How do you guys apply "Walking Away"

[soulforge]

Very simple question.

I rarely ever travel to meet girls or spend much time at her house.

If a girls gets out of hand, combative or disrespectful with you, how would you apply "Walking Away" if she is at your house?

You're not going to exactly walk out of your own house right and not come back lol (that would be dumb)

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It's not about physically walking away, it's about the ability to step out of the connection/relationship and find someone else.

I'm in polyamorous relationships, my kittens know I have other options, so I choose to be with them, but I can just as easily choose someone else if they displease me.

When they misbehave at my house, I only have to point out that they are free to leave and come back when they sorted out their own drama. Rarely do I need to point that out again.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Silence

 

[obelisk]

Perception is everything. Nothing that you do or say to her will be more powerful than the movie she plays in her own head about what is happening when you withdraw attention and validation. This is why silence is such a powerful tool when leveraged.

 

[Bokanovsky]

If a girls gets out of hand, combative or disrespectful with you, how would you apply "Walking Away" if she is at your house?

You're not going to exactly walk out of your own house right and not come back lol (that would be dumb)

Tell her to get the fvck out.

 

[soulforge]

Tell her to get the fvck out.

Lol taking no prisoners

 

[obelisk]

 

[Bokanovsky]

Lol taking no prisoners

Well, if she, to quote you "gets out of hand, combative or disrespectful", then yes, you ask the b!tch to leave. Why would you want to have someone disrespecting you in your own house?

 

[soulforge]

Well, if she, to quote you "gets out of hand, combative or disrespectful", then yes, you ask the b!tch to leave. Why would you want to have someone disrespecting you in your own house?

I usually give them once chance to be nice and if it continues, I agree, no problem in telling that person to Leave.

I wouldn't simply kick her out, I think it's best to call her an uber or something, but yeh I agree, under your own roof, a man shouldn't have to tolerate that kinda shyte.

It's just think it's easier if you are outdoors, or at her house, then you can grab your coat, and simply walk out.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I usually give them once chance to be nice and if it continues, I agree, no problem in telling that person to Leave.

I wouldn't simply kick her out, I think it's best to call her an uber or something, but yeh I agree, under your own roof, a man shouldn't have to tolerate that kinda shyte.

It's just think it's easier if you are outdoors, or at her house, then you can grab your coat, and simply walk out.

If you find yourself in these situations often, consider whether:

a) you exercise bad judgment and go for women who are ill-mannered and prone to excessive drama; or
b) there is something about your own personality and behaviour that triggers arguments and drama.

 

[soulforge]

If you find yourself in these situations often, consider whether:

a) you exercise bad judgment and go for women who are ill-mannered and prone to excessive drama; or
b) there is something about your own personality and behaviour that triggers arguments and drama.

Fair point.. I only have ever had this situation once with my recent ex.

My previous relationships prior to that we rarely had arguments about anything. My last long term relationship was 2 years and I think only once we had a little disagreement, I actually found it a little odd on why we never argued about anything at all lol.

She was a very feminine and easy going person.

With my recent ex, the Russian one, she was very masculine, had agressive tendencies.

She was bought up without a father in the picture, so I doubt she has experienced boundaries/decipline from a masculine figure. Her natural reaction to anything close to a boundary is/was arguing back or combativeness.

 

[Stanley]

If she's already in your space and it's time for her to hit the road then let her know. Depends on the situation, the tone you want to exude and the intent. If I want to let her know "I don't appreciate her behavior" without directly saying it and getting into an argument, then in a poised and calm manner i'd say

"I think you should leave" and then employ silence and distance as needed. Withdraw the currency she craves most from you, attention.

You're not calling her out or stirring the pot, you are making things pretty cut and dry that it's time to go and you are sub-communicating your disapproval. Make sure you deescalate throughout as best you can if she's already in a fit.

If you don't give a **** about the aftermath then by all means kick her ass out lol

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Rookies, all of you.

SET BOUNDARIES AND LIMITATIONS BEFORE YOU ARE EVER IN THIS SITUATION TO BEGIN WITH. Don't know how many times I have posted this on this forum, you'd think some of you would of picked up on it by now.

Any massively combative woman is going to act out the second you try to set a boundary or limitation, when she does, you get rid of her then and there, you certainly don't let some woman into your house before you know how she reacts to a limit or boundary, this is basic AF. If you are sore for some tail, you then ask to go to her house as a last ditch so you can just leave or like go bang her in the woods or something idc just not at your house

 

[soulforge]

Rookies, all of you.

SET BOUNDARIES AND LIMITATIONS BEFORE YOU ARE EVER IN THIS SITUATION TO BEGIN WITH. Don't know how many times I have posted this on this forum, you'd think some of you would of picked up on it by now.

Any massively combative woman is going to act out the second you try to set a boundary or limitation, when she does, you get rid of her then and there, you certainly don't let some woman into your house before you know how she reacts to a limit or boundary, this is basic AF. If you are sore for some tail, you then ask to go to her house as a last ditch so you can just leave or like go bang her in the woods or something idc just not at your house

This is actually the Gospel truth.

If we vetted girls better, we should already have a good inclination of how relaxed easy going she is, or how combative she is.

If she has a bad temper, or has shown signs of being overly combative, then realistically she shouldn't even be allowed into your house.

They shouldn't even get through the door.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If we vetted girls better, we should already have a good inclination of how relaxed easy going she is, or how combative she is.

Don't lecture me, man. I know exactly what kind of woman I want to do combat sex with.

The thing with the whole 'Walking Away' thing is not the act of Walking Away, but the ability to Walk Away. It's not that you have to threaten with walking away from the relationship, it's the woman knowing you have options and knowing you won't hesitate to use those options if she doesn't behave.

If you have to say you are the King, you're not the King.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

SET BOUNDARIES AND LIMITATIONS BEFORE YOU ARE EVER IN THIS SITUATION TO BEGIN WITH.

Any massively combative woman is going to act out the second you try to set a boundary or limitation

Or, they'll just do it behind your back.

For the first few months of dating, there's no reason to set rules or boundaries, better to just play dumb, observe their actions, vet and ask probing questions - if you get any girl to talk enough they will rat themselves out. Then down the road if she wants something more serious, lay out the terms of your conditions. By then you should already have an idea if she'll even be willing or able to agree to them.

 

[The Duke]

If a girls gets out of hand, combative or disrespectful with you, how would you apply "Walking Away" if she is at your house?

You're not going to exactly walk out of your own house right and not come back lol (that would be dumb)

Several years back, a crazy girl I was dating was planning on coming to my house and bringing some food she made. I got off work later than expected and still needed to hit the gym on my way home so I let her know I would be 30min late but she could let herself in. Her hamster wheel went into overdrive and she wants me to send her my GPS location because she thinks I am fuhking her bestfriend. She also tells her best friend to send her GPS coordinates as well. Neither of us complied so thats when she is certain we must be in bed together. good ole crazy brain thinking!

When I arrived at my house, she lays into me and it escalates. I finally tell her to leave. On her way out, she grabs her pan of lasagna and tosses it out the back door. lol, it goes every where! My dog didn't waste anytime cleaning up the mess. There was lasagna mess on the wall, door, and patio. 10 minutes later she calls me and tells me she is going to drive her car off the bridge. I don't believe her, but I try to calm her.

Later that night her friend that she accused me of fuhking goes to check on her. Her friend and her get into it and the friend leaves. Her friend then calls the police to do a welfare check on her. She is emotional and says she is going to kill herself. So that gets her an automatic free ride to the Crazy House for 36hrs for observation.

Yours truly gets a phone call from the police department. My jaw hit the floor. Even though I didn't do anything wrong, I was fully aware of how guys get screwed in situations like these. Everything turned out fine, but it was the end of dating crazy girls for sure.

If you are ever in this situation:

1. Stay calm.
2. Start recording the situation and don't let her know you are recording.
3. Call the police. You can even text 911 in some cities, so she wont be able to hear your conversation.
4. Get out of your house if you have to.

 

[manfrombelow]

10 minutes later she calls me and tells me she is going to drive her car off the bridge. I don't believe her, but I try to calm her.

1. That's why it's crucial for you guys to VET very carefully before letting women know of your home address.

2. At this point (a person threatens to kill themselves), you should just hang up and stop giving a fvck. "Try to calm her" is a lost cause and totally not needed.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Very simple question.

I rarely ever travel to meet girls or spend much time at her house.

If a girls gets out of hand, combative or disrespectful with you, how would you apply "Walking Away" if she is at your house?

You're not going to exactly walk out of your own house right and not come back lol (that would be dumb)

It's more the conscious thought that she knows that you at anytime can walk out of the door and never come back if she doesn't behave/submit to your frame which is the key part - keeps the hamster wheel spinning.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

My dog didn't waste anytime cleaning up the mess. There was lasagna mess on the wall, door, and patio.

Well at least your dog had a party and won. Ha ha...