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Man new years is making this so much harder. someone said it correctly that the first of all holidays are the worst. I cant keep my mind off of her and what she is gonna do for new years and just stupid stuff like that. im really trying to keep myself busy but its hard to keep my mind from...

One word, NO I am speaking from experience. an 8 year relationship went into LDR and ended in 3 months! is that proof enough for you?

Thanks for the support and word of encouragement. You are right, after the conversation ended and I had calmed down from going crazy, i realized i had made quite a few mistakes in that conversation, not the least of them were letting her IM get to my head, acting like that, and actually...

I came to the site when i initially got dumped. i saw the no contact challenge and decided to put it into place. here it goes: Nov 11: she emailed me and told me its over Nov12-13: i did the stupidest thing and called and called her over and over again. Nov 14 i saw this site and it...

Ignore that text and dont think about it. if you really have to think about it, it should give you an idea that she is still sulking over you to some extent. she wouldnt have texted that to you. if you run into her, honestly do what this blog tells you. say hi, if she escalates the...

Totally agree with what everyone is saying. you said it yourself too, she is rebounding to you. what does that mean to you? that she will leave you again for another in no time? maybe but why take that chance. Just ignore her to the best of your ability and work on yourself (whatever YOU...

fuzzx, i just got done reading a few pages of the post that details what happened to your relationship. It truly is a mirror image, less the difference in years, of how it has gone down for both of us. i wonder how many other guys have gone through the exact same thing, seems like women are all...

DonJuanit0 you are probably right about how i blame myself. Its my mind getting the better of me. trying to figure out why it all happened and maybe even blaming myself for it. i try to focus on the reasons we would not have worked out and that helps but only for a little bit before i go back...

wow, thats pretty disheartening, but obviously tru to some extent. Is there anything that can make these 4 years easier? I wonder.

DonJuanit0, to give you a little history to why i thought this, the days after it happened, i completely went crazy and first got really angry and said a lot of stupid stuff. but then i called her and called her asking her to reconsider (i know typical mistake but i didnt know better) and her...

I would say yes since i just got my heart kicked in by an 8 year relationship. Its only as bad as you let it get but then again its hard to control how you heart feels when its kicked in like that. If you can control the situation then definitely you can get past the depression quicker.

DonJuanit0, I dunno if she was acting like i was since she had been nonchalant since the first day that she told me that it was over. that had been her behavior since that day going forward. you are right about the habits and it definitely is hard to change that. Time is never on our side...

I just came out of a relationship where i was exactly this way. And kudos to you for realizing this before the relationship ends because it is completely true. I am sitting here and in the past month i realized that i had fallen in line with her plan, and guess what, she didnt have much planned...

Hi everyone, I have been a reader for a few weeks now. i was recommended here by a friend after things went south with my relationship. We had been together for over 8 years. yes it is a very long time. we have been on and off where we took a week or two here and there and didnt talk to...