No Contact is NOT to get your ex back. Usually it doesn't lead to that. No Contact is to help yourself get over her. If you are using it to get the ex back you can almost be assured it is going to backfire and blow up in your face in the worst way possible.
This is a very important thing to remember. No Contact is useful for you as a man to move forward with your life and focus on the next woman in your life.
There's a reason that a woman is an ex. It's important to realize why the relationship failed and move on from it. Some self-improvement might be necessary to keep a negative pattern from repeating.
Most of the time when your ex reaches out to you after a breakup it is generally only for validation.
I agree with this statement as a large percentage of modern women seem to crave validation. This is the case in childless breakups.
In thinking about breakups, it's unfortunate when a breakup happens after a couple has had a child/children together. The breaking up couple will need to have contact with each other for co-parenting purposes. That contact makes it far more difficult to get over the breakup.
Some men might choose to cease contact with their ex and not parent because the woman is so unpleasant in interactions. Most men don't tend to do this as most men want to interact with their child.
Co-parenting does not end when the children turn 18/graduate high school either. After that point, the legal adult children have birthdays, graduations (if they pursue education beyond high school) and holiday season gatherings. That forces contact with an ex. Additionally, many adult children will run into life problems during 18-29 that will require co-parenting coordination. The adult child might need financial help due to not being able to find a job after college graduation or needs help after a layoff. This adult child might need to live with one of the parents due to those aforementioned situations. Since the early 2000s, Millennial and Gen Z young adults have needed more help from parents since turning 18 as compared to young adults in the 20th Century. All these events extend contact between exes and doesn't help with moving on.
My ex had reached out this past Tuesday after 3 months of No Contact (we broke up about 3.5 months ago after a 2.5 year LTR).
I broke up with my ex but it was because I could see the writing on the wall. She was slowly withdrawing. I beat her to the punch....There’s a reason a breakup occurs and you aren’t going to change reality even if they come back for a (short) period of time.
This was written in March 2021. It seems like the timing of the breakup was in late 2020. 2020 was a year that caused a lot of non-marital relationships to end and also caused a lot of marriages to end.
2020 and 2021 were stressful years in the mating environment due to the pandemic. In 2020, a lot of men lost their jobs and male job loss commonly leads to breakups because male SMV is tied to money/employment. Female job loss means nothing for SMV.
Indoor masking made approaching in 2020 and 2021 very difficult. Outdoor approaching became the most viable way to meet new women in 2020 and 2021 after a failed relationship. In 2022, indoor masking seemed to fade away as that year went on, allowing for a rebound in both bar approaching and in non-bar approaching in places like grocery stores and indoor malls.
