To text a girl after a first date or not

[Striker_93]

Maybe you're just a naturally good looking guy who has crap game (playing devils advocate here, not insulting), and never been punished for it. Remember girls will give way more slack to guys who are attractive when it comes to bad game. It doesn't sound like you've been through the fire of rejection in cold approach to me. What don't you get about why guys are trying to develop rules and schemes. Do you think they're doing this for fun? No, they're resorting to it, because they're not getting any positive results.

As I've mentioned on here before, yes I am part of the "handsome" gang.

And it doesn't matter what it sounds like to you, you don't know what my experiences have been, we're on the internet bruh, agree to disagree I guess

 

[Striker_93]

If the “rules” get results, so be it.

You are like the guy mocking the top earning salesman for using a script.

You proving my point fool, if I'm getting results who gives a sh!t, which was my original point to you about texting. Facepalm

 

[DonJuanjr]

And it doesn't matter what it sounds like to you, you don't know what my experiences have been, we're on the internet bruh, agree to disagree I guess

Fair point. I was just trying to show you why guys are resorting to rules and schemes.

 

[Striker_93]

but if you reached out first at some point and it didn't lead to a second date... you were dealing with a low interest woman. It had nothing to do with who contacted who first.

This

Attraction/interest level over Everything else

 

[Black Widow Void]

Not all women know to do this.

I have actually had a first date with a few. In fact I blame myself for bad judgment on this one. But I don’t make the same mistake twice… by seeing these types again.

In fact, most or many women have been conditioned to expect the man to reach out first, especially after first time sex.

I actually agree with you here. However, the op is talking about a “first date” not first sex.

For me, when a man pays and I'm interested and attracted and want to see him again, I have every intention of reaching out next day however what typically happens is he will text me first after I get home or early next day before I have a chance to .

The “call or text to let me know that you made it home okay” is still an extension of the first date. The OP is referring to the day after the date.

With men I have no interest in, I will offer to pay and no text next day.

If you really want to make a great impression on someone you *do* want to see you again…. Offer to buy a round of drinks, or dessert etc…. Very few women do this, in my experience it’s usually 10% or less. But these women actually stand out, in a good way because of their thoughtfulness.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You proving my point fool, if I'm getting results who gives a sh!t, which was my original point to you about texting. Facepalm

I doubt the longevity of your rotation.

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Attraction/interest level over Everything else

Interest level is not static. Hope the rest of the men in here burn this fact into their brain.

We don’t get credit for how she felt yesterday if she doesn’t feel good in the current moment.

 

[Striker_93]

I doubt the longevity of your rotation.



Interest level is not static. Hope the rest of the men in here burn this fact into their brain.

We don’t get credit for how she felt yesterday if she doesn’t feel good in the current moment.

Why do you care so much

Be yourself lil bruh

This ain't your natural self, you didn't start acting like this until you started following red pill sh!t lol

 

[EyeBRollin]

Why do you care so much

Be yourself lil bruh

This ain't your natural self, you didn't start acting like this until you started following red pill sh!t lol

Waiting 5-9 days after a date has nothing to do with “natural self.”

 

[Striker_93]

Waiting 5-9 days after a date has nothing to do with “natural self.”

If you didn't get what I'm saying then oh well.

I hope you learn to be yourself and stop following some sh!t you learned from internet forums and YouTube videos, your too old for that, don't forget, before all this red pill knowledge you gained, you was a blue pill guy lol nothing like your what your portraying now, humble yourself.

 

[EyeBRollin]

If you didn't get what I'm saying then oh well.

I hope you learn to be yourself and stop following some sh!t you learned from internet forums and YouTube videos, your too old for that, don't forget, before all this red pill knowledge you gained, you was a blue pill guy lol nothing like your what your portraying now, humble yourself.

What you are saying makes no sense.

“Before you learned how to make money you were broke! Remember that and humble yourself!”

 

[Striker_93]

What you are saying makes no sense.

“Before you learned how to make money you were broke! Remember that and humble yourself!”

Are you stupid ?

That does make sense.....

Based on your example,, it means you need to humble yourself and stop acting like your some big shot just because you learned how to make money because before that you was broke and struggling. Humble yourself.

It's very common to tell people who seemed to forgot where they came from to humble themselves.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It's very common to tell people who seemed to forgot where they came from to humble themselves.

And it’s just as common for them to respond with a middle finger. Their bank account is what it is.

 

[Striker_93]

And it’s just as common for them to respond with a middle finger. Their bank account is what it is.

That's OK as well.....

Just remember how you use to be before you became the guy on sosuave.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Just remember how you use to be before you became the guy on sosuave.

The world does not care. Women certainly do not. Can I produce the results today?

 

[Striker_93]

The world does not care. Women certainly do not. Can I produce the results today?

I'm proud of your progress lil bruh, as long as your seeing results today, you came a looooong way from how you use to be.

 

[Konada]

"Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime."

The former is what you're doing when you feed him what to do and say like wait 5-9 days to call after a date or following other such 'rules'.

He's not learning a damn thing because everything is being fed to him.

Rather, TEACH him to fish meaning teach him to trust himself, have that confidence, stand tall, be proud, and he will carry that for a lifetime.

And no matter what he does, or doesn't do, it will always be the 'right' thing cause he's being true to himself and his own frame which is the most important thing.

And any woman worth anything will sense that and she will admire and respect him for it..

Not sure why some of you guys fight this, it's actually what good sales people are taught also.

Understand your audience and have the confidence knowing that however you present yourself and what you're selling, it will render you the best possible results, always.

Even if the outcome wasn't what you originally hoped for.

Except you don't tell a beginner salesman to do whatever the hell he wants because he is still thirsty to close a sale. Rules/scripts are like training wheels to get started, a dude with little to no success will 99% of the time kill his own chances by overtexting instead of exercising self-restraint, which is why the "don't text after a date" rule is there.

If someone is asking such a basic question, I'm certain he hasn't internalized his confidence yet.

Tell a beginner he can do whatever the hell he wants and you will end up with something like this:

Beginner: Heyyyy I totally enjoyed our time today Hope you did too! I would love to see you again, when are you free?

vs

Seasoned veteran: Hey xxx, I enjoyed our time today. It was nice getting to know you

A beginner salesman needs to follow a script
A performing salesman also follows a script, albeit effective one
A top salesman follows what works for him, throws out the rest and keeps his ears open to adjust when necessary

 

[derby1]

If you paid (and we usually do) then it’s her job to reach out later to say “I had a good evening” or at the least “thank you.”

I stand by this.

After pursuing (which is a landmine in itself)
Arranging logistics
Most likely picking up 80% of the tab.
Society wants me to message her the day after aswell? whilst she sits eating Oreos watching reality TV?

she can get some god damn courtesy and her mediocre ass can message me.

 

[spred]

All the women I took on dates thanked me either at the end or by message same evening. Most of them payed part of the expenses even.
Respect is given by default, in your case OP you have a clear message. If she doesn’t thank for small things, she will never respect you for the bigger things.

 

[Dr.Suave]

If u already had sex with her I dont think it matters much. If u havent had sex with her I would wait about 3 days to text her. It has worked for me.

As for the girl who ghosted, no sense in worrying about it because there could be a million different reasons. Next

 

[EyeBRollin]

You guys are way too afraid to lose women.

An interested gal does not forget you in a week.