Mirroring Her Text Reply Time?

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Some girls are just busy... Imagine she takes 30 minutes to reply and you 5 minutes every single time.

People are busy at times
So she doesnt reply cause she is busy then she gets free 10 minutes later and check her phone but no message arrived cause you're waiting 30minutes+50% to reply?

I'm not saying it to make fun of you, it's just that its counterproductive if you're trying to schedule a same day meeting where enough planning is needed.

Anyway in 2023 no girl leaves her phone unattended for more than 5 minutes, not even if Jesus is here for the second coming and is throwing gold coins from the sky.
 

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Typically how quickly do you guys respond back to a girl when texting.

I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..
When I have free time. I usually don't really care in regards to text time and most of the time it is me taking longer to respond because I am working and focused on what I am doing and my phone is set to silent so it doesn't interrupt my focus.

Sometimes it will be several hours, sometimes 5 minutes, sometimes 30 minutes, etc...

I am of the opinion if you need to play silly games to show you "aren't" something, then you probably are what you are trying to show you aren't and it's only a matter of time until you are found out.
 

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So she doesnt reply cause she is busy then she gets free 10 minutes later and check her phone but no message arrived cause you're waiting 30minutes+50% to reply?

I'm not saying it to make fun of you, it's just that its counterproductive if you're trying to schedule a same day meeting where enough planning is needed.

Anyway in 2023 no girl leaves her phone unattended for more than 5 minutes, not even if Jesus is here for the second coming and is throwing gold coins from the sky.
Have you seen how many notifications they get? (apps, ads, texts, etc) it's crazy, most girls don't keep their phone organized, it's a complete mess.
Sometimes they take time to reply because they have to go through all the notifications to find your text.

But a girl who is truly interested, no matter how many notifications she has will reply quickly unless she is busy, at work for example.
 

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Have you seen how many notifications they get? (apps, ads, texts, etc) it's crazy, most girls don't keep their phone organized, it's a complete mess.
Sometimes they take time to reply because they have to go through all the notifications to find your text.

But a girl who is truly interested, no matter how many notifications she has will reply quickly unless she is busy, at work for example.
Has to be a coincidence that girls attracted from me always replied fast right after seeing the message or simply wrote me that they cant text now but will do asap.

I'm too old and experienced for the bs and surely have no problem to call them out and act accordingly.

All these problems we talk about in this thread or others simply disappear once you apply a no bs policy.
 

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Has to be a coincidence that girls attracted from me always replied fast right after seeing the message or simply wrote me that they cant text now but will do asap.

I'm too old and experienced for the bs and surely have no problem to call them out and act accordingly.

All these problems we talk about in this thread or others simply disappear once you apply a no bs policy.

Do really think it's a wise idea to call a girl out for not texting back within a reasonable time?
 

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Yes I do and I do anytime something they do pisses me off, it's one of the privileges you have when you are the one who cares the less.

I'm polite and friendly but I make myself clear.
Some would interpret that as showing you are needy.. However personally I don't.

If a girl is wanting a relationship with me, then she has certain expectations off me.

01. If a burglar breaks into the house, I have to get out of bed, and risk my life tackling him.

02. If she wants to go on holiday or live in a nice house, it will be me who provides the resources so she can live a comfortable life.

Yet it takes you 1 hour to reply back to a text message?

Also you have to look at things this way. Sometimes in an urgent/emergency type situation you need a person close to you, to be able to read your message and respond back within a reasonable timeframe.

So I don't see the harm in calling a girl out for taking too long to respond. However I don't think I would do it personally myself, as some girls will use this as a weapon tool against you when they are mad.
 

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I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..
Lame. I always reply as soon as I see a text message. Mostly because I will forget.

The trick is this: Men, when you genuinely don’t give a fvck about texting it sends an even stronger message. I don’t text anyone for anything other than relaying a specific piece of information. Talking should be in person or over a phone call (calls are only if in-person is not currently feasible).
 

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I tend to mirror her response time.
This has been the long time recommended approach in texting. It is best to mirror her reply times + add in some more time. Roosh was advocating this tactic in "Bang" over a decade ago.

If she replies in 75 minutes, you reply to her reply in 90-100 minutes minimum depending on how busy you are.

I don’t like texting. It’s a girl thing. I have **** to do in my life, so I text at a minimum other than to meet up.
I don't like texting either. I've had to do more of it as time has gone on.

I had a phase in the early 2010s when I was dealing with mid and late 1980s born Millennial women who were terrible at picking up phones, so I had to incorporate more texting into game, which I did not like at all.

I prefer to do more on the phone.

I think texting is passable for basic information and good in noisy environments. If there's any sort of complexity in communication, using text messages to arrange a time for a phone conversation is useful. This is true at any stage of an interaction.

If I'm left on read with no reply, I surely dont double text and unless she writes the convo is dead to me.
The general rule is not to double text.

Double texting is tricky, especially in the early stages of an interaction.

Always best to slow the pace of texting and make sure you've said everything you need to say prior to hitting send.

It's possible that you have more leeway with double texts once you've gotten into a committed relationship, but is to be used infrequently.

I believe it is best to do more with phone calls than texts. Some women are bad at using phones for voice communication. This has become more of an issue with the 2nd half of Millennial women and Gen Z women, but there are late 30s/early 40s year old Millennial women out there now who are bad with phone calls, something that annoys me because the women born in the mid-1980s or earlier did reach adulthood before smartphones.
 

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This has been the long time recommended approach in texting. It is best to mirror her reply times + add in some more time. Roosh was advocating this tactic in "Bang" over a decade ago.

If she replies in 75 minutes, you reply to her reply in 90-100 minutes minimum depending on how busy you are.



I don't like texting either. I've had to do more of it as time has gone on.

I had a phase in the early 2010s when I was dealing with mid and late 1980s born Millennial women who were terrible at picking up phones, so I had to incorporate more texting into game, which I did not like at all.

I prefer to do more on the phone.

I think texting is passable for basic information and good in noisy environments. If there's any sort of complexity in communication, using text messages to arrange a time for a phone conversation is useful. This is true at any stage of an interaction.



The general rule is not to double text.

Double texting is tricky, especially in the early stages of an interaction.

Always best to slow the pace of texting and make sure you've said everything you need to say prior to hitting send.

It's possible that you have more leeway with double texts once you've gotten into a committed relationship, but is to be used infrequently.

I believe it is best to do more with phone calls than texts. Some women are bad at using phones for voice communication. This has become more of an issue with the 2nd half of Millennial women and Gen Z women, but there are late 30s/early 40s year old Millennial women out there now who are bad with phone calls, something that annoys me because the women born in the mid-1980s or earlier did reach adulthood before smartphones.
I agree with most of what you are saying...

However immediately mirroring her response times, over a period of time she will realise you are playing games... It's more likely that instead making a bigger effort to respond back sooner, she will in-fact play you at the same game.

Chicks are not stupid when it comes to texting.. Especially if she your LTR.. She will have a rough idea of what your daily routine is, so mirroring her exactly or adding extra time on, will become obvious a game soon enough.

I think it would be better to mirror her randomly.

Example.. If she takes 1 hour to reply back, then you respond back in 20 minutes... However maybe the following day, or the day after when she messages you, take two hours to reply back to her.

If it's done randomly it's less likely to look like a game...

Or there is another alternative.. Just call the Bvch out if you are actually in the LTR or later part of the dating phase?

I mean what's wrong with simply letting a girl know, that clear and effective communication is a must...

What if you had a an emergency, and you had to contact your girl, and her response time was two hours.

That being said... The danger of calmly calling her out and telling her to do better with communication is... She may begin to use that against you at some point.
 

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I have turned off all notifications on my phone except for calls. I check messages 3-5 times a day. When I see a message and it requires a reply, I do it right when I see it. No games. No mirroring. That's what I do. Don't care what anyone thinks about my texting game.
 

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Typically how quickly do you guys respond back to a girl when texting.

I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..
To be honest, im to busy focusing on myself and my goals to give much thought to such a question. I think it is a beata mentality to have such thoughts.

Women do follow petty rules about waiting so long to reply.

I am aware that i am likely decreasing my chances with women by "dgaf"

I know corey wayne will say if she waits 6 hours...you wait 6..so yeah.
 

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Typically how quickly do you guys respond back to a girl when texting.

I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..
I m new to all this but I have one experience in this matter..

I decided I will only see and reply her and any other chick's text only at specific times like in my 15 min break after each 3 hours of study/work..
after a few days, she asked me why I always text in those times only and I told her honestly..she was genuinely impressed by my discipline..
from the next day she only texted me in my 15 min breaks and I replied within minutes..she adjusted her routine so that I can follow my routine..I m very proud of that small achievement...

mirroring her time and +- 50% is very immature and requires calculating and analyzing..its pathetic..

be actually busy than pretending to be busy..
 

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Be unpredictable. Sometimes text back in 30 seconds back and forth. Then take 2 hours then when it’s late, text back next afternoon then 2 minutes then again 3 hours.
 

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Talking should be in person or over a phone call (calls are only if in-person is not currently feasible).
Agree. Men need to avoid both calling and texting as much as possible.
 

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Agree. Men need to avoid both calling and texting as much as possible.
I normally dont text much. "Texting kills attraction" right. And posters have said "once you have date setup, no reason to interact with her"

Last couple months i have noticed posters writing " come on dude......you have to interact with her, at least a video call to make her feel comfortable" or "chicks need a bit texting or call interaction to feel comfortable with you....because if you're mr icecold...they will simply forget about you and move to next 5 guys on her list"

Me personally idgaf the last few weeks i have been texting chicks more just because i feel like it and because ive been reading a bit of corey wayne and he said "chicks wanna feel comfortable and want to smile"

By the way....your posts on this forum are very insightful. Thanks.
 

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This^! True for both genders.

I recall a conversation I had with a man several years ago complaining about a girl mirroring HIS response times.

Even mentioned to his brother after he texted her "just wait, she's going to wait exactly 1.5 hours and 15 seconds lol (how long it took him to respond to her) to reply."

And low and behold, 1.5 hours later, she replied. He was laughing but I knew he thought it was silly game playing.

I hate mirroring, it's so obvious.

I agree with others who said text whenever the hell you want and don't worry about appearing over-eager or whatever.

You can reply immediately sometimes or wait sometimes. Leave her guessing about when, don't be predictable.

Predictably is the kiss of death.

A confident self-assured person does not concern themselves with such things.

It looks weak no matter which gender does it.

All this is true... However imagine a scenario where she takes 1 hour to reply and you reply pretty much immediately every time... This will make you look pathetic.

The idea is not to mirror in a predictable manner.

She takes an hour to reply back, well you reply back within 10 minutes. However the following day or the day after, you take an hour to reply back.

It has to be random.

Anyone ever considered calling a girl out for taking too long to reply? I'm talking about a LTR situation
 
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