Because children are annoying and married men are not people I relate to. Plus a lot are very pushy about marriage and fatherhood being the purpose of life that everyone must fulfill.
I am married but almost all my married friends have a situation like this.
They wouldn't be. They would likely be incel/borderline incel.
Exactly my point. Always gives me a chuckle.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
"puzzy"!
So why did our grandparents have long marriages and die together, why was it doable then (for pretty much everyone) and now you're hard-pressed to last 10-15 years? Why does it really matter if you get a prenup in place and get some good kids of out it, surely still worth it?
The passage of time dooms most LTRs. The LTRs (including marriages) that survive are usually diminished in quality. The participants in that LTR are usually somewhat good at not letting the outside world know how bad things are in that relationship. Married couples tend to limit their associations with unattached/marginally attached men.
Following Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 (Frame is Everything) is one of the better ways of limiting the decline. A more-Alpha like frame within an LTR will enhance a woman's perception of her level of attraction and the overall quality of the relationship. Male loss of frame and becoming more beta-like are common issues affecting the quality of LTRs.
When I was younger (late 30s now), I thought that marriage and/or living together were possibilities for my relationships. None of my relationships got to that point. In more recent years, I haven't even had that as a goal.
Firstly, I would caution not equate longevity with quality ... they might have had long marriages, but that doesn't really tell us anything about the quality of those relationships. It's similar with how lifespan has increased a lot since the second half of 20th century, but that statistic doesn't inform us about health-span. Who really wants those 15-20 extra life years if they come with a lot of illnesses?
More stress from both couples needing to work to make ends meet, unrealistic expectations from the false worlds that social media create, unlimited access to new temptations.
Just understand one thing as a married dude 20+ years, once your girl becomes your woman, most guys are not talking about their sex life like that. Understand this is now or will be your child’s mother. You not going to talk about that great ass BJ you got last night. We mature and we become more private when it comes to that….or maybe im different
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Married people are good at keeping their lives private. Part of it is because married people tend not to have much social contact with unmarried people, so unmarried people don't know what goes on with the married people in their social network. These relationships are generally weak.
I dont think living together without the objective of having kids makes any sense, period. Maybe when im older like plus 60 i will change my mind about this, but right now.... I dont see why I would live with anyone when i dont want kids
I agree. There isn't a point for you to live with a girlfriend or get married if you don't want kids.
I don't think monogamy makes sense, period.
