Undecided on vasectomy

[GoodMan32]

If they know, and if they want to have children, they may react that way.

However, I think that unless a woman outright states that she wants your babies, I don't see why you should tell a woman that you're shooting blanks.

My reasons for sex with my lovers is not to make babies, but to have sexual intimacy. I didn't have a vasectomy, but if I had, I wouldn't feel the need to tell my lovers. They know I already fathered two children, I'm not looking to make feet for baby shoes. I changed enough diapers.

I've never changed a baby's diaper (and never will)

 

[GoodMan32]

It's possible to play the 'Open to Children' card for a very long time, especially if the woman in the interaction isn't prioritizing having children.

Take a look at the blog post below. 70% of relationships end within 12 months. I think that covers both the casual sex interactions (which usually burn out in less than 12 months) and exclusive monogamous relationships. It's possible that the child issue doesn't come up at all before the relationship fails, even if I am operating in a monogamous frame with a woman.

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My position is 'Open to Children but not prioritizing it'. That seems to work well enough for me. My stance on children hasn't been the primary cause of breakups. The majority of the women I've had sex were using birth control. I have also had women tell me that they didn't want children when I stated what my position was. I never outright say "I don't want children". That position helps with attraction and seduction. I do not wish to shrink my dating pool and I don't have to do that.

It is true that I have promoted the idea that relationships have a shelf life of 3-5 years. I am open to staying beyond that 5 year point. I don't like the idea of staying too long in a relationship and experiencing the worst decay.

A lot of relationships that make it to 2 years fail between Year 2 and Year 5.

Relationships that go beyond 5 years are in a state of significant decay in a lot of cases.

Thinking back, the topic of wanting kids came up in the 8 month relationship I had back when I was 21-22. I forget if I brought up the topic or what (I don't recall how exactly the topic came up).

Anyway, I admitted to her I never want kids. She wanted kids eventually.

Ultimately, the kid thing had nothing to do with the breakup.

I suppose one benefit of going for 45+ broads: It's a given that you aren't looking to reproduce with her.

One thing about autists is we have a hard time lying. "Open to children" would be a lie if said by me.

5+ year relationships can get stale, you're right. Especially 5+ year relationships where they only stay together for the kids.

 

[SW15]

5+ year relationships can get stale, you're right. Especially 5+ year relationships where they only stay together for the kids.

That's what often ends up happening in 5+ year long relationships, if a relationship even gets to last that long.

A lot of children either see parents who stay together with a beta husband who isn't leading with a decent masculine frame or seeing their parents divorce. Either outcome is bad.

 

[GoodMan32]

That's what often ends up happening in 5+ year long relationships, if a relationship even gets to last that long.

A lot of children either see parents who stay together with a beta husband who isn't leading with a decent masculine frame or seeing their parents divorce. Either outcome is bad.

There are a number of bands with songs about 4-5 year relationships. The idea that relationships have a shelf life that tops out around 5 years has some merit.