Yes, the gal will also do things like accidentally have her breasts brush up against you. That event is NEVER due to serendipity.Advice from the old lady:
She may not "chase" you, but what she will do is make it easy for you. She will say yes when you ask her out, she will demonstrate interest & investment, she will be fun to be around. That isn't chasing but it is still (+) responsiveness.
You're too concerned with 'normally', while you yourself are not 'normal'. Like you said, you're more than a little autistic.while i do believe it does happen, as said in this forum, its still not normally the case, women normally don't pursue men in the sense that they are normally never the ones to make advances on a guy they like
If you have a reputation for being highly desirable, you don’t need to chase women—they’ll come to you. Even if your reputation isn’t great, hinting that many others have found you appealing can work in the long run. An empty nightclub with vacant tables is the best way to discourage you from going in.while i do believe it does happen, as said in this forum, its still not normally the case, women normally don't pursue men in the sense that they are normally never the ones to make advances on a guy they like
understatement, its like, survival of the fittest only applies to males only.You're too concerned with 'normally', while you yourself are not 'normal'. Like you said, you're more than a little autistic.
And you just want things to adapt to your autism. That's not going to happen, because you're a silent minority. No matter how much of a problem you have with approaching women, women won't start approaching you out of pity for your autism. Hard as it sounds, you just have to overcome your trepidation, grow some cojones, and talk with women without being so focused on yourself and sex.
Not really, but you want fit females, don't you? Then you will have to be fit.understatement, its like, survival of the fittest only applies to males only.
Did you have sexual relations? Were you intimate?i feel she doesn't count, it felt like we were more best friends instead of boyfriend/girlfriend.
It took you 5 months to call my comment "naive" when in fact what I said and what you said are basically the same thing, just phrased differently.This is extremely naive and what happens when you spend too much time reading theory online instead of being in the real world.
Timing, more than anything, is what matters.
If a woman is happy with her boyfriend it doesn't matter how great your seduction skills are or how good looking you are, she won't be available to you. She will not entertain that notion and will shut you down because in her mind she is "taken".
The same woman who dumped her boyfriend that week and met you might have happily given you her number and went out with you.
Same woman, two different mindsets that she is in, one of them is conducive to you fvcking her and the other one might as well have a 20 foot wall surrounding her because you aren't getting in.
Of course there are exceptions that will fvck anything that moves if they are interested in them regardless of their relationship status or happiness but that is rare...
sadly not really, our relationship never progressed beyond kissing, cuddling, making out, thats why i refuse to call her an ex. Obviously i tried to progress things further but she always withheld sex or resisted.Did you have sexual relations? Were you intimate?
I don’t think it is ‘harsh’. It just Is.If you find yourself expending finite energy and resources solely to create attraction with a woman, then you are a fool! In many cases, women signal their interest and actively pursue the men they desire. Reflect on your own experiences: the most successful relationships or encounters you've had likely involved women who made it effortless for connections to flourish. If the girl is giving you mixed signals, drop her immediately because she is likely not exhibiting the same behavior towards another guy.
The romanticized notion of tirelessly pursuing the girl of your dreams, as portrayed in Hollywood and popular culture, often falls short of reality. Instead, men would benefit from prioritizing maintaining attraction.
Sounds like you gave her the power to do so. She gets what she wants, but you don't get what you need.sadly not really, our relationship never progressed beyond kissing, cuddling, making out, thats why i refuse to call her an ex. Obviously i tried to progress things further but she always withheld sex or resisted.
I disagree because I think you are describing a woman with medium interest. Yes, women have multiple men chasing them, but they do not care about most of these men. Women always have a reserved spot for a top guy that they really want and bench of 1-3 men that they are entertaining rather that be just casual hooking up or just dates. A woman with high interest will pursue you and make it known to the world that you are her only option. A woman with high interest will instantly drop her bench and make all of her emotional energy available for you period. If a woman fails to find this guy she will either settle with the second best option or just continue being emotionally single in her head. This is why I say anything below high interest is low interest because you run the risk of being instantly dropped for the right type of guy to come along.Women really don't 'pursue' men they want... they just don't make things difficult. A quality attractive woman, who is single will have at least three men chasing after her, likely more. They say yes to dates, they show up, and they are pleasant when you are with them. This is as good as it gets with attractive sane women. Rinse and repeat and if she really wants you, she will make herself scarce with the other dudes and focus on the one she really wants.... this takes time and patience. But don't stop dating other women until she loves you, if you are looking for a relationship. The irony is that if you want an exclusive relationship, you have to act and behave like you do not want one.... that you are fine with casual dating... then let her decide if you are what she wants.
Your response is coming from the perspective of a man, with expectations. Women aren’t asking for thatI disagree because I think you are describing a woman with medium interest. Yes, women have multiple men chasing them, but they do not care about most of these men. Women always have a reserved spot for a top guy that they really want and bench of 1-3 men that they are entertaining rather that be just casual hooking up or just dates. A woman with high interest will pursue you and make it known to the world that you are her only option. A woman with high interest will instantly drop her bench and make all of her emotional energy available for you period. If a woman fails to find this guy she will either settle with the second best option or just continue being emotionally single in her head. This is why I say anything below high interest is low interest because you run the risk of being instantly dropped for the right type of guy to come along.
I'm not sure this is that much different from what I posted. Of course, I am describing a woman with medium interest... most sane women start off with men they are attracted to with medium interest. It is extremely rare to have a woman just fall for a guy at first sight. Men do this all the time: it is unusual for women to do this.I disagree because I think you are describing a woman with medium interest. Yes, women have multiple men chasing them, but they do not care about most of these men. Women always have a reserved spot for a top guy that they really want and bench of 1-3 men that they are entertaining rather that be just casual hooking up or just dates. A woman with high interest will pursue you and make it known to the world that you are her only option. A woman with high interest will instantly drop her bench and make all of her emotional energy available for you period. If a woman fails to find this guy she will either settle with the second best option or just continue being emotionally single in her head. This is why I say anything below high interest is low interest because you run the risk of being instantly dropped for the right type of guy to come along.
I've been one of the InstantlyDroppedCels a few times.I disagree because I think you are describing a woman with medium interest. Yes, women have multiple men chasing them, but they do not care about most of these men. Women always have a reserved spot for a top guy that they really want and bench of 1-3 men that they are entertaining rather that be just casual hooking up or just dates. A woman with high interest will pursue you and make it known to the world that you are her only option. A woman with high interest will instantly drop her bench and make all of her emotional energy available for you period. If a woman fails to find this guy she will either settle with the second best option or just continue being emotionally single in her head. This is why I say anything below high interest is low interest because you run the risk of being instantly dropped for the right type of guy to come along.