SW15
Master Don Juan
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With age, I've become increasingly straightforward with women. I call their bs all the time at workplace. I've now reached a point where if I were to go out with a nice girl, I might just say "Look, I'm not going to go through the traditional dating ritual. I like you and want to take you to my place and ****. Just say no if you don't want to do that, and we save a lot of time." Yeah...that's not going to go well, and since that's about the most effort I'm able to put into dating games at this age, I've figured I should just give up?
I agree with @pipeman84 that the vibe is the primary problem. It's quite difficult to get straight to sex without dealing with some of the bullshiit of the human mating rituals established by cultural norms.That's the crux of the problem. It's your vibe, not your looks (bald...ridiculous suggestion, you go tell Jason Statham that baldness is a hindrance to getting women) or height (5ft9). Your current vibe is only suited, as you yourself suspected, for escorts. Trying to go to pubs, cafes or some other places you don't go just to meet women won't work...beside your current vibe that already repels them, you'll have the extra 'WTF am I doing here, wish I was somewhere else' subtle look on you.
It is possible to build it and not get attention. It is getting more and more difficult for men to get attention. At the gyms, most women are wearing earbuds on the general gym floor and it's difficult to approach women wearing earbuds. The earbud problem is even worse if you're trying to do approaches on walking paths. Parks can also have the earbud problem. Grocery stores and malls have less of an earbud problem but even getting women's attention for a conversation of longer than 1 minute in those venues can be a challenge. Getting attention on swipe apps is also difficult with ratios.
I think a lot of men have problems in getting attention, no matter whether they use tech-assisted methods or in-person approaching.
High IQ is one of the worst traits for getting laid. Look at all of the STEM guys who are incels. In the US, there are tons of academically gifted men who can't get laid.I'm betting that you have an IQ over 140. The logical analytical types aren't typically seductive traits to women. When I experience dry spell, I down a few drinks (I'd swear that it temporary lowers the IQ by at least 20 points). As a result, I find that getting laid is much *much* easier.
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