I find this interesting, so I have a few questions: 1. How do you explain this phenomenon? 2. Can you give some examples? 3. What's the average age of those women?
1. For me personally, for much of my younger years, I had serious depression on and off, and I believe that women can tell a man is troubled. I did have some girlfriends in my life, but those relationships did not work out partly due to me being too passive because of my condition. Even when I was in high school, a very pretty said to my friend, "M can have a girlfriend if he wants, but he acts like he can't." Keep in mind this woman did not know me from a whole in the wall; I only knew her from hi and bye. Over time my depression went away, I improved my life greatly, made more friends, met my wife, had children, and both men and women started to strike up more conversations with me when out and about and at work.
This is my interpretation of this, and my friends agree with me.
I am in my mid 40s now.
2. Yes, I can give examples. Keep in mind, I do
not think that the women who start conversation or give other gestures to me when out and about are all sexually attracted to me. I believe some are, and if I were single, I would move forward with them. I am moderately attractive, dress well, and am better built than nearly all men my age (I once competed in bodybuilding) and have been involved in serious exercise for a long time.
Here are some examples I remember from the past two years.
My friend and I (also married) went out to a German place that has a bar, restaurant, and area for music and performances. I went there to meet him because I had not seen him in a long time, not because I want to meet women, as I am a faithful guy. So my friend and I were talking and this woman started looking my way on and off. We went closer to the bar next to her and her friends to order drinks, and I saw her looking at me in my peripheral vision as I stood next to her. I started chuckling and she said, "Hello." I started talking to her and her friends introduced themselves to me and my friend. She appeared to be in her late 20s or early 30s.
A few weeks ago I was walking home at around 6:15 in the morning. Coming towards me across the street was an attractive woman. Usually when I see people in the morning around town while walking or jogging, I say hello or good morning, but I don't want to freak women out while walking alone in the dark. She said, "Hey, do you go to LA Fitness?" We then had a conversation about the gym and fitness. I have a habit of talking with my hands folded in front of me and I am convinced she kept looking at my hands to see if I had a wedding ring (I do obviously). I think she was in her late 20's.
Last week I was in a Macy's in a mall. I was checking in myself in the mirror, thinking nobody was looking at me at the time, and a store worker walked past me and said, "You look good". I think she was mid 20's.
Last year I was sitting eating after a jog at a bagel place few blocks from my house after a jog. I looked up and a woman smiled and waved at me as she left. I think she was mid 20's.
Another time at the same place, again, while I was sitting there sipping coffee, a woman flagrantly looked at me while leaving. Again, I think mid 20's.
One time while I was looking at wine bottle in my hands while in the liquor store. All of the sudden I felt a swift pat on my back. I was sort of startled, looked to my side, and it was an attractive middle-aged woman who said something about the wine. I do not remember what she said. I think she was in her late 40s or early 50s.
I once was looking at shishlto peppers at the grocery store, and a petite, cute woman was there too, and she said, "I really like these. How do you make yours?" I think she was in her 40's.
This past summer, a woman started a convo in the gym about the sneakers I was wearing. She said, "I started wearing flat soled sneakers recently too, and they're much better for lower-body exercises." As I said, I do not think every woman who starts a conversation with me, but I highly doubt a woman is going to start a conversation about something as mundane as flat soles for lifting if she didn't want to strike up convo about anything.
There's a gas station with a big store I go to near my job on breaks for coffee. One time I was on line and I saw this tall, pretty Middle Eastern woman working as cashier. Although I had no interest, I thought she was very pretty, and that because she was tall, she likely wouldn't go for me if I were single because I am 5'10". I was planning on making a lazy-man's hummus that night so I grabbed a can of Goya-brand canned chickpeas as the line progressed. When she was ringing me up, she asked, "What do you plan on making with these? As a Turkish woman, I do not recommend using this brand." There was no one else behind me on line and we got into a conversation about food and travel. I think she was in her 30s.
Again, I do not know if all these women thought I was sexually attractive. But I also do not think women strike up conversation or wave or stare at men they don't think are attractive. And if I were single, I would take advantage of these situations to try to get dates.
