Oneitis is not about women abundance but an underlying dissatisfaction during one’s life. You must have felt inadequate and the person you fell in love with was seen as a solution to your problems and a precursor of pleasure. A person perfectly fulfilled cannot be controlled or manipulated.
You feel inadequate if your onetis throws herself on another guy. I ended up hugging the caretaker who was looking after my mother a number of times after I saw that other guy hug oneitis. I also ended up going to a place where I had planned to take her, with the group I was working with to the same place. Therefore, based on that theory, it does look like there are some wierd dynamics at play. Since she's been completely out of the picture now (ie I don't see her anywhere, not even with that other guy like in in the past) things have completely dried up. I don't feel like hugging anyone for example like that anymore.
Seems you’re saying falling in love is a bad thing.
Agreed, it does sound like that. At least he's not just picking on incels having onetises. He just made a wider net for his "theories' which makes it even more bizzare.
Did I say that? My bad. I was just trying to imply what I think it causes people to fall in love. I just don’t think one would fall in love because of chance. I think there are parameters that need to be fulfilled for it to happen. If you think differently that’s cool. Anyways, I’ll just say this since I am getting out of the scope of what OP tried to say.
So let me get this straight.
You are saying in essence that a scarcity mindset is better than abundance. This is what you are saying.
If you do not think my theories are through what would be your counter arguments? Or do you just want to argue in bad faith for the sake of arguing?
That reply was not intended for you as I was agreeing with a common sense assertion from the other member.
A rather bleak view of what has, throughout history, been the most cherished and inspirational human emotion.
Abundance or scarcity aren’t mindsets. They are conditions. You are, in reality, in one of those two states. Regardless of your ‘mindset’.
Well said. It's like the confident sub-5 guy being called aggressive by a lady who does not find him attractive enough to make an approach to her.
If emotions such as grief, excitement, and hope can be qualified, their causes and effects can be analyzed, and they can be created from an original state, why can’t the same thing be done with infatuation and love? Life is not a fairy tale and we are more in control with our and other people’s emotions more than one may think.
Uh, it's takes years of being successful to have an abundance mindset; years of futility cause a man to have a "hand on for dear life" mindset.
You would need to be at the tier of "on every world-VIP's rolodex" to be able to pull that off.
Nah, you just need to start believing you are worth it and then act accordingly.
They are conditions, based and set from the way you think about urself. Which in essence, you develop a "mindset" to think in a specific way.
I agree it might be soothing to a lot of men that "you aren't the only one" to fall into the abyss of oneitis. But ,similar to smoking, that doesn't mean it's good. The longer oneitis lasts, the more painful the comedown will be.
