How to find a wife in this western world?

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

You make some good points but the issues due to globalization/smartphone infiltration have made a lot of this ineffective in late 2023.

If you are going for above average looking girls, i.e. 7.5's or better, she will definitely have a social media presence. You are going to be competing with local guys that you aren't even aware of, who probably make decent money and look pretty good. You better have a compelling reason why she would pick a random foreigner like you, even if you learn the language and local customs well. You are still seen as an outsider, and particularly as nationalism/fascism is on the rise in many countries, it will work against you.

This is where you can play the money angle to some extent, but very few guys have the ability to have such geographic arbitrage opportunities to earn good money. Usually it is older guys who have already built wealth that can utilize this, but the downside is, guess what, being old.

If you are going for regular girls who work in mcdonalds, starbucks, hr in an office, sure those will look worse, but maybe they are still better than what you can get back in the UK/Canada/US. Although, going for a 6 barista in some third world country, I think most guys can pretty much get that in their original countries anyway, so you have to wonder what the point is.

Are you speaking from experience?

Read what you wrote in bold, that's a loser mentality.

You are ALWAYS competing against other guys and the ones who make decent money are NEVER the threats, you would know this if you had a shred of game. Social Media? Who cares, those guys aren't REAL. The guy infront of her is the guy who has the best chance, not the smartphone simps in her DM's. If you're good at what you do, she will forget that thing even exists. When are you guys going to get it through your head, girls don't want compliments from rich retards, they want validation from guys they think are cool. They love strange animals, not cute little teddy bears with six packs. As a foreigner you have something that every single guy around her doesn't: You are EXOTIC, MYSTERIOUS and DIFFERENT. You don't play by her society's rules, you are dangerous by default. The only guys you need to worry about are the ones with the AK's in the back alley, and if you know how to make friends, they are going to be the ones trying to hook you up with their sisters. My brother-in-law is one of those dudes, he brought a knife to our first meeting. This is where real life intersects with the fantasy land you've been brought up to believe in. Nobody wants you to assimilate, they want you to be the interesting foreign friend and identify the differences between your culture and theirs, the pros, the cons. This is something only a foreigner can accurately do.

I've lived in Brazil, Mexico, Japan, Korea and China. I speak 6 languages and I started living abroad in my early twenties with a TESOL and $400 to my name. If you don't know what the point is, you don't understand the reason men are leaving the West and probably haven't had a real conversation with an expat or anyone right-leaning in a decade. I've already been labeled a sexist/misogynist/racist/nationalist/fascist with unacceptable views in my own country, I think I'm aware of the places I can call home.

The 3rd world has no safety net. The closer women come to death, the more they understand the importance of marriage, homemaking skills and self-preservation. They get why work ethic is not only important but something you must do in order to survive. I'd love to know your definition of a six as in my opinion women in the West don't go above 1. If you're dense enough to pick a woman from the UK/Canada/US over a 3rd world woman, you deserve everything that entails.

Did you read my post at all? If you think only old guys travel, you must live in the Arctic Circle. Immigrants are everywhere. If you're an American or someone born with a silver spoon it's not a stretch to suggest that you're probably sitting around a basement jerking off to onlyfans and talking to girls through Twitch. One of my mentors, a crazy queer bastard, freaked out at work, got into his rambler with only the clothes on his back, and drove south until it ran out of gas. He proceeded to spend the rest of his life in Toluca, Mexico. Found a job teaching at Pepsi and taught me how to make money from corporate classes. Then because we got along, he hooked me up with those classes and the people in government who take care of visa problems.

Instead of whining, find a way.

Money is only good if the things you can buy with it make you happy. What happens after you've got the house, car and money in the bank? You keep working so you can retire and what? Get ready for death? By yourself a nice coffin? Sleep with one eye open praying that your prenup to your spoiled bi11tch wife holds up? You know it costs 500 bucks to get a flight down south but the experiences you'll have when you don't have a safety net will be invaluable.

Have you ever seen a UFO up close? I have. That's an experience you can't buy with money. Right place, right time. You are only young once and if you wait till you're old to travel you won't get to enjoy the things that young people like and get access to. You won't be able to make real connections to those 20 and 30-somethings and you'll feel out of place sitting at a table full of university kids (unless you're the prof) or a nightclub with women hopping up and down or a skate park with teens popping ollies. After 40 those things appeal to you a lot less than a warm bed and a good night's sleep. I spent my 20's breakdancing at nightclubs and getting invited to parties. When I tried it in my 40's, my ears were ringing and I couldn't get out of bed the next day. Young people don't think that old people belong at their parties, guy's their dad's age are uncool and out of touch. Just like us old guys can't stand young people, their 3-second attention span, quitter attitude, and stupid phones.

I'm not a random foreigner, I have a purpose and if you're smart you'll want to be a part of it.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Hi guys,

it has been 6 months since my breakup with my ex girlfriend. Same old story. I wasnt happy in the relationship, she didnt get the love she needed, alot of fights, she broke up with me to open my eyes, I then broke up with her after being together again for 1 day, because once you do that **** its over. Havent looked back since. A valuable lesson i learned here is to not have a relationship with a woman just because you have a connection and she is pretty. Like my ex, I feel like many women bring alot of toxic baggage, insecurities from past relationships which are not things I am looking for in a wife.

So here I stand wondering… What qualities should you look for? And do women even exist that will stay with you even when the relationships has its ups and downs? Mainly a strong woman so to speak.

Leave the Western world.

But I think marriage or at least monogamy is incompatible with human happiness so there's that.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Leave the Western world.

But I think marriage or at least monogamy is incompatible with human happiness so there's that.

Not for me but if you feel that way, stay in the West.

 

[DreamAgain]

Are you speaking from experience?

Read what you wrote in bold, that's a loser mentality.

You are ALWAYS competing against other guys and the ones who make decent money are NEVER the threats, you would know this if you had a shred of game. Social Media? Who cares, those guys aren't REAL. The guy infront of her is the guy who has the best chance, not the smartphone simps in her DM's. If you're good at what you do, she will forget that thing even exists. When are you guys going to get it through your head, girls don't want compliments from rich retards, they want validation from guys they think are cool. They love strange animals, not cute little teddy bears with six packs. As a foreigner you have something that every single guy around her doesn't: You are EXOTIC, MYSTERIOUS and DIFFERENT. You don't play by her society's rules, you are dangerous by default. The only guys you need to worry about are the ones with the AK's in the back alley, and if you know how to make friends, they are going to be the ones trying to hook you up with their sisters. My brother-in-law is one of those dudes, he brought a knife to our first meeting. This is where real life intersects with the fantasy land you've been brought up to believe in. Nobody wants you to assimilate, they want you to be the interesting foreign friend and identify the differences between your culture and theirs, the pros, the cons. This is something only a foreigner can accurately do.

I've lived in Brazil, Mexico, Japan, Korea and China. I speak 6 languages and I started living abroad in my early twenties with a TESOL and $400 to my name. If you don't know what the point is, you don't understand the reason men are leaving the West and probably haven't had a real conversation with an expat or anyone right-leaning in a decade. I've already been labeled a sexist/misogynist/racist/nationalist/fascist with unacceptable views in my own country, I think I'm aware of the places I can call home.

The 3rd world has no safety net. The closer women come to death, the more they understand the importance of marriage, homemaking skills and self-preservation. They get why work ethic is not only important but something you must do in order to survive. I'd love to know your definition of a six as in my opinion women in the West don't go above 1. If you're dense enough to pick a woman from the UK/Canada/US over a 3rd world woman, you deserve everything that entails.

Did you read my post at all? If you think only old guys travel, you must live in the Arctic Circle. Immigrants are everywhere. If you're an American or someone born with a silver spoon it's not a stretch to suggest that you're probably sitting around a basement jerking off to onlyfans and talking to girls through Twitch. One of my mentors, a crazy queer bastard, freaked out at work, got into his rambler with only the clothes on his back, and drove south until it ran out of gas. He proceeded to spend the rest of his life in Toluca, Mexico. Found a job teaching at Pepsi and taught me how to make money from corporate classes. Then because we got along, he hooked me up with those classes and the people in government who take care of visa problems.

Instead of whining, find a way.

Money is only good if the things you can buy with it make you happy. What happens after you've got the house, car and money in the bank? You keep working so you can retire and what? Get ready for death? By yourself a nice coffin? Sleep with one eye open praying that your prenup to your spoiled bi11tch wife holds up? You know it costs 500 bucks to get a flight down south but the experiences you'll have when you don't have a safety net will be invaluable.

Have you ever seen a UFO up close? I have. That's an experience you can't buy with money. Right place, right time. You are only young once and if you wait till you're old to travel you won't get to enjoy the things that young people like and get access to. You won't be able to make real connections to those 20 and 30-somethings and you'll feel out of place sitting at a table full of university kids (unless you're the prof) or a nightclub with women hopping up and down or a skate park with teens popping ollies. After 40 those things appeal to you a lot less than a warm bed and a good night's sleep. I spent my 20's breakdancing at nightclubs and getting invited to parties. When I tried it in my 40's, my ears were ringing and I couldn't get out of bed the next day. Young people don't think that old people belong at their parties, guy's their dad's age are uncool and out of touch. Just like us old guys can't stand young people, their 3-second attention span, quitter attitude, and stupid phones.

I'm not a random foreigner, I have a purpose and if you're smart you'll want to be a part of it.

Good luck third world dumpster diving

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Good luck third world dumpster diving

You're a woman huh?

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Not for me but if you feel that way, stay in the West.

Nah I left that nonsense behind long ago

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Nah I left that nonsense behind long ago

or Brazil