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Reminds me of this relationship i once had. she got involved with someone who was in a committed relationship in the past. As much as i liked her, I found it hard to see her as a LTR. I couldn't respect someone who doesn't respect the boundaries of a committed relationship

Yup, no one goes to tired or hot in a blink of an eye. There will be signs before reaching boiling point, so to speak. I guess she needs to learn how to communicate that better before acting out. Haha, the search for the elusive one still continues...

True that SP. I'm gona do that the next time she acts up again

Yeah, i get what you mean..It is a rather frustrating experience for me when it happens. Because i feel like on a date by myself when she acts up...how do i not take it personally.

Hey guys I've been dating this girl for a few months. And she has this emotional 'thing' of shutting down and being a stranger when she's feeling hot from the weather or tired. And it happened a few times and she will just walk off by herself or just be very withdrawn. I've told her before...

I'm actually cool providing more as a couple if it makes financial sense. But here's a girl who is also drawing a salary and she expects some weird expenditure and all. It doesn't sit well with me. The reason why I have the 50/50 split is to see how a girl feels about contributing evenly to a...

Wow, the social media and access to phone is pretty hardcore, even by my standards. Makes mine seem generous.

I agree. It's easy to believe that one can make the change when things are new and dandy. But she will start to resent me for 'forcing' her to abide by my value system down the road. And that's where the drama starts. With the good thoughtful comments here, it's hard not to make a good decision :)

Wise words mate, wise words. I have so many guy friends who went into relationships without setting boundaries and expectations and they end up dealing with many issues down the road. But since they are already so emotionally vested into their GF, they can't break it off. Yeah, my interactions...

It's funny that guys that expect women to pay their share in a relationship are considered cheap and ungentlemanly. Over the last few years, it has been through OLD and friends...but truth be told, i find it somewhat tiring to have to go through all these with women. Makes being single and...

Haha..yeah , we brought this crap upon ourselves to be honest. I have friends who solely pay for their couple holidays and come complaining to me that they are broke. And why I ask them why they cant do a 50/50 with their gf, their response is because the guy should pay...yeah in the 1950s..not...

Thanks mate. I learned it the hard way about not setting boundaries early. Gave myself lots of unnecessary headache with some of my past ex-es. Yeah, i told her she can't have her cake and eat it too if she wants me to be exclusive. Yes, i will definitely follow through on my boundaries if she...

Hey dude, thanks for the thoughts. It baffles me that girls out there still think that the guy should be paying more when they are drawing a salary themselves. And yeah, i do agree with you about the money. I told her i felt insulted that all the nice small gestures i did for her didnt mean...

Thanks for your thoughts AF. I do agree with your sentiments. I find it scary when a girl has them ratio of how much a guy should be paying to prove that she's worth it. That's probably how she was treated previously. I've never ever had a gf who told me that a 50/50 split is unbecoming of a...

Hey guys I'm 43 and have been dating a 28 year old for a few months and we have been talking about a LTR. I told her about my boundaries and she wasn't very keen on some of them. 1. She has a couple of good guy friends that she meet up for dinner once in awhile. And a few residing overseas...

I'm with OP on this. The amount of time and effort required just isn't worth the ROI.

Good advice. These days I no longer send any follower up text after the first date. If the girl is interested enough, she will send me one saying she had a good time blah blah. And If it's mutual I will ask her out for a 2nd meet.

20 years ago i might have said it is very likey. But at the age of 43 and never been married before, I'll take my chances as a single man. I don't sense any happiness from my married friends. All they complain about is how stressful and tiring it is raising their kids or the lack of intimacy...

It's not going to change. Same goes for girls who aren't naturally affectionate.

Move on dude. If a girl likes you but she's not ready for the next step, she will still be responsive and not ghost you. Let her be and go date other girls. If she likes you enough, she will get in touch again.