think is still holding on to the 'winning' mindset. Had it been 'winning' i would not have given her the car keys nor wouldi have...
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    Marriage relationship incident

    I believe I was the reason for the toxicity in the relationship from the very beginning. Its been a cycle however now i am coming to that realization and trying to reverse it. However, my spouse isnt on board as clearly when we have been in a dispute recently, its been myself who has been mature...
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    Marriage relationship incident

    So i've been married for over 4 years and have known my wife for close to 9 years now. In general she's good, cooks cleans and generally listens to pretty much everything I say. Having said that, when we argue, it can get quite bad. In the past, it was more down to my own temper that...
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    Passive aggression in my Family

    tbh he is a coward. He shrivels at confrontation but hes very good at being manipulative, jokingly back chatting and berating and being passive aggressive. Its 101 manipulation and deceptive tactics he uses and i can see right through it. Its like when a bunch of boys in school throw a paper...
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    Passive aggression in my Family

    I agree. However, I dont see them often and when I do, im very apparent that i do not like them. I make it awkward and uncomfortable and I know it annoys my BIL. My only gripe this time is him saying to my wife that she aint smart because she married me. I would ignore it most times as you...
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    Passive aggression in my Family

    So me and my BIL dont get a long. when he comes to my parents home and Im there we dont talk to each other. Just shake hands. I dont like him and Ive set that precedent with him as he is a very horrid character. Anyways, whilst im at work he pops around my parents home with my sister (BIL wife)...
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    Whats with my wife?

    Thanks for this comment buddy. Yes shes asian/from the sub continent. The plan of moving is too hard as i live in london and its ultra expensive to leave. Moreover, I dont want to leave my family because of my wife. If push comes to shove, Ill leave her before I leave them. Especially of she...
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    Whats with my wife?

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    Whats with my wife?

    Im stuck. Literally have a kid coming today or tomorrow. 1st ever child and i get hit with these thoughts. Im acting indifferent atm. Not really giving my attnetion to her. Not to court her as such, just because im kinda numb towards her. I feel like i want to or need to pull back on the time...
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    Whats with my wife?

    Feel kinda numb right now. Im probably going to come across insecure, but I have to discuss it somewhere. Quick background: Im married. Wife is a housewife. Live with my parents and brothers. Wife does pretty much everything for me. Always up for sex and does everything i say. Literally...
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    I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

    Well i blocked her knowing she will send 1000 messages about how bad of a person i am. I can't be asked to read that and that energy is not needed for me when im working. That was truly the reason. Her coming to my workplace is ott as im not leaving her or doing anything other than not talking...
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    I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

    I agree. She wasnt disrepectful in your conventional way but disrespectful to how she normally is. She was sweet, sure,and i was more than willing to talk to her however, if i sit and talk to her when shes in a mood then all she wants to do is frame me as being wrong, then that just defeats...
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    I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

    Well Ive set the rules since day 1. In this case, she came to my workplace only because i blocked her. I feel thats an overreaction and something that can be a problem in the future if not dealt with. Ive ignored her so that she understands she messed up and once she is understanding of it, I...
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    I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

    My bad. Well I guess I want peoples thoughts on this scenario. As I said in the edit, I feel like shes giving mixed signals. Still making food but pulling a face. Not wanting to own up to her mistake of coming to my workplace and expecting me to apologies when she deff crossed the line.
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    I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

    Well its the way she spoke. Ive always been very strict on her and the way she speaks as I know if i let her talk out of line shell become disrespectful real quick. She never swore etc but her mannerism was harsh etc. Kind of un-wifely like if that makes sense. Now i understand that maybe...
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    I find myself in a situation (MARRIED!)

    So here goes. My wife and me have been married for more than a year. We get along quite well. Shes a ''good'' wife in that she cooks cleans and stays home. Weve had our ups and downs however this one is getting me thinking. 5 days ago, at work, we are speaking over the phone and suddenly...
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    Don't want a Civil Marriage

    bold: well thats not true as the religous marriage does ot make one sign off any of those agreements. A CIVIL marriage does hence why I dont want a CIVIL marriage. She is religous lol. People of pur background tend to get a religous ceremony as well as a civil one. I dont want a civil marriage...
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