Picking up girls in bookstores

[PigAdlemPimp]

I love to sarge in all types of shops, bookshops are one of my favourites, as there are so many HB7-10's in these places, I suggest you pick a target, smile at her, use strong eye contact, then immediately approach her and talk, if it doesn't work the first time, keep on doing it, and you will eventually find a HB to fvck. :yes:

 

[cyp6]

bookstores: what are looking for? coffee shop: whats the best thing to get here? Mag rack: oh woh check this out (pic out a intersting mag)

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

thanks for the advice francisco. i really appreciate that. wow, u really went into detail, i didn't know all that would play huge a role in a good conversation. i got to keep that in heart so i won't forget. that advice is gold.

The best way to remember these things is to forget about worrying about the outcome of walking away with any type of close, focus on the moment and your surrounding, there's a ton of things to talk about if you take a closer look.

Consider your goal to be approaching and having a good conversation, not too many people will turn that away. If they do, is this actually the type of person you would want to get to know? Yeah, she may look great but if she has a crappy attitude is it really worth your time and effort?

Also, don't you think that you would be able to sarge more confidently with women who are as open and engaging as you? It does make things a heck of a lot easier.

 

[Bible_Belt]

forget about worrying about the outcome

Absolutely, focus on the process and having fun with it. If you enjoy talking to strangers, you'll do it more, making you then get better at it.

No salesperson has 100% success in closing every sale, but the good ones know that rejection is an inherent part of the numbers game. When you get shot down, laugh it off and try again. Every failure is one step closer to success.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

forget about worrying about the outcome

Absolutely, focus on the process and having fun with it. If you enjoy talking to strangers, you'll do it more, making you then get better at it...

Absolutely! Definitely have fun being outgoing and engaging. Even try making it a game of stepping outside of your comfort zone, just put yourself out there for your own benefit. With practice you may even make it part of your personality and it will become as natural to you as walking. But like Bible_Belt said, have fun with it!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I've learned that the confident PUA is not necessarily more or less successful with women...rather, he has a sunny perception of things and thus is not devasted (Like I used to be and still am sometimes) when rejected.

Perception is everything. Contrary to popular belief, the life you live is not based on the experiences that you have, it's based on how you perceive those experiences.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Ha ha! You've been very deep lately, F d' A; spoken like a true Emersonian!

It just takes a little time for the meds to kick in...

 

[akindofblue]

You know, when it comes to intros to strangers, I'm becoming more and more of a fan of a fully honest approach. I think it's more novel and sincere than the trite line, anyway.

Eye contact. Smile. Approach. "I'm sorry, but you're really cute [shift head-half-smile], and I had to say hi. I'm Blue. And you're?"

Get her name, maybe comment on it. Maybe not. Pleasentries.

"So let's see, what are we looking at today..."

If she's not sure, a "Oh, come on! How are we going to find anything if you we don't know what we're looking for!" [smile]

All the while, just exchange info, ask her questions about what she does, that sort of thing. Just don't give her time to think. You probably made her blush a bit with the initial comment, and if you're friendly enough and don't let things get awkward, you should be fine.

Just kind of take over the conversation and go from there. It's no big deal, and make sure you just don't act like it is, either.

 

[greenlake]

heh, things didn't turn out how i wanted it yesterday. yup, no bookstore. we went to a party instead. wasn't ready and was a total afc.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

heh, things didn't turn out how i wanted it yesterday. yup, no bookstore. we went to a party instead. wasn't ready and was a total afc.

This is why understanding your environment is also important, it can completely throw off your game. Parties aren't the easiest places to start off sarging. Ease into sarging at parties after you become confident in other venues.

 

[greenlake]

yea, u're right. i felt arkward at the party. i seem to like quiet, and bright places more. partie is just plain screaming and dancing. and i don't have the urge to do that any of those yet. worse of all, i don't even know which one have a bf and which doesn't.

 

[~attrACTION~]

Grab a "Dating For Dummies" or "Idiot's Guide to Dating". Walk over to an HB. Hold up the book to the "bad pickup lines" page. Read straight from the book:

you: Hi, what's your sign?
hb: ha um..
you: No? hmmm....
you: Oh! .. Hi, do you come here often?
hb: ...
you: just ****in around ha =)
you: my name's GGTW what's yours?

Try it.. you might be suprised. This is my default opener for book store game.

GGTW

Hey, that sounds funny, I'm going to try that next time I'm at B&N.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Hey, that sounds funny, I'm going to try that next time I'm at B&N.

Just a suggestion, don't use it on a woman that's reading a self help book.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

yea, u're right. i felt arkward at the party. i seem to like quiet, and bright places more. partie is just plain screaming and dancing. and i don't have the urge to do that any of those yet. worse of all, i don't even know which one have a bf and which doesn't.

Here's a suggestion for you, find some places where you feel comfortable then look around. See the women around you? Look at them, approach them, talk to them. They will probably have more in common with you than you realize.

 

[Cod3r]

Grab a "Dating For Dummies" or "Idiot's Guide to Dating". Walk over to an HB. Hold up the book to the "bad pickup lines" page. Read straight from the book:

you: Hi, what's your sign?
hb: ha um..
you: No? hmmm....
you: Oh! .. Hi, do you come here often?
hb: ...
you: just ****in around ha =)
you: my name's GGTW what's yours?

Try it.. you might be suprised. This is my default opener for book store game.

GGTW

I actually like and approve of this. Very interesting, also funny


-Cod3r

 

[Delta]

it sounds good... but gimmicky...

you can't really do this more than once can you? otherwise, you become "the guy with the dating for dummies book".

delta

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

it sounds good... but gimmicky...

you can't really do this more than once can you? otherwise, you become "the guy with the dating for dummies book".

delta

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

I can see it on an episode of Cops. "Yeah officer he's in the back. He comes here a couple of times a week and grabs the Dating for Dummies book and verbally attacks women asking about pickup lines." There's a foot chase up the escalator and through the food court until he's gang tackled buy a gang of hairy lipped feminazis coming out of the Birkenstock store.

:trouble: "Bad boys, bad boys; what'cha gonna do......" :trouble:

 

[SW15]

This thread is due for an update. No one has posted on it since 2006.

I'm interested if any of the current generation of posters has experience in approaching in bookstores.

I have done bookstore approaches in my life. Since I am someone interested in reading and writing, I like bookstores. I have always felt like bookstores would be a good fit for me for pickup.

My real life experience in bookstores has been disappointing. During the past decade, I have tried to do approaches in 2 Barnes & Noble locations and one location of a smaller regional chain of bookstores.

I have rarely seen approachable women in either Barnes & Noble or the regional chain. I've done more approaches in the regional chain store than B&N, in part because I've spent more time there.

This past weekend, I did my first approach session at the regional chain bookstore location. I had not done any bookstore approaches since before the pandemic. Immediately after walking in, I saw the most attractive woman I ever saw inside of a bookstore. I did approach her, based upon a notable and unusual hat that she was wearing. It did spark a conversation of about 90 seconds and she mentioned a boyfriend in one of my questions to her. I didn't ask her out and get the IHAB, the boyfriend was mentioned prior to the ask out. The ask out didn't happen and I did not use a boyfriend destroyer line in that situation. The context in which it was mentioned seemed like an actual boyfriend. It's possible I could have pushed harder on that, but didn't.

What have your experiences been like with bookstore approaching?

 

[Lifeman]

This thread is due for an update. No one has posted on it since 2006.

I'm interested if any of the current generation of posters has experience in approaching in bookstores.

I have done bookstore approaches in my life. Since I am someone interested in reading and writing, I like bookstores. I have always felt like bookstores would be a good fit for me for pickup.

My real life experience in bookstores has been disappointing. During the past decade, I have tried to do approaches in 2 Barnes & Noble locations and one location of a smaller regional chain of bookstores.

I have rarely seen approachable women in either Barnes & Noble or the regional chain. I've done more approaches in the regional chain store than B&N, in part because I've spent more time there.

This past weekend, I did my first approach session at the regional chain bookstore location. I had not done any bookstore approaches since before the pandemic. Immediately after walking in, I saw the most attractive woman I ever saw inside of a bookstore. I did approach her, based upon a notable and unusual hat that she was wearing. It did spark a conversation of about 90 seconds and she mentioned a boyfriend in one of my questions to her. I didn't ask her out and get the IHAB, the boyfriend was mentioned prior to the ask out. The ask out didn't happen and I did not use a boyfriend destroyer line in that situation. The context in which it was mentioned seemed like an actual boyfriend. It's possible I could have pushed harder on that, but didn't.

What have your experiences been like with bookstore approaching?

Been approaching in Barnes and Noble, I have had some decent experiences but overall quite disappointing. The quality and quantity of approaches has depended on the city I am in.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

hi guys,

has any of you here tried to pick up girls in bookstores, let's say Barnes & Noble or Borders? I go to Barnes & Noble once a week every week, i like to hang out there, look at books, get a cup of tea or something and i have noticed there are many good looking girls there, either just looking at books or hanging out in one of those big love chairs and reading. Just once, so far, I attempted to talk to a girl there, she was looking at books so i said something dumb like 'So you like reading books?' to which she replied 'yeah' and looked at me like i was weird.

but anyway, i am having a hard time coming up with things to say to girls there. Any advice?

Comment something like "Oh...don't tell me you are one of THOSE women!" as you take a look at what book she is looking at or what section she is in, and then have something silly to say about women who like that type of stuff, like "I know someone who likes that kind of stuff...she has 10 cats and talks to her plants"