soulforge
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This is a long one, but I will keep it as short as possible.
She is age 24 Russian/Luthuainin chick. Looks wise she is 6.5 however body wise she is a solid 8.5 (Stunning body) I am age 47, but look younger, big age difference.
9 months relationship with her, she wanted to have kids with me.
You have probably seen some of my posts regarding my ex Russian Girlfriend.
To be honest, after 5 weeks of NC I am still thinking about her quite abit.
What makes this breakup difficult is, it was alot of good, mixed in with alot of really bad.
Was hoping you could take a look at the pros and cons and let me know how to proceed forward.
By the way it was me who ended the LTR, as she was being combative (once again) at my house and I told her to leave after we exchanged some angry words, which where hurtful to both of us.
This is the good.
01.She can be very sweet and loving at times & extremely effectionate with kisses and cuddles etc.
02. She would cook for me time to time and help clean up around my apartment.
03. Her body was beautiful and sex was great (very compatible sexualy)
04. Would text me every morning with a good morning text.
The Bad (Or the red flags)
01. She has an agressive/combative streak and once annoyed becomes argumentative and challenging. This doesn't happen constantly, but at least once every two weeks, she would become combative.
She was kinda combative from day one when I met her, it's not like something that developed later. She has this masculine energy about her sometimes. I always checked her on her bratty attitude, but after a while it becomes tiresome. She can be feminine too, but her masculine side makes an ugly appearance just too often.
On one occasion she told me to "Shut The Fack Up" I walked away from her and she came pleading wanting another chance.
02. She is addicted to social media, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Tik Tok, she is even in some group chats. She doesn't really post sexy/nude/bikini pictures, however she does post selfies posing etc in order to get attention & validation.
03. She had lots of male friends.. More male friends than actually girls, this is what she told me herself. Once she got into an LTR with me, she cut out the males, because I told her it's not acceptable. (I am sure she still kept a few around though)
04. She has had depression for quite a good few years. Had been on anti depressants on/off. I am pretty sure it's effected her personality and there is some past trauma.
05. Her father passed away when she was young due to alcoholicism, so there is likely some daddy issues. She is now raised by a single mother.
06. Alcohol is a massive factor in her life, all her family even most freinds are big drinkers. They are Luthuainin & Russian and drinking is the norm for them on a regular basis.
07. Ex party girl. Well she did quite alot of clubs/bars before she met me. Once she got into an LTR with me she quit all that, however party girls can slide back into that lifestyle quite easily if there freinds are doing it especially when there IL is lower.
08. She has a couple of friends that are h0es. She admitted they have a h0e past, and for a while she didn't hang around with them, but recently began seeing them again. However these girls have boyfriends now.
09. She doesn't know how to apologize. She will cause a drama, at best she will come over and give me a kiss, but she will be never apologize or accept she did anything wrong.
10. At the age of 24, her body count is 20 or possibly more.
With all of the above BS, my biggest issue is her combative attitude. Masculine Energy.
I tolerated it for a while, but decided enough is enough and I walked away. She had maybe 4 strikes, including Disrespect.
Around 5 weeks ago, she was at my house and a little disagreement turned into her becoming agressive and argumentative, this was the last straw for me, so I told her to leave my house.
She packed her Chit and left. It's been solid 5 weeks NC since then.
It's mixed emotions now. Sometimes I think I overreacted and shouldn't have told her to leave, however she had maybe 3-4 chances already to fix up, so in many ways she deserved getting the boot.
Sometimes I would have to check her, and she would snap back with some stupid argument which would lead to the situation getting heated.
I'm pretty sure she will contact me again at some point. Right now I am not ready to take her back even as FWB
It boils down to this, it's was me who isnstigated the breakup.
Should I continue with no contact? Heart is missing her.. However my brain (logic) tells me that I Dodge a bullet and need to move the F on!
She is age 24 Russian/Luthuainin chick. Looks wise she is 6.5 however body wise she is a solid 8.5 (Stunning body) I am age 47, but look younger, big age difference.
9 months relationship with her, she wanted to have kids with me.
You have probably seen some of my posts regarding my ex Russian Girlfriend.
To be honest, after 5 weeks of NC I am still thinking about her quite abit.
What makes this breakup difficult is, it was alot of good, mixed in with alot of really bad.
Was hoping you could take a look at the pros and cons and let me know how to proceed forward.
By the way it was me who ended the LTR, as she was being combative (once again) at my house and I told her to leave after we exchanged some angry words, which where hurtful to both of us.
This is the good.
01.She can be very sweet and loving at times & extremely effectionate with kisses and cuddles etc.
02. She would cook for me time to time and help clean up around my apartment.
03. Her body was beautiful and sex was great (very compatible sexualy)
04. Would text me every morning with a good morning text.
The Bad (Or the red flags)
01. She has an agressive/combative streak and once annoyed becomes argumentative and challenging. This doesn't happen constantly, but at least once every two weeks, she would become combative.
She was kinda combative from day one when I met her, it's not like something that developed later. She has this masculine energy about her sometimes. I always checked her on her bratty attitude, but after a while it becomes tiresome. She can be feminine too, but her masculine side makes an ugly appearance just too often.
On one occasion she told me to "Shut The Fack Up" I walked away from her and she came pleading wanting another chance.
02. She is addicted to social media, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Tik Tok, she is even in some group chats. She doesn't really post sexy/nude/bikini pictures, however she does post selfies posing etc in order to get attention & validation.
03. She had lots of male friends.. More male friends than actually girls, this is what she told me herself. Once she got into an LTR with me, she cut out the males, because I told her it's not acceptable. (I am sure she still kept a few around though)
04. She has had depression for quite a good few years. Had been on anti depressants on/off. I am pretty sure it's effected her personality and there is some past trauma.
05. Her father passed away when she was young due to alcoholicism, so there is likely some daddy issues. She is now raised by a single mother.
06. Alcohol is a massive factor in her life, all her family even most freinds are big drinkers. They are Luthuainin & Russian and drinking is the norm for them on a regular basis.
07. Ex party girl. Well she did quite alot of clubs/bars before she met me. Once she got into an LTR with me she quit all that, however party girls can slide back into that lifestyle quite easily if there freinds are doing it especially when there IL is lower.
08. She has a couple of friends that are h0es. She admitted they have a h0e past, and for a while she didn't hang around with them, but recently began seeing them again. However these girls have boyfriends now.
09. She doesn't know how to apologize. She will cause a drama, at best she will come over and give me a kiss, but she will be never apologize or accept she did anything wrong.
10. At the age of 24, her body count is 20 or possibly more.
With all of the above BS, my biggest issue is her combative attitude. Masculine Energy.
I tolerated it for a while, but decided enough is enough and I walked away. She had maybe 4 strikes, including Disrespect.
Around 5 weeks ago, she was at my house and a little disagreement turned into her becoming agressive and argumentative, this was the last straw for me, so I told her to leave my house.
She packed her Chit and left. It's been solid 5 weeks NC since then.
It's mixed emotions now. Sometimes I think I overreacted and shouldn't have told her to leave, however she had maybe 3-4 chances already to fix up, so in many ways she deserved getting the boot.
Sometimes I would have to check her, and she would snap back with some stupid argument which would lead to the situation getting heated.
I'm pretty sure she will contact me again at some point. Right now I am not ready to take her back even as FWB
It boils down to this, it's was me who isnstigated the breakup.
Should I continue with no contact? Heart is missing her.. However my brain (logic) tells me that I Dodge a bullet and need to move the F on!
