Kicked a disrespectful 304 out of my house tonight!

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Yeh actually I am on my phone too quite abit, however I don't do any social media at all.. I have a couple of YouTube channels and I make money off them, so 90% of time, you see me on my phone it's actually business related.

She actually pulled that one on me...

"Hey your on your phone alot too"

I am yes business related. However I'm not telling you to spend less time on your phone, I'm simply stating not on my dinner table.

Big difference.
I always say If you're not kicking out at least 1 woman a year you're not dating/dealing with enough women
It happens. Heck last time I got kicked out by a crazy chick and it was for the best
 

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Do you guys agree that it's reasonable to tell a chick to avoid going on phone when enjoying a meal?

Like if you went to the restaurant or a home cooked meal.

I used to date this girl some years back, Indian chick, slim and very attractive.

Anytime I went to her house, she had a rule of footwear must come off. I mean she didn't even have nice carpet in the house lol

However she had a rule/boundary that anyone who enters her house must remove the footwear. You know what I never challenged her on that chit.. it's her house and it's her rules. I am on her turf.

So why would a chick get so damn defensive about leaving her device alone at the kitchen table.

It's because these chicks are so damn deeply addicted to social media, anything thing that comes in the way of her dorpamine fix from online validation becomes a problem for her.

It's crazy how addicted they are, that they will ruin a potential relationship for the sake of that phone.
 

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Do you guys agree that it's reasonable to tell a chick to avoid going on phone when enjoying a meal?
I only care If the girl isn't putting out and constantly playing mixed signal games. I could not give two flying fvcks about what she's doing on her phone.
 

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People here that said it was disrespectful of you to kick her out, but at the same time, it was disrespectful of her to wake you up at 3 a.m.?

As for she being on her phone/IG in your place, there's 1 other factor to take into consideration. How was she dressed? Did she take her shoes/socks off when she came to your place? Did she wear see-through pants/leggings? Etc.
 

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I only care If the girl isn't putting out and constantly playing mixed signal games. I could not give two flying fvcks about what she's doing on her phone.
That's true, however it depends on how much you like a girl.

I mean if you simply see her as some azz the yeh, you can overlook some disrespectful behaviour and smash and then send her azz home.

I suppose if you like a girl and want to maybe see how far it can go, your more like to start applying a few boundaries early on.

All that being said.. if I was having a meal with a friend or family member, and they spent less time focused on our conversation and more time focused on his/their phone chatting to whoever, I would consider that a problem too
 

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I don't know mwhennnn. How does it feel? Imo YOU lost control and projected it by lashing out on her.

If it was my sister I'd beat the feck outta you. You must guarantee safety to a woman to some degree.

I do think she's disrespectful for doing this. But at least give a strike 1 and 2. " look I'd appreciate it if you put down the phone. " ONE.

"I've asked if you yadiya " TWO.

"Look..iam done with this I've asked you twice to yadiya " THREE.

You spoken to her already ? She is young and hot. Little things like this are enough to make you insecure. Got to always stand above her.
Yeah throwing her out at 3am in anything short of physical violence is a lot. I mean if you feel that strongly about it just go sleep on your couch for the night, be the bigger person.
 

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Yeah throwing her out at 3am in anything short of physical violence is a lot. I mean if you feel that strongly about it just go sleep on your couch for the night, be the bigger person.
I agree with you on this. Honestly I feel really bad about it no lie. I already mentioned this in my post. This is where I fuked up.

I should have simply let her stay, observed her bratty behaviour and then sent her home in the morning.

You know why I didn't? Because of alcohol.

She was asleep in bed, I was drunk, I was ready for sleep, I even set my alarm for 10am so I can tell her to leave at that time, however she woke up at 3am and the combativeness started again.

Because I was more than tipsy and already not happy with the situation, I got pizzed off and told her to fvking leave.

I offered to get her a taxi, but she didn't take my offer. Honestly if I wasn't drunk I would have simply politely asked her to leave in the morning.
 

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I'm even tempted to message her and apologize for booting her out at that time l, however I don't think it will achieve anything at this point.

She was at fault for the original kick off, but I certainly should have handled it better.
 

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I agree with you on this. Honestly I feel really bad about it no lie. I already mentioned this in my post. This is where I fuked up.

I should have simply let her stay, observed her bratty behaviour and then sent her home in the morning.

You know why I didn't? Because of alcohol.

She was asleep in bed, I was drunk, I was ready for sleep, I even set my alarm for 10am so I can tell her to leave at that time, however she woke up at 3am and the combativeness started again.

Because I was more than tipsy and already not happy with the situation, I got pizzed off and told her to fvking leave.

I offered to get her a taxi, but she didn't take my offer. Honestly if I wasn't drunk I would have simply politely asked her to leave in the morning.
So she ignores you when you cook her dinner, and messes with you when you're sleeping. There's no reason to feel bad. She wakes you up to start a fight, don't worry about not having taken the high road, don't worry about if you're drinking too much. If this girl had taken the damn taxi like she should have, would you be beating yourself up so much? She's engaging in distancing behavior, let her go and move on.
 

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I'm even tempted to message her and apologize for booting her out at that time l, however I don't think it will achieve anything at this point.

She was at fault for the original kick off, but I certainly should have handled it better.
At this point you're making things worse and worse beating yourself up about it. You handle it better by mentally moving on like she is doing.
 

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I agree with you on this. Honestly I feel really bad about it no lie. I already mentioned this in my post. This is where I fuked up.

I should have simply let her stay, observed her bratty behaviour and then sent her home in the morning.

You know why I didn't? Because of alcohol.

She was asleep in bed, I was drunk, I was ready for sleep, I even set my alarm for 10am so I can tell her to leave at that time, however she woke up at 3am and the combativeness started again.

Because I was more than tipsy and already not happy with the situation, I got pizzed off and told her to fvking leave.

I offered to get her a taxi, but she didn't take my offer. Honestly if I wasn't drunk I would have simply politely asked her to leave in the morning.
Good to see you agree with me even though I'm the only with this take and you let it know by detour (agreeing with someone who agrees with me). I geuss you are still butthurt because sometimes I can be extremely blunt and I hate sugar coating shyte .

But you're a cool dude. Good to see you are able to look in the mirror critically and admit fault. Even though 90% told you your move wasn't..that wrong. You (and I) know better
I'm even tempted to message her and apologize for booting her out at that time l, however I don't think it will achieve anything at this point.

She was at fault for the original kick off, but I certainly should have handled it better.
You can't un-throw a stone, neither can you unsay what's said. But a real man knows when to admit fault regardless of the gender, position ect he's dealing with. Thats simply having character.

If you crossed the line
If you feel the need to apologize then do it. An apology should be a one way street; no expectations to get back whatever type of response, just you delivering a message. Might be the key...
 
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I understand you all, but guys we sometimes have to walk the higher path.

Getting drunk and then saying hurtful things to a chick is not the right way to handle these situations.

Girls don't analysis there own crappy behaviour and how they caused the problem or argument. They only look at how you reacted and use that against you to play the victim.

It's best not to give than that victory.

It's better to stay calm, collected, let her sleep, then politely send her home in the morning.

Honestly I didn't feel good about it. If I had not been drinking and quite drunk, that is exactly how I would have handled it.
 

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Its his house, his bed, and you telling him to sleep on the couch for a girl he's seeing for 6 weeks? WTF is wrong with you? Not even for a wife a man should be sleeping in the couch, that's just puzzy behavior.


What's done is done, stop beating yourself, its a just chick bro.
Stop…. I appreciate your sentiments on frame etc but I’m pretty sure our man will have plenty of credibility when he never hangs with her again, you can still be the bigger person Btw how trashy is she gonna feel having not only lost this guy but also being treated like he would have if she had just been a decent human being. Don’t ever lose sleep over being a little extra decent
 

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I agree with you on this. Honestly I feel really bad about it no lie. I already mentioned this in my post. This is where I fuked up.

I should have simply let her stay, observed her bratty behaviour and then sent her home in the morning.

You know why I didn't? Because of alcohol.

She was asleep in bed, I was drunk, I was ready for sleep, I even set my alarm for 10am so I can tell her to leave at that time, however she woke up at 3am and the combativeness started again.

Because I was more than tipsy and already not happy with the situation, I got pizzed off and told her to fvking leave.

I offered to get her a taxi, but she didn't take my offer. Honestly if I wasn't drunk I would have simply politely asked her to leave in the morning.
Look man like others have said, you have to just learn from it. Emotional flow. Let it go, learn for sure, move on
 

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I would have ironed out that wrinkle when the first incident occurred as in troubleshoot the hxe out to the curb.
Drop her azz like a bad habit for even getting argumentative and lippy in my sanctuary where I piss in every damn corner.
Next time don’t cook for a woman if she hasn’t earned it. gauge her behavior and temperament leading up to you throwing the apron on.

Cooking is approaching LTR territory and this one doesn’t even deserve a top ramen cup

For the first few encounters strictly alcohol and bud to burn if she down

You get the approval nod on dispatching her to the street at 3am.
I’m guilty of the same sin and I sleep well at night.
 
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I would have ironed out that wrinkle when the first incident occurred as in troubleshoot the hxe out to the curb.
Drop her azz like a bad habit for even getting argumentative and lippy in my sanctuary where I piss in every damn corner.
Next time don’t cook for a woman if she hasn’t earned it. gauge her behavior and temperament leading up to you throwing the apron on.

Cooking is approaching LTR territory and this one doesn’t even deserve a top ramen cup

Strictly alcohol and some bud to burn if she down. Some blow is complimentary too.

You get the approval nod on dispatching her to the street at 3am.
I’m guilty of the same sin and I sleep well at night.
You tell ‘em homie
 

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Just buy one of these to block cellular in your home! Also useful if you have a neighbor who loves to talk on the phone next to you!

 

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I swear y’all pick the dumbest things to fight over with women.
Why is that considered dumb?
from this scope it’s not even about trying to pick up a brawl it’s about runnin a good ol’ fashion putting your foot down laying the law down in your own house.
what’s next she takes a phone call from another dude in his house?
Basic respect and morals 101

The man was generous in cooking her a meal and politely asked her to drop the phone and in turn she drew her claws out got lippy and violent in the man’s own pad.
A random hxe at best not even girlfriend.
I would feel disgusted at that point
Now a days, I want no negative vibes in my home.

If the tables were turned and it was her own turf alright cool but I’m taking measures
 
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