It's possible that I am out of touch.
I am a 40 year old man who has been in unmarried relationships and seducing women for 24 years.
I think that I'm more in touch with the current environment than a 34-40 year old man who has been in the same relationship for 10 or more years.
That said, you are 10 years younger than I am and it's possible that you have a better sense of 18-22 year olds or 18-24 year olds than I have.
Tell me more about this. When I was in college (2001-2005 for undergrad), the most common ways college students dated was with other college students on campus. It seems convenient for college students to date each other since there are a lot of unmarried people on campus. Back in the 2001-2005 undergrad era, I did observe that just because a woman has a marital status of 'single', it does not mean she's available. In that way, I perceived that college dating was a bit overrated in that era because a lot of women I interacted with on campus were in relationships while they were on campus. Most of them didn't end up marrying their college era boyfriends.
It is possible that you're overrating how often the flying out stuff happens? My sense is that you are. I think only a very small percentage of women are being flown out somewhere or using Seeking or similar services for sugar type relationships.
Random sex on spring break happened in my era in college. It usually happened with another college student at some spring break destination. The two people often don't go to the same college while having their random spring break sex. They have their random spring break sex 1-2 nights, go back to their respective universities, and then go on with life.
I’m trying to tell you, but it’s like you don’t want to listen. If you sincerely want to understand I can tell you more.
the hottest women (girls that are 8s and above), know they are too hot to participate in regular dating. These are the girls that don’t date guys in college (unless it’s a complete total package alpha) because they intrinsically feel superior to the social circle they are forced to be in via education. These girls spend their free time going to the top restaurants, clubs, parties etc to satiate their hypergamy. These girls are going to be much more biologically attracted to a 33 year old on instagram that has pictures in private jets and doing important things than a college guy. They don’t even ask about his age, they just look at men objectively. So if he looks good, age is irrelevant, because he looks good and that alone is worthy of respect (most men are invisible to women). Looking good in a woman’s eyes isn’t just about pure aesthetics but more so grooming, posture, self care, clothing, etc things which often come naturally to men with money and success.
most ‘hot’ women now have very highly developed online profiles, professional photos on vacations, in clubs etc; it’s literally their whole life. Why do you think that is? Their social media is a much more effective tool for hypergamy than their college network or anything they can do in real life.
So they are very open to men adding them on instagram if the guys profile is better than hers from a social power perspective.
when I say getting ‘flown own’ I don’t mean literally being flowing out like hooker. What I mean is, women from smaller cities are looking at men in better cities. The girls in New Jersey are looking at guys in Manhattan. Yes, sometimes a guy might pay for a flight or getaway after a few weeks of talking, if the girl is in college. Thats no different than paying for an expensive meal etc and a lot of girls online will see it as a token of respect/appreciation since you’re a stranger on the internet.
it makes more sense for her to date an exciting rich man in another city, get flown out a few times a year etc than a local college bro. It’s more exciting, more romantic etc
not all girls are looking at guys out in Paris or London (but some are), but most are looking at guys at least in a better city which isn’t too far away.
instagram has given the top 10% of 30 - 40 year old men much more power in the dating market than 20 year olds because a 25 year guy has what on his profile? A few gym selfies, pictures with friends and the occasional cheap vacation. But a top 10% 37 year old is in the most expensive gym and spa in town 3 times a week, eating out at nice restaurants, taking pictures with high value people (eg if he’s a surgeon, taking pics with other surgeons at conferences) has a crib, sports car , possible in better shape and 10 years worth of accomplishments to post about on his page (vs the 25 year old who’s future is uncertain)
Who do you think she’s going to be chasing
when you forget about game/seduction and look at it from a more authentic perspective - ultimately women want to date men that they respect, that they want to be like, that they can learn from and they can experience new things with.
A 22 year old guy is not your competition for the top women. The 34 year old EX-NFL player that now owns a successful security business is.
the way modern dating works now is women will have 2-3 high value men on their social media who they are watching and interested in. They will test them ruthhlessly (often with mixed signals/thirst traps etc) and then meet the one that passes the tests and peaks their interest by the content they post.
they’ll be open to sleeping with that guy fast when they meet, because she feels she knows him well (from the content he posts daily) and has tested him very hard against other high value men.
