There's a reason you have your current girlfriend. Keep it that way. Pretend your ex never existed. Everything will be better by doing that.
Congratulations. You are selecting against quality and selecting for the trash. No wonder some of you don’t think quality women exist. You’ve screened them out already. Great news for a solid man who knows quality when he sees it.
I think you and I had the same reaction but expressed in a bit different ways.
All women (unless they are insecure af) rather share a high value male than be saddled with a looser. And given the limited number of high value males, women have no choice but to share the high value males. All your ancestors have done it, and all your descendents will do it. It's just the human nature.
Truly high value women will NOT share. They will be alone first. And let’s face it….they are never alone….
Meaning they can require loyalty and have that met.
There's a saying in the Manosphere that women would rather share an alpha than have a loyal beta all to themselves.
There's a chance that
@BeExcellent can be correct here. The argument she makes is that truly high value women won't share a man and that they'll be high value enough to get an alpha. That argument makes sense, but the big unknown is longevity. Can a high value woman retain an alpha male longer term? It's possible, and it also depends on the definition of longer term. 2-5 year relationship? Without a doubt. Long enough to raise at least one child to 18 years old without separating, usually meaning a 20-25 year long relationship? That's debatable. Even in 20-25 year long marriages that last, higher value alpha males might take on at least one mistress, usually after the main "high value" woman turns 40 and her looks start to fade. Some older women will tolerate that, some will not.
I sense a truly high value woman is similarly rare to the 35-45 year old male who experiences the bounty of that theoretical peak SMV. At theoretical peak SMV, the typical 35-45 year old male is a pusssy beggar for mediocre to subpar women close to his own age on swipe apps, and sometimes these similarly aged women are single moms.
Some women do elect solitude and owning multiple cats over the dating options she has, typically after age 40.
Rollo Tomassi has made the point that women often confuse personal value with dating market place value. I agree with this. As I observe it, this tends to become a problem for women with bachelor's degrees or higher who are 5+ years post bachelor's degree graduation. The typical onset of this is age 27-28, and some of these 27-28+ women also have advanced degrees. There are plenty of professional women with great career achievements who have difficulty having meaningful and longer lasting relationships. This is because men are not often attracted to a woman's work achievements. Men are attracted to physical appearances and attitudes primarily. It's true there are some blue pilled males that will get excited about dating a dentist, accountant, or lawyer and think it is so awesome that they are dating an achieving, ambitious woman who presents and expresses herself well. This is less common. Looks + attitude are far more important. Additionally, professional women devote a lot of time to their workplaces and not to their romantic relationships, which frustrates prospective men and is a part of how a man evaluates her attitude.
Men would rather have a lower earning woman with more time available for him as compared to a career woman with more income but less available time IF that's the only variable being evaluated. Looks would factor into this as well. The career woman would need to have a substantial looks advantage to retain a man as compared to the lower earning woman.
