35 Year Old Lawyer Female Seeks Chad Husband; Offering $5,000 Finders Fee for Chad

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You guys are funny. I agree this is not a great strategy but she’s putting it out there. She’s not overweight, has a nice bust, and is obviously intelligent…She’s not a cover girl but she isn’t objectionable in the looks department either.

The real issue is the “boss b1tch” attitude reflected in this course of action. Perhaps she’ll figure it out this way, I’d be curious to see that.

It’s tough as a successful chick. Men do not (as a general rule) appreciate a really dominant woman. So she’s going to have to adjust her attitude or adjust her standards, probably both.

She has to be able to honestly appraise her value next to the type of women the archetype she wants is able to attract. She hasn’t done that yet…and if she is trying to do that she isn’t understanding how men value women. It’s less about the law degree and more about femininity and kindness, as well as top notch looks. She doesn’t yet realize who the competition is. She might get lucky. You just never know.
I actually agree with this, in fact I'd actually say that she definitely looks better than the majority of women around her age. I think the problem is that many women think that having a degree or some good paying job means that they should be entitled to some top tier man. Many women seem to not understand that men really don't care about how much a woman makes, her level of success in career, her degree, etc. These are more masculine aligned traits that young women have been conditioned to pursue. Most men are really just looking for a woman that they find physically attractive that they have some degree of personal compatibility with that is feminine and submits to them.
 

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I actually agree with this, in fact I'd actually say that she definitely looks better than the majority of women around her age. I think the problem is that many women think that having a degree or some good paying job means that they should be entitled to some top tier man. Many women seem to not understand that men really don't care about how much a woman makes, her level of success in career, her degree, etc. These are more masculine aligned traits that young women have been conditioned to pursue. Most men are really just looking for a woman that they find physically attractive that they have some degree of personal compatibility with that is feminine and submits to them.
Even in my sh*tty area I see women her age mid 30s to 40s better looking. In 10 years you can tell she's going to get heavier.
 

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One of my own sisters struggles with the same thing. She is pretty but she has always struggled with weight, She’s roughly 5’9” 160 if I had to guess, and she’s mid 40s with a 10 and 14 yr old. She’s also financially well off and self supporting in an affluent area. STEM career. Her high school sweetheart, who she married after college cheated on her. They divorced and her ex husband remarried another high school classmate who had been the mistress, perhaps for years. So I don’t blame her for dropping him (he’s a pretty caustic guy anyhow), but she has not wrapped her brain around the older singles market.

She is much less entitled than the gal in the article, every bit as intelligent if not more so, and she wants a fit masculine man. The problem is her weight. Guys who commit to being shredded at the gym want a woman who also stays in shape, and she cannot, I mean CAN NOT bear to hear reality about it. She gets very upset and will tell me I don’t understand, so I’ve stopped discussing it with her. Because in fact I understand the problem completely.

At size 12? She has these issues. At size 6? She would have many many more options. She also rejects solid men who do show interest in her that she doesn’t feel chemistry with/desire for.

There is a reason I am serious about being size 2. Every 10 lbs gained the options fall off.

That’s true for men as well of course, but because men are so visually stimulated, a woman who doesn’t meet basic physical criteria will not get a chance with men who have enough abundance to select an equivalent, younger woman who is fit and may not have children.

The inability to face the truth is the problem with these women. And that results in great frustration to them.
 

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A 5'10", 35 year old corporate litigator female in Los Angeles who has been single for 5 years and is very average looking seeks a 6'0"+ man who is in shape. Given as though she is a Western woman with an advanced degree and a big career, she is likely also only going to marry if the man makes her range of salary.


She's delusional. The men she wants don't want her. No 'Chad' will want to commit to her. If 'Chad' wants to commit, he'll be committing to some woman who is an '8'+ in looks and likely younger.

Because she's 5'10", she's not that unreasonable in wanting men taller than her, so men like @MatureDJ are out.

She only claims to be rarely approached in person.
I also agree with your comments here. She looks good for her age but the biggest problem is her attitude and sense of entitlement because of her career status. A woman like this is very likely to be incredibly fussy with the men that she would be open to dating, let alone open to entering into a relationship with. I guarantee that this woman had plenty of opportunities to land a decent guy when she was younger but completely sabotaged this due to either being too picky for her own good or simply being unavailable. I could see her talking to some guy she met at a coffee shop on her way to work, perhaps she goes on a date with him and she actually seems to enjoy the interaction. However, she isn't really all that available because she is focused on other things in her life and the guy she is talking to perceives this as a lack of interest from her end and moves on. She is left frustrated and wondering what happened to the interaction. It's also possible she was a serial dater who had a lot of short term and unsuccessful interactions with potential suitors that fell off the boat for one reason or another. Given enough experiences like this, I believe women like this start becoming a bit bitter and slowly become increasingly pickier and put up a lot of obstacles that men need to navigate. Basically, a woman that is more masculine in her behavior and instead of being fun to date she is a chore to deal with lol.
 

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Even in my sh*tty area I see women her age mid 30s to 40s better looking. In 10 years you can tell she's going to get heavier.
She's not far off from 40. I'm not saying she is a model or hot stuff but you are delusional if you think a woman like that at her age is average or even below average looking. Most women in her age bracket are going to be overweight, out of shape, etc. and she is none of those things.
 

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She's not far off from 40. I'm not saying she is a model or hot stuff but you are delusional if you think a woman like that at her age is average or even below average looking. Most women in her age bracket are going to be overweight, out of shape, etc. and she is none of those things.
Female height is an issue for most of us. Lol
 

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One of my own sisters struggles with the same thing. She is pretty but she has always struggled with weight, She’s roughly 5’9” 160 if I had to guess, and she’s mid 40s with a 10 and 14 yr old. She’s also financially well off and self supporting in an affluent area. STEM career. Her high school sweetheart, who she married after college cheated on her. They divorced and her ex husband remarried another high school classmate who had been the mistress, perhaps for years. So I don’t blame her for dropping him (he’s a pretty caustic guy anyhow), but she has not wrapped her brain around the older singles market.

She is much less entitled than the gal in the article, every bit as intelligent if not more so, and she wants a fit masculine man. The problem is her weight. Guys who commit to being shredded at the gym want a woman who also stays in shape, and she cannot, I mean CAN NOT bear to hear reality about it. She gets very upset and will tell me I don’t understand, so I’ve stopped discussing it with her. Because in fact I understand the problem completely.

At size 12? She has these issues. At size 6? She would have many many more options. She also rejects solid men who do show interest in her that she doesn’t feel chemistry with/desire for.

There is a reason I am serious about being size 2. Every 10 lbs gained the options fall off.

That’s true for men as well of course, but because men are so visually stimulated, a woman who doesn’t meet basic physical criteria will not get a chance with men who have enough abundance to select an equivalent, younger woman who is fit and may not have children.

The inability to face the truth is the problem with these women. And that results in great frustration to them.
I've actually seen a lot of overweight women expecting men to be in shape or at least reasonably fit, whilst they can't live up to those expectations. I feel a big part of this is due to the media, as it's basically saying that it's ok to be fat as a woman, etc. Meanwhile, they are also being told that having good careers entitles them to high quality men, which again just adds to this.

I personally believe that if a woman is close to 30, or over it, and has been single for a long time there is a reason for it. The majority of these cases are literally these women being too fussy and rejecting too many men. Honestly, a lot of men would happily enter into a relationship with a woman that is quite overweight or even has full blown behavior issues. I had a relative that was a nurse in a major metro in the northeast and she was talking about the young nurses struggling to find relationships. I listened to the story and she then mentioned that these young nurses said that there were no men with "brains" in the area lol. So, you are going to tell me in a metro area with literally over a million people there are no men that had "brains" lol. This type of behavior is quite common, especially for career women I've noticed.
 

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She also has a grating voice and speaks waaay too fast, which is not necessarily a trait of being smart. Hell maybe she’s a litigator.

I also agree with your comments here. She looks good for her age but the biggest problem is her attitude and sense of entitlement because of her career status. A woman like this is very likely to be incredibly fussy with the men that she would be open to dating, let alone open to entering into a relationship with. I guarantee that this woman had plenty of opportunities to land a decent guy when she was younger but completely sabotaged this due to either being too picky for her own good or simply being unavailable. I could see her talking to some guy she met at a coffee shop on her way to work, perhaps she goes on a date with him and she actually seems to enjoy the interaction. However, she isn't really all that available because she is focused on other things in her life and the guy she is talking to perceives this as a lack of interest from her end and moves on. She is left frustrated and wondering what happened to the interaction. It's also possible she was a serial dater who had a lot of short term and unsuccessful interactions with potential suitors that fell off the boat for one reason or another. Given enough experiences like this, I believe women like this start becoming a bit bitter and slowly become increasingly pickier and put up a lot of obstacles that men need to navigate. Basically, a woman that is more masculine in her behavior and instead of being fun to date she is a chore to deal with lol.
 

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Bear in mind if you go by BMI my sister is considered normal weight range. She’s around 24. At 25 or over a person is considered overweight so medically she isn’t overweight. But when you compare her to someone much more lean, (my BMI for example is 19, give or take), she appears overweight in a relative sense.

My sister is not obese by any means but the ripped men are not going to show interest in her when a leaner specimen is available, other things being equal.
 

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I wasn't factoring in the height but purely just the way her body/face looks. Anyone who says she looks bad for her age is delusional.
I like skinny, smaller bone women. I mean like 5-5, to 5-6 and under 125lbs. I like skinny legs. Not too tall, but not too short. I know that's hard to find these days. When I went to lunch with mom a few days ago had an HB 8.5 waitress. Looked about 21-24, pretty young. About 5-5 to 5-6 skinny legs, brunette, nice face and teeth. But she had a couple tats which ruined the whole site. Otherwise I'd like to bend her over the bar lol. Think a shorter version of Melina Trump for example. Skinny bones, just shorter.
 

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Well everyone has their triggers, but this is the first time I’ve ever heard a man say he likes skinny legs.

One of my biggest beefs with Mexican girls (not latinas, MEXICAN GIRLS) is their skinny calves.
 

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You guys are funny. I agree this is not a great strategy but she’s putting it out there. She’s not overweight, has a nice bust, and is obviously intelligent…She’s not a cover girl but she isn’t objectionable in the looks department either.

The real issue is the “boss b1tch” attitude reflected in this course of action. Perhaps she’ll figure it out this way, I’d be curious to see that.

It’s tough as a successful chick. Men do not (as a general rule) appreciate a really dominant woman. So she’s going to have to adjust her attitude or adjust her standards, probably both.

She has to be able to honestly appraise her value next to the type of women the archetype she wants is able to attract. She hasn’t done that yet…and if she is trying to do that she isn’t understanding how men value women. It’s less about the law degree and more about femininity and kindness, as well as top notch looks. She doesn’t yet realize who the competition is. She might get lucky. You just never know.
Yeah I don't think she is bad looking, it's her attitude that makes her seem "entitled" to have an awesome guy just land in her lap and acts like she somehow "deserves" that just because of her status as a lawyer who makes a lot of money.

That makes her ugly, and is the equivalent of taking herself off the board for me, same way an NFL takes a player off their board for medical reasons or character issues.
 

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Yeah I don't think she is bad looking, it's her attitude that makes her seem "entitled" to have an awesome guy just land in her lap and acts like she somehow "deserves" that just because of her status as a lawyer who makes a lot of money.

That makes her ugly, and is the equivalent of taking herself off the board for me, same way an NFL team takes a player off their draft board for medical reasons or character issues.
$5 says she's going to beat up a poor sap in a Vegas elevator someday.
 

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She looks good for her age but the biggest problem is her attitude and sense of entitlement because of her career status. A woman like this is very likely to be incredibly fussy with the men that she would be open to dating, let alone open to entering into a relationship with. I guarantee that this woman had plenty of opportunities to land a decent guy when she was younger but completely sabotaged this due to either being too picky for her own good or simply being unavailable. I could see her talking to some guy she met at a coffee shop on her way to work, perhaps she goes on a date with him and she actually seems to enjoy the interaction. However, she isn't really all that available because she is focused on other things in her life and the guy she is talking to perceives this as a lack of interest from her end and moves on. She is left frustrated and wondering what happened to the interaction. It's also possible she was a serial dater who had a lot of short term and unsuccessful interactions with potential suitors that fell off the boat for one reason or another. Given enough experiences like this, I believe women like this start becoming a bit bitter and slowly become increasingly pickier and put up a lot of obstacles that men need to navigate. Basically, a woman that is more masculine in her behavior and instead of being fun to date she is a chore to deal with lol.
Very good analysis. You (@sangheilios ) are the man she's desiring. She wants a 6'0"+ guy who is top tier in fitness. She would be very excited about your 6'4" height.

She’s not overweight, has a nice bust, and is obviously intelligent…She’s not a cover girl but she isn’t objectionable in the looks department either.

The real issue is the “boss b1tch” attitude reflected in this course of action. Perhaps she’ll figure it out this way, I’d be curious to see that.

It’s tough as a successful chick. Men do not (as a general rule) appreciate a really dominant woman. So she’s going to have to adjust her attitude or adjust her standards, probably both.

She has to be able to honestly appraise her value next to the type of women the archetype she wants is able to attract. She hasn’t done that yet…and if she is trying to do that she isn’t understanding how men value women. She doesn’t yet realize who the competition is.
All accurate.

What most modern women fail to understand is that their price is too high for what they provide to the man. I agree she’s not ugly, but she is an average looking, likely masculine woman (shown by career choice) who has standards that exceed her market worth. Average looking, older (by reproduction standards) women qualify for average men.

This woman’s market equal is a man making roughly average income ($40,000-$60,000) which is likely a non managerial position. She won’t touch those guys with a ten foot pole. That is why she is still single at 35 with no marriageable prospects.
Also accurate, but you didn't mention that the guy with that roughly average income is also roughly average looking too.

She's got big boobs which is a +. Outside of that, I would say she is a HB 6 at best.

Her bigger issue is she comes across entitled, b1tchy, and looking to tell the men she is with "how it is." Remember, men are the gate-keepers to relationships. So for her to at the outset tell you that she gets that without you even having the chance to make any decisions tells you everything you need to know off the bat. I agree with BeExcellent that if she was more in the HB 8+ range you would get men who would still be willing to put up with that. As it stands, this will become another woman bellyaching about how there are "no good men out there" despite having zero realistic expectations for herself.
Her breasts are good. She is definitely in the 5-5.9 range on looks. I like everything else you said. You once dated a female lawyer, so you dated a woman similar to her.
 

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She's a Lawyer in Los Angeles and can't find a single lawyer in her age range, 45 and under that isn't a fat slob? She's way too picky.
 
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