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HaleyBaron

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Alright guys. We know there's some people ready to do the most BP things for their women or a girl they like today. This thread is where we can lay out some wisdom or assistant before someone does something incredibly stupid. This day is one of the biggest beta traps in the year, with the other one being marriage anniversaries and girl birthdays. If any guy is wondering what to do, post it here and we'll drop whether it's bad or not. Or simply come here to discuss this trash corporate holiday.
 

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We know there's some people ready to do the most BP things for their women or a girl they like today....This day is one of the biggest beta traps in the year
Beta males with a blue pill ideology on intersexual dynamics are looking to get laid today. Some of these betas will do silly things in the effort to get laid. There are betas with girlfriends/wives.

Alpha/sigmas with a red pill ideology also can be affected by today. These guys have a stronger frame though.
 

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Beta males with a blue pill ideology on intersexual dynamics are looking to get laid today. Some of these betas will do silly things in the effort to get laid. There are betas with girlfriends/wives.

Alpha/sigmas with a red pill ideology also can be affected by today. These guys have a stronger frame though.
Well yeah cause the plates and girls are going to test us by withholding sex for roses and dinners. Already had one asking what we are going to do Friday. But I already know what I'm doing: going to ghost everyone and keep doing what I want.
 

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This day is one of the biggest beta traps in the year, with the other one being marriage anniversaries and girl birthdays
Why that? Small gift or attention goes a long long way. Giver her flowers or some fake jewlery or give her your time on the beach. The two of you can watch sunset and hold hands.
 

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Giving some attention to the women you love is not beta my man.
Attention isn't bad if she earned it. I'm not sure about "love" but it's the intent. You're still doing something in her frame today.
 

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IMO and experience, today is just another day. However, I've taken my exes to do things on this day.

The beta trap is to do things with the thinking of this day is special and to do something with some hidden agenda like expecting sex or affection.


You're still doing something in her frame today.
If you do what she wants you're in her frame, if you do what you want, then you're not.

If the girl has earned it, doing something that puts you in her frame, then that's just rewarding her for being great to you.

I don't believe there is a hard rule on what to do or not do today, other than just doing something with some expectations of reciprocity which doing it for the wrong reasons.
 

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My ex killed this "holiday" for me.

My brother has a long-distance girlfriend and we had a whole discussion about my unwillingness to celebrate this anymore. I likened it to somebody being afraid of going in the ocean for fear of being bitten by a shark - and the first time they go in the water that's exactly what happens.

Is the chance of that happening again low? Sure.

But I'm opting to make that chance zero.
 

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My Valentine’s Day poem was rejected by Moonpig.
Roses are red
Violets are twisted
Bend over love
Your about to get fisted
 

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Granted, it's Friday and Valentines Day, so if you're use to going out to bars or clubs, you can get some p*ssy if you do it right.
 

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Granted, it's Friday and Valentines Day, so if you're use to going out to bars or clubs, you can get some p*ssy if you do it right.
I highly doubt that.

Probably like 90% of desirable girls are either A. out with their man B. staying in lamenting that they have no man or C. staying in with their other single girls to collectively lament that they have no man/pretend they don't need no man.

@SW15 probably has statistics to quote for that. I do believe I heard mention that the day AFTER Valentine's is one of the easiest to get laid though. Assuming you live somewhere that it's not in the low 30s before wind chill like it is here.
 

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I highly doubt that.

Probably like 90% of desirable girls are either A. out with their man B. staying in lamenting that they have no man or C. staying in with their other single girls to collectively lament that they have no man/pretend they don't need no man.

@SW15 probably has statistics to quote for that. I do believe I heard mention that the day AFTER Valentine's is one of the easiest to get laid though. Assuming you live somewhere that it's not in the low 30s before wind chill like it is here.
The day after works more, yes. However, it's Friday and if the weather is just right, you can hit a homerun with little logistics. The times are a bit different than five years ago. Women are more cynical than ever due to social media, so have a tendency to be out more. And couples will still pull their single friends out. Yes, it's going to be a sausagefest, but it helps that it's the Friday-Saturday days.
 
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I have a bit of a situation .

gf has been somewhat disrespectful. For example goes away to work conference and tells me she’ll call me back in 5 and then calls back 3 hours later after a few drinks and heading out for more.

I stay quiet and said “when you say something - do it.”

Been a quiet week. Couple little quarrels I just stay quiet .

Plan a cool weekend for her and try to be vague about it and she ups and goes to Philly for the parade with her friends and family.

Booked a flight and I’ll head to Spain and then Italy in a week.
 

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I have a bit of a situation .

gf has been somewhat disrespectful. For example goes away to work conference and tells me she’ll call me back in 5 and then calls back 3 hours later after a few drinks and heading out for more.

I stay quiet and said “when you say something - do it.”

Been a quiet week. Couple little quarrels I just stay quiet .

Plan a cool weekend for her and try to be vague about it and she ups and goes to Philly for the parade with her friends and family.

Booked a flight and I’ll head to Spain and then Italy in a week.
You already know your answer there. Be disrespectful back. Always be dating more than one girl. It'll change your thinking and women will start behaving when they feel that there may be another girl in your life. All my plates are constantly wondering who Im with, which makes them always call me up for a booty call.
 

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I highly doubt that.

Probably like 90% of desirable girls are either A. out with their man B. staying in lamenting that they have no man or C. staying in with their other single girls to collectively lament that they have no man/pretend they don't need no man.

@SW15 probably has statistics to quote for that. I do believe I heard mention that the day AFTER Valentine's is one of the easiest to get laid though. Assuming you live somewhere that it's not in the low 30s before wind chill like it is here.
I don't know of any statistics that I can easily mention about that.

I think your idea of what 90% of desirable women would do tonight is accurate.

The day after works more, yes. However, it's Friday and if the weather is just right, you can hit a homerun with little logistics. The times are a bit different than five years ago. Women are more cynical than ever due to social media, so have a tendency to be out more. And couples will still pull their single friends out. Yes, it's going to be a sausagefest, but it helps that it's the Friday-Saturday days.
The days after Valentine's Day are often better for getting laid.

When Valentine's Day itself falls on a Friday-Saturday night, it can be ok for pickup. One year when Valentine's fell on a Saturday, I went out to bars and did approaches. Met a woman who I went on a few dates with that night but it didn't lead to sex.

If Valentine's Day falls on an off night like a Tuesday or Wednesday night, regular bar game would be even more difficult than a Friday-Saturday night Valentine's Day year.
 

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being marriage anniversaries
Please explain what’s wrong with a couple going out for a date night or whatever else an anniversary entails.
 
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I went to the grocery store today to pick up some groceries, and on the way out, I stopped by the gift shop to buy some flowers, teddy bears, and chocolates. There was a huge line, and most of the people in it were men, mostly in their early 30s, though I saw men of all ages buying flowers. This got me thinking, and I came to two realizations:

1. Not to be insensitive or anti-Semitic, but there’s a reason why Valentine’s Day is often referred to as a “Jewish holiday.” The gift shop was seriously price gouging. Most items were at least 20-30 dollars more expensive than usual, and there’s this hidden pressure on men to buy something for their significant other, whether they want to or not.

2. This realization came to me a while back: many women say they don’t care about celebrating Valentine’s Day, but you’d be in trouble if you didn’t buy them something or make the day special. After all, their friends probably got something from their significant other. That being said, Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to earn some brownie points with your mom, mother-in-law, sister, or even make your daughter’s day special with a small gesture—like buying some roses and chocolates for about 20 bucks. Don’t be stingy. If you’re talking to a girl, you can also buy her something and make it a lukewarm effort, just make sure her feelings toward you are reciprocated so you don’t look dumb.
 
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