Jesse Pinkman
Master Don Juan
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I have spoken to a couple of my successful wings/friends and even guys who are good with women. One thing I seem to notice is that almost all of them look down on most "pickup artists" as losers they would never hang with. I often hear them say that they would never introduce hot girls they know to a lot of those weird guys. In a way, I agree. So I asked guys I know if the issue is cold approach or what, almost all of them were perfectly fine with cold approach and even advocate for it. Then a wing who has become my close friend said something that hit deep.
"I've known guys who have been running "game" for years but if I ask them to bring girls to my parties, they couldn't do it, what does that tell you?"
It hit me that as guys who get into game or anyone that observes "PUA", the goal seems way too short-sighted. Cold approach women (hit em with the same spammy pickup lines), get number, go for the lay, and then brag about your lay count. Afterwards, forget her and keep adding to your lay count. Then I see how so many PUAs end up as broken dudes who either marry ugly women or become some weird fanatic in politics or religion. Would I want to end up like any of these guys? No.
Because most never saw life in game beyond the lay count.
Their mentality is sleep with a woman, get the lay, and then try to approach more women and get more lays. I have known guys who do this and even a decade after doing it, they are still the same guys spam approaching women for a number. Then, I started to noticed diversion in guys who seem quite fulfilled with game.
These guys not only have a great rotation going but they can get a number of women and their friends to go to an event with them. Girls are okay with being unattached to the guy but love that he has access to cool events and parties that they can bring their friends to. A few of them even hook up with a girl's friend(s) that find the guy attractive. It's like an entirely new world and maybe my boy @Solomon can comment a bit on this and give his take.
New doors open that never opened before.
This past weekend, we had Ultra in Miami, a huge music festival. I didn't want to go but my wing who I am close friends with convinced me. My wing manages to invite a few girls out to come with him and he had a club promoter friend who did as well. We go and get right into VIP because he was close with one of the guys DJing at Ultra.
I've gone to music festivals before and they sucked for me. You were drinking, in a sweaty crowd, and girls were snobby to most men around them. This time around, it was a different area for me and a different experience. I talked to a few hot girls that were there and whenever I went to get water, I saw girls who were not in VIP staring at our tent and trying to talk to security to see how they can get in.
Later on, my wing and I connected and I asked him how he pulled it off. He told me that if you can get attractive women to come with you to cool events and introduce them to people like DJs and club promoters, they will usually look out for you but it takes some work.
I have seen this play out in the past and it gives a different experience. Getting VIP at a nightclub or getting into cool exclusive events because you happen to know a lot of hot girls. You get to a point where most of the Red Pill and bitter nonsense, you can't even relate to. It is a whole new experience as a guy that I am starting to get more and more used to in the past couple of years.
Why most PUAs end up broken and not fulfilled with game.
I think that deep down, just getting numbers and a lay are not enough. Most PUA types were losers in their adolescence and even if they get laid as adults, they are still losers. They might get a number but they couldn't get into a popular nightclub because bouncers and others know the kinds of guys they are. Meanwhile, the guys who are more fulfilled with game fix that misfit type of past and are now the kinds of men who can show up to an event with beautiful women by their arms and have other guys simping for their attention.
They get VIP at a club or some exclusive event.
One of my wings had an old high school classmate shout his name at a club and beg him to let her into VIP (she was drunk and the bouncer said no).
Maybe I am wrong and off target here.
I am still discovering this new approach to game and learning about it but so far, I feel like all of the guys I knew who got into game and went into this path are happier in life and with game itself. Meanwhile, the guys I know who are still doing spammy cold approaches and trying to chase notch counts are the same misfits that at best, might occasionally earn a lay.
Give your take
@Solomon
@SW15
@LucianoM
@Scars
@Bible_Belt
Along with lots of others I forgot.
"I've known guys who have been running "game" for years but if I ask them to bring girls to my parties, they couldn't do it, what does that tell you?"
It hit me that as guys who get into game or anyone that observes "PUA", the goal seems way too short-sighted. Cold approach women (hit em with the same spammy pickup lines), get number, go for the lay, and then brag about your lay count. Afterwards, forget her and keep adding to your lay count. Then I see how so many PUAs end up as broken dudes who either marry ugly women or become some weird fanatic in politics or religion. Would I want to end up like any of these guys? No.
Because most never saw life in game beyond the lay count.
Their mentality is sleep with a woman, get the lay, and then try to approach more women and get more lays. I have known guys who do this and even a decade after doing it, they are still the same guys spam approaching women for a number. Then, I started to noticed diversion in guys who seem quite fulfilled with game.
These guys not only have a great rotation going but they can get a number of women and their friends to go to an event with them. Girls are okay with being unattached to the guy but love that he has access to cool events and parties that they can bring their friends to. A few of them even hook up with a girl's friend(s) that find the guy attractive. It's like an entirely new world and maybe my boy @Solomon can comment a bit on this and give his take.
New doors open that never opened before.
This past weekend, we had Ultra in Miami, a huge music festival. I didn't want to go but my wing who I am close friends with convinced me. My wing manages to invite a few girls out to come with him and he had a club promoter friend who did as well. We go and get right into VIP because he was close with one of the guys DJing at Ultra.
I've gone to music festivals before and they sucked for me. You were drinking, in a sweaty crowd, and girls were snobby to most men around them. This time around, it was a different area for me and a different experience. I talked to a few hot girls that were there and whenever I went to get water, I saw girls who were not in VIP staring at our tent and trying to talk to security to see how they can get in.
Later on, my wing and I connected and I asked him how he pulled it off. He told me that if you can get attractive women to come with you to cool events and introduce them to people like DJs and club promoters, they will usually look out for you but it takes some work.
I have seen this play out in the past and it gives a different experience. Getting VIP at a nightclub or getting into cool exclusive events because you happen to know a lot of hot girls. You get to a point where most of the Red Pill and bitter nonsense, you can't even relate to. It is a whole new experience as a guy that I am starting to get more and more used to in the past couple of years.
Why most PUAs end up broken and not fulfilled with game.
I think that deep down, just getting numbers and a lay are not enough. Most PUA types were losers in their adolescence and even if they get laid as adults, they are still losers. They might get a number but they couldn't get into a popular nightclub because bouncers and others know the kinds of guys they are. Meanwhile, the guys who are more fulfilled with game fix that misfit type of past and are now the kinds of men who can show up to an event with beautiful women by their arms and have other guys simping for their attention.
They get VIP at a club or some exclusive event.
One of my wings had an old high school classmate shout his name at a club and beg him to let her into VIP (she was drunk and the bouncer said no).
Maybe I am wrong and off target here.
I am still discovering this new approach to game and learning about it but so far, I feel like all of the guys I knew who got into game and went into this path are happier in life and with game itself. Meanwhile, the guys I know who are still doing spammy cold approaches and trying to chase notch counts are the same misfits that at best, might occasionally earn a lay.
Give your take
@Solomon
@SW15
@LucianoM
@Scars
@Bible_Belt
Along with lots of others I forgot.