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Based on all you've mentioned about this woman, how she seems overly friendly, is the "sheltered type" and even naive to the fact that you are into her makes me think a "work coffee" idea could backfire. She could just say yes and go with you bc she's being nice and friendly. It wouldn't mean...

Its nice to know that not everyone here has decided to play the "She faded, so you clearly did something wrong" card. Contrary to my behavior and tone on here, I will admit that I may not have played things perfectly with this woman, and sure, maybe in her 40 year old mind and way of seeing...

I'm genuinely asking nicely because I'm curious, but how do you figure I was giving off "strong BF vibes" post sex when she was the one who came to me four days in a row before I then went ahead and asked her out again, to do nothing more than get a drink after work mind you. Was it bc I simply...

It was a pattern of only a few days, first of all. Its not like this chick was reaching out to me everyday for 2-3 weeks and I never reached out to her or never asked her out. I barely had the chance to "lead more" in this short timeframe. The first text was Saturday morning when she asked if I...

Yes, me responding flirty and nicely to all her texts while also asking her out a few days after we spent the night together definitely sends all those unequivocal messages and definitely made her feel used! :lol::rofl::lol:

She never ghosted me. If you read my post, you'd see she agreed to go out again. The problem was her complete change in communication. Second, as far as 99% she gave me "subtle signs", after I banged her she reached out to me four days in a row. All was well. The convo was fun and a bit flirty...

I'm sorry but I just fail to view myself as a failure in this particular situation. I think this was a Sex and the City type of 40 year old post wall never married woman who is playing the typical game of waiting for her perfect knight and shining armor that will never come and the second she...

Not that I disagree that she ended up being not that into me for whatever the reason, but this wasn't a typical two months of dating. We live VERY far apart from each other. Well over an hour. So again, getting together wasn't something that was able to happen casually and quickly like a plate...

Very interesting perspective tbh and one I really never gave much thought to. Many times as men after sex finally happens we're so worried about what our next move should be and how to game, etc etc, that we often forget the woman is actually going through or feeling. I mean she just had sex...

I'm not sure what the mystery is all about or why everyone is giving their own thoughts on what may have happened. This is a rare case where the woman came out with all of it, seemingly word for word. She was bothered by what happened during the sex, and that is basically that. Only thing you...

Thank you everyone for all your responses. Genuinely appreciate most of them. Just to clear up a few things and respond to some... If a man needs to go into every single plate never missing a single beat, making sure a date happens every single week without a miss, being a perfectionist, right...

So let me understand… she just randomly decided I wasn’t interested in her bc we haven’t gone out enough in two months and this decision of hers happened to come after I asked her out again? Got it. Comical and juvenile opinion. You also don’t know every detail in the slightest or just how much...

10+ years ago this may have been ok with me. Looking for more of a long game at this age now (39).

For the last two months we've gone on a few dates, four to be exact. I'm now 39, have been on many dates over the years and feel I have the distinction of being able to tell if there's really true chemistry between me and another woman over me just being infactuated with her bc she's hot/cute...

First, I know she's single because I overheard her answer someone about the topic a while back in a casual group convo at work. I forget if relationships were being discussed or what, but it came up. Second, relationship talk hasn't come up between us because again, first of all we only chat...

She is 28 and single. We have never spoken about dating or anything of that nature at all. For all I know she might not be into dudes. The convos have been 95% work and hobby related.

Yes I agree its absolutely better, and in a perfect world a work happy hour would be the thing. Hell, I probably wouldnt have even made this thread as it would be the obvious option, but I don't even work in her office to begin with (only there occasionally), and I know for a fact they don't...

I wouldn't say walk in the park. The issue at hand is the fact that this is a workplace pickup and it's something I don't really have much experience with at all. I don't think I've ever actually asked out a co-worker since my teenage days working as a cashier at a supermarket. This here is a...

While I really am fond of this girl and genuinely do think we have solid chemistry, I'm also willing to admit that yes, a scarcity factor is responsible for a lot of what is going on. I just turned 40 and for a number of years now, dating and meeting new women has almost been entirely isolated...

Seems like a very tough and overly aggressive crowd here. TLDR entire thread: I explained a story about how I'm interested in a woman at work who I've spoken to occasionally for the last year and have always been met with positive vibes from her and we seemed to have very nice conversation...