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Even with my generally bad luck, I've mentioned how I've turned down sex with young broads before (because of my pregnancy phobia). In other words, I am capable of getting young broads (at least every now and then)

With how badly I want to make sure I don't pollute a woman's womb with my genes, there's no way I'm changing my mind about kids.
I respect your choice.

Maybe if some sweetie really was into you and you could feel that for awhile (like at least a year) things are different.

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I had the same choice for a long time. Did not want to be responsible to bring a life into the crappy world. It seemed like an awful thing to do. It turns out that world view is somewhat tied to self view. And... in spite of all the chest beating on SS, self view is somewhat tied to how others treat us. We could follow that idea further on another. The idea for this one is that things change....
 

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@The Duke, I know you mentioned getting a vasectomy. Perhaps you can settle a debate @AmsterdamAssassin was having with me.

When performing a vasectomy, is it true that the doctor attaches permanent clips to the ends of your snipped pipes?
 

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@The Duke, I know you mentioned getting a vasectomy. Perhaps you can settle a debate @AmsterdamAssassin was having with me.

When performing a vasectomy, is it true that the doctor attaches permanent clips to the ends of your snipped pipes?
There are a few different methods. Yes some use a clip/clamp/band, others cut and sew the ends shut. My doc cut the vas deferens, took a section out, then sewed the ends shut. By the time the cut heals, the thread dissolves.

Here's a link to one that has the clips.


I bet I've fired a couple thousand rounds thru my pistola and I'm still shooting blanks with damn near every round fired directly into the bulls eye. If you don't want kids, I don't know why you wouldn't have one done. 15 minutes in the docs office and a weekend of keeping your feet elevated and you'll be good to go.
 

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@The Duke, I know you mentioned getting a vasectomy. Perhaps you can settle a debate @AmsterdamAssassin was having with me.

When performing a vasectomy, is it true that the doctor attaches permanent clips to the ends of your snipped pipes?
We didn't debate about that. I talked about how your fear of the anaesthesia fading during the procedure and how chances of pain during the procedure are minimal to non-existent as they make sure you're properly anaesthetised.

As for the clips, like @The Duke says, his are sewn. You don't have to go for clips if you prefer them sewing them shut. Unless health care in the USA changed a lot, I assume you still have a choice in that regard.

The thing is, like with everything you do, you are trying to find the negative parts of any solution for your problems so you don't have to take actions. This is what is referred to as 'emotional leech' behaviour. If you take action, your problems might go away, but then you'd have nothing to whine about. And if you don't get to whine, you're missing out on all the attention and validation those issues provide for you. It's a common issue for therapists, patients who don't want to get cured because their whole identity is wrapped up in their 'misery'. This is also a reason why you open so many threads here talking about all your issues. Every response, even the most negative scathing ones, give you a little dopamine rush. That's why you don't take action, it would deprive you of getting these little dopamine rushes.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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There are a few different methods. Yes some use a clip/clamp/band, others cut and sew the ends shut. My doc cut the vas deferens, took a section out, then sewed the ends shut. By the time the cut heals, the thread dissolves.

Here's a link to one that has the clips.


I bet I've fired a couple thousand rounds thru my pistola and I'm still shooting blanks with damn near every round fired directly into the bulls eye. If you don't want kids, I don't know why you wouldn't have one done. 15 minutes in the docs office and a weekend of keeping your feet elevated and you'll be good to go.
In that case, perhaps I will revisit my vasectomy idea (and go with the sewed shut method)
 

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Many of us have told you stop using the term broad.
And I've explained many times how I know better than to directly call a woman I'm pursuing a broad.

I simply find broad to be a funny term to use online.
 

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We didn't debate about that. I talked about how your fear of the anaesthesia fading during the procedure and how chances of pain during the procedure are minimal to non-existent as they make sure you're properly anaesthetised.

As for the clips, like @The Duke says, his are sewn. You don't have to go for clips if you prefer them sewing them shut. Unless health care in the USA changed a lot, I assume you still have a choice in that regard.

The thing is, like with everything you do, you are trying to find the negative parts of any solution for your problems so you don't have to take actions. This is what is referred to as 'emotional leech' behaviour. If you take action, your problems might go away, but then you'd have nothing to whine about. And if you don't get to whine, you're missing out on all the attention and validation those issues provide for you. It's a common issue for therapists, patients who don't want to get cured because their whole identity is wrapped up in their 'misery'. This is also a reason why you open so many threads here talking about all your issues. Every response, even the most negative scathing ones, give you a little dopamine rush. That's why you don't take action, it would deprive you of getting these little dopamine rushes.
Believe me, I'd love nothing more than to get a steady supply of cooch.

Your idea that I enjoy complaining about my lack of success is preposterous.
 

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Your idea that I enjoy complaining about my lack of success is preposterous.
Don't forget who you're talking to. I deal with mental cases on a daily basis.

It's not 'my idea' that you enjoy complaining about your lack of success. What you 'enjoy' (I'd call it 'crave') is attention and validation and you think you're getting it by exposing your issues on this forum.
 

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Don't forget who you're talking to. I deal with mental cases on a daily basis.

It's not 'my idea' that you enjoy complaining about your lack of success. What you 'enjoy' (I'd call it 'crave') is attention and validation and you think you're getting it by exposing your issues on this forum.
You know what would really give me validation?

Having free sex more than once in the past 9 years.
 

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You know what would really give me validation?

Having free sex more than once in the past 9 years.
Then maybe you should stop talking and just take the huge amount of advice already given to you on this forum.
Get a vasectomy so you don't have to worry about getting woman pregnant and go out there with new confidence.
 

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Then maybe you should stop talking and just take the huge amount of advice already given to you on this forum.
Get a vasectomy so you don't have to worry about getting woman pregnant and go out there with new confidence.
I will reassess the vasectomy idea after hearing there's a way to do it without clips.

I'm not optimistic the vasectomy will help much in terms of getting free sex, however.

Even without having a vasectomy, there are always 45+ broads. Yet I struggle to even get those. So I have my doubts of how helpful getting snipped (therefore gaining access to the 18-44 demographic) will be.

If I get snipped, it'd be so I'd have some "just in case" assurance in the unlikely event a fertile woman offered me free sex.
 

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You know what would really give me validation?

Having free sex more than once in the past 9 years.
And you are the only one standing in the way. I urge you to study @corrector if you can't recognize your own patterns that @AmsterdamAssassin pointed out which hold you back, perhaps it would help you understand and achieve your goals.
 

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And you are the only one standing in the way. I urge you to study @corrector if you can't recognize your own patterns that @AmsterdamAssassin pointed out which hold you back, perhaps it would help you understand and achieve your goals.
I've done all of the following, yet am terrified to approach a woman:

  • Go to a college where I knew no one (in a state where I knew no one)
  • 2 years after college, I moved to a place where I knew no one (with no job lined up)
  • Gotten many chest waxes
  • Got a full Brazilian wax once
  • Got tattooed
  • Visited places solo that I had never been before
  • I even attempted to take my own life once 6 years ago (and nearly succeeded)
On the other hand, there are a lot of men who have no problem approaching a woman, yet would be afraid to do some/all of the things I just listed.

It's interesting how everyone's different (and sometimes seemingly contradictory) when it comes to what we are/aren't brave enough to do.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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No thanks. You lose something if you lose your ability to cause pregnancy. Even if it's reversible, it's not something I'd go through with, nor would I tell others to.
 

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No thanks. You lose something if you lose your ability to cause pregnancy. Even if it's reversible, it's not something I'd go through with, nor would I tell others to.
I did it and it was the best decision I made. With society how it is today fathers have everything to lose, than to gain except for "MuH GeNeTiCs"

It is a relief knowing that no women will have a possible weapon to use against me (kids).

You'll see how fathers in this forum start DEERing why having kids is good.
 

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No thanks. You lose something if you lose your ability to cause pregnancy. Even if it's reversible, it's not something I'd go through with, nor would I tell others to.
Even though, as I said, I'm undecided on whether to get snipped, I have no qualms about losing the ability to impregnate.

I don't want to pollute a woman's womb with my genes.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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