Put Yourself Out There

[BaronOfHair]

I wear airpods in public to avoid people trying to interact with me for no reason

Modify your choice of fashion statements like so

You'll have far more success

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I wear sunglasses after dark, and it improved my life tremendously.

 

[Solomon]

I see a common theme to many posters that come here seeking advice. Most of you lack social skills and fear rejection. You don't know how to properly interact with others in a public setting. So how do you develop skills you don't have and push past fears that keep you from engaging others? YOU PRACTICE! And you can practice anywhere and everywhere. Your goal should be to have successful interactions with anyone, not to get some girls number.

Many years ago I was in a similar boat. I was recently divorced and didn't really enjoy talking to random strangers in public. I was't oblivious, but I had very little experience with women. I quickly realized that if I wanted to get girls I needed to change my mindset and improve my skills. So thats what I did. I pushed myself to engage all types of people wherever I went.

I practiced flirting with old ladies at the check out stand. I made many trips to the fragrance counter at Dillards just to interact with those girls as they were usually attractive. I'd strike up conversations with the guy at the deli counter and before I knew it I had a new friend.

I became a regular at a bar and got in with that social group and started playing volleyball and going to pool parties.

I spent a lot of time in strip clubs, my goal was to see how long I could keep a conversation going without paying any money. I made friends with the bouncers, front desk girl, dj, bathroom attendant and bartenders. Once the girls got to know me, they would always greet me and stop by for some conversation. I always felt really comfortable inside of a strip club so it made it easier to talk to the girls. Strippers tend to me more open and forthcoming than girls you might talk to at a regular bar. I could practice my conversation skills on 10 girls a night and not even get out of my chair. After a while I learned what made women tick, and what topics were most engaging. I ended up dating several strippers once I figured out the recipe.

One night a friend and I approached 10 girls in a bar district. We would walk right up to them and tell them they were hot and ask them if they wanted to make out. Some got pissed, some laughed, but there were a few that were willing. One of them my friend got her phone # and I ended up going out with her. That night we learned that approaching girls was no big deal, rejection was part of it, it was actually a lot of fun. Most of the time you will get shot down but thats with anything in life.

This is the way people have to understand how easy it is to do this if you practice consistently people will be open to talk in social settings as long as you're not being a weirdo it's all about fun vibes

Most guys here suffer because they don't have the charisma or rizz as Gen-Z calls it and want to approach women from an analytical POV, this is not how socializing or women work, once you put yourself out there and say **** it and willing to take chances you'd be surprised of the things that can happen!

 

[Gamisch]

This is the way people have to understand how easy it is to do this if you practice consistently people will be open to talk in social settings as long as you're not being a weirdo it's all about fun vibes

Most guys here suffer because they don't have the charisma or rizz as Gen-Z calls it and want to approach women from an analytical POV, this is not how socializing or women work, once you put yourself out there and say **** it and willing to take chances you'd be surprised of the things that can happen!

100.

Most men (including yours truly) oftentimes forget that EVERY woman is approachable, heck, it's a vital part of their existence. Simultaneously doing approaches is vital.part of ours. You can approach Hillary Clinton ( if you are into that like @GoodMan32 LOL) and she'll soft -reject you telling you she is married while blushing.

everything happens after jumping into deep waters and taking a leap of faith. That's why I detest people complaining about " corporate folks "; it's mainly an NPC complaint. The NPC wants to live life free of risks while still benefiting from others. These times literally separating boys from men.

If you : don't wanna take risk
Don't wanna maxxx.
Don't wanna put yourself out there ect ect ect

You won't get ANY coochie. Period.

 

[Gamisch]

I wear sunglasses after dark, and it improved my life tremendously.

Another BIG one.

Gotta niche-maxxx. Know your damn bracket! Be someone/something more than the average NPC. Especially if you are a perpetually single man who wants some while getting none. The beta Bob look might work for some but not for _fill in struggling man_.

Why not try to get a more individualised style? The surfer, the artist, the rastafari, the muscle man, the entrepreneur, the extrovert, the tattoo/beard man and MANY more examples. And preferably a combination of some of those.

 

[GoodMan32]

100.

Most men (including yours truly) oftentimes forget that EVERY woman is approachable, heck, it's a vital part of their existence. Simultaneously doing approaches is vital.part of ours. You can approach Hillary Clinton ( if you are into that like @GoodMan32 LOL) and she'll soft -reject you telling you she is married while blushing.

everything happens after jumping into deep waters and taking a leap of faith. That's why I detest people complaining about " corporate folks "; it's mainly an NPC complaint. The NPC wants to live life free of risks while still benefiting from others. These times literally separating boys from men.

If you : don't wanna take risk
Don't wanna maxxx.
Don't wanna put yourself out there ect ect ect

You won't get ANY coochie. Period.

Making a move on a married woman (or a woman with a boyfriend) makes it questionable whether the rejection "counts" (because if the broad was single, there's a chance you might have gotten her to drop her panties)

One thing worth noting, however: Sometimes they falsely claim to be taken because they simply don't want you. So unless you have a way to confirm she's really taken (like your Hillary Clinton example; we obviously know she's married), I suppose we should take any claim of being taken with a grain of salt.

To address the end of your post: While it's generally true you have to approach a woman to get cooch, I've gotten free lays from posting Craigslist ads. The broads came to me.