So i've been married for over 4 years and have known my wife for close to 9 years now.
In general she's good, cooks cleans and generally listens to pretty much everything I say.
Having said that, when we argue, it can get quite bad. In the past, it was more down to my own temper that escalated things. The issue is though that she is also ill tempered so when she gets mad she can get quote bad too.
We've had family get involved to fix things and thankfully, due to my parents wisdom and advice, we have been able to get by. I admit that until recently, I have been immature in the way i deal with her when things get heated.
Now, in the last 2 years weve had 2 kids. Its made me realise that with this responsibility , as a man, I need to change things if I want to see my family thrive in a healthy environment.
Anyways, recently ive noticed my wife has been slacking with a few household duties. So today I pointed it out to her and wasn't the least rude but telling her that she is starting to get lazy and needs to fix up. The reaction I received was surprising. She gets mad and decides to leave the house with the kids. I ignore the weird reaction and proceed to go to work whilst ignoring her constant barrage of phone calls. An hour or so later she turns up at my office (thankfully no one was there) and wants the car keys(we share a car) as she needs to go out. My old self would resist as I know she's doing it to get to me, but I give her the keys and tell her to be mature. She then proceeds to demand money (i give her an allowance every month) and although ive given her allowance for the month, I giver her some money as I can see that this situation will get out of hand. She storms off. She proceeds to send disrespectful messages about how I am ungrateful and disgusting etc. etc. and im just confused as to what I really said for her to go off so badly.
I do want to add that she is pregnant.
I havent reacted and have been very calm. I note that for my children I must be the one willing to keep the peace however, the disrespect is quite evident.
How do i proceed in this matter.
In general she's good, cooks cleans and generally listens to pretty much everything I say.
Having said that, when we argue, it can get quite bad. In the past, it was more down to my own temper that escalated things. The issue is though that she is also ill tempered so when she gets mad she can get quote bad too.
We've had family get involved to fix things and thankfully, due to my parents wisdom and advice, we have been able to get by. I admit that until recently, I have been immature in the way i deal with her when things get heated.
Now, in the last 2 years weve had 2 kids. Its made me realise that with this responsibility , as a man, I need to change things if I want to see my family thrive in a healthy environment.
Anyways, recently ive noticed my wife has been slacking with a few household duties. So today I pointed it out to her and wasn't the least rude but telling her that she is starting to get lazy and needs to fix up. The reaction I received was surprising. She gets mad and decides to leave the house with the kids. I ignore the weird reaction and proceed to go to work whilst ignoring her constant barrage of phone calls. An hour or so later she turns up at my office (thankfully no one was there) and wants the car keys(we share a car) as she needs to go out. My old self would resist as I know she's doing it to get to me, but I give her the keys and tell her to be mature. She then proceeds to demand money (i give her an allowance every month) and although ive given her allowance for the month, I giver her some money as I can see that this situation will get out of hand. She storms off. She proceeds to send disrespectful messages about how I am ungrateful and disgusting etc. etc. and im just confused as to what I really said for her to go off so badly.
I do want to add that she is pregnant.
I havent reacted and have been very calm. I note that for my children I must be the one willing to keep the peace however, the disrespect is quite evident.
How do i proceed in this matter.