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First, let's be honest, if you were THAT into this chick in the first place, you wouldn't have immediately been banging another girl. That is normally your honeymoon phase in an LTR - not a time you're going to cheat unless you are not super into her to begin with. Second, her dumping you is...

I agree 2-3 days is ideal. If you decide to move in together, it completely complicates this. The reason being is that 2-3 days is probably still ideal, but you have no choice but for it be 7 days at that point. Hence why almost every relationship across the board generally dips in quality...

In college, I knew guys just like you did that fit this mold. They were generally very tall athletes at my college (which was a low D1 school) who basically had the "jersey chaser" girls all over them nonstop. In college, being good at throwing around a ball carries a lot of weight. Out in the...

Vetting is incredibly important. No doubt about it. But I can also tell you that relationship "depreciation" is almost unavoidable. It is impossible to screen for how certain things will affect a woman - no matter how long you vetted them. @SW15 likes to say that he thinks most LTRs have a...

When people say you need to have a "IDGAF mindset," this assumes you have the goods to back it up. Yes, if you just stumbled out of your parents' basement with no job, 40 pounds overweight, no assets, and look like a slob, no woman is going to give two sh1ts whether you have the IDGAF attitude...

I agree that marriage counseling generally is a waste of time. But not because of the reason you stated. The issue with marriage counseling is that, in order for it to work, BOTH sides need to be willing to compromise and understand/acknowledge some of the things they are doing are wrong. Now...

OP, If we are being completely honest, given the longevity of the disrespect and verbal abuse, it is likely that this is not salvageable in any way. In fact, I think the ONLY thing that can be saved here is that your son grows up to respect his father. And let's be honest, so long as your wife...

How traditional is her family? I think @Pierce.Manhammer is right you may be dealing with some cultural blockades here. Probably not what it is, but I have had some girls who have STDs do weird pull backs before. If she felt like she may have a herpes outbreak coming on it may explain why she...

Tom Petty - "You Got Lucky"

How long have you been together? Because they will definitely not last very long - trust me on that. Second, as others have stated, guaranteed this chick is batsh1t crazy to be voluntarily doing this stuff to you and being so enthusiastic about it. I too have a soft spot for the crazy ones like...

OP, Not escalating was a mistake, but other than that you are completely overthinking this. We get ourselves in trouble when we try to micro-analyze everything. I also think the cancelling of plans is generally an overrated tactic for creating interest. You definitely don't want her to think...

The "love of your life" being a woman you never slept with? How does that make sense? That is something a guy who is fully plugged in would say. And I know you aren't blue pilled - nor is the OP. I don't think that has any application here. If someone does feel that way, they need to be...

First the obvious: don't sh1t where you eat. Find chicks somewhere else other than work and save yourself a potential world of grief. This has been preached on here endlessly but I do see you're new. Some guys will tell you that it isn't a big deal, but there are plenty of horror stories out...

OP, First, don't feel bad that you have a weak spot for this chick. I think if a lot of us were honest, we would admit there is always that one chick in our lives that no matter how toxic and how much sh1t they put us in we feel this pull towards her. I still routinely run into one of my exes...

This certainly can happen. But there are many times the relationship dynamics change through no real fault of the man. Many women can cash it in just as easily a man can. Your description can apply to both sides. I have known multiple men who have gotten married and it is the woman who gets fat...

Low interest. If she had been interested in you, she would have done everything she could to stay in your vicinity once you both got onto the train, not taken a seat next to another person. I will commend you for approaching in the first place - something most men don't do. I am guessing you...

There is some truth to this. However, if the LTR is healthy I have never truly felt "confined" by it. Now, if the sex dries up OR it is just constant hell on wheels 24/7 then yes with frame wars, etc.- it will start to feel confining. But the mere fact I have other pvssy available to me while in...

If ever there was a poster for Cluster B that certainly fits the mold.

Howie already nailed this so I am just repeating what he said, but once you realize that all women, and especially the hottest ones, are crazy to some extent, you realize that the grass isn't always greener. Once you get into a relationship that checks enough boxes (never all the boxes because...

And I could understand this to an extent. I am at a point where I am generally very outgoing with most everyone around me so I don't notice a major difference in the approach department. It is almost strictly measured by performance in the sack. I think what you say does have merit and do think...